Author: yachnaa

  • My Beauty Uniform: Brianna Tosswill

    My Beauty Uniform: Brianna Tosswill

    My Beauty Cocktail: Brianna Tosswill

    Brianna Tosswill, a Linocut artist, and a blogger is a force! She is the creator and founder of Penrose Press– a book arts practice whose “mandate is to present storytelling in beautiful, physical detail, and to amplify marginalized voices and perspectives.” Here, Brianna shares self-care rituals that keep her grounded, and her ultimate advice for those aspiring to be their own boss. 

    First, what is a Linocut?

    I’ve had lots of practice with this question this summer as I introduce people to my practice at the 124 Grand Market. It’s harder without a visual, tangible aid, but here goes. A linocut is a print created by carving linoleum (like the flooring material) and transferring ink off of the surface. Whatever I carve away is the area that doesn’t catch or transfer ink. It’s important to remember that every colour requires a separate impression and that the whole image will print backwards, so text (for example) needs to be flipped before I start. There is a ton more explanation of the nuances of the medium on Nerd Time with Brianna!

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    What inspired you to start your blog, ‘Nerd Time with Brianna’?

    I’m a bit embarrassed to say that I think the blog came from a place of insecurity. The first post (it doesn’t exist in its original state but has been cannibalized for Linocut 101) was in response to the many questions that I received from people along the lines of “why are these books so expensive?” HA! Especially funny because my first book project was gorgeous, sold out in 2 days, and if I were selling it today, would have been priced at more than 3 times what it went for then. So, the first blog post was like: This is a children’s paperback that costs $30. It costs that much because there are 16 original, multi-layer linocut reduction illustrations in it; the cover is printed in linocut and lead type with gold embossing powder, and every copy is hand bound. 

    These days I’m less defensive towards prospective collectors who push back on cost. I know that my work is affordable, and not for everyone. I’m able to speak about the aspects of the work that excite me instead of feeling like I need to justify my labour! 

    How did you come up with the name for it?

    The blog is called Nerd Time with Brianna because – a) I am a huge nerd about art and printmaking and, b) I’m very informal and conversational. 

    I push back on the “professionalism” that expects artists to be known primarily by their family name. 

    The blog allows my collectors to dive a little deeper into the process behind the works, or the ideas (in my interviews with various collaborators). It also allows me to contribute to the open-source-network of strategies and techniques that printmakers share with one another so readily. We’re very much “a rising tide lifts all boats” type of community.

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    “I was always proud of the design, a bit sheepish about the writing.” 

    I loved this quote from your Adventure Unlocked: Starting my life as a full-time Creative blog post. Having gone through something similar myself, I’d love to know how you overcame that fear? 

    This isn’t so much a question of “overcoming” as it is being strategic. I knew that my strengths, especially in the early part of my creative career, were in visuals. Rather than spend time trying to become a writer on top of trying to become an artist and small business owner, I leaned into the things that I felt only I could do, and I worked with others in a way that enhanced both of our contributions. 

    Instead of trying to improve my creative writing in poetry or fiction, I’ve improved my creative non-fiction writing for the purposes of social media captions, blog posts, product descriptions, etc. In recent years I’ve learned to trust myself more in terms of knowing what I like and what I’m less enthusiastic about outside of the world of visual arts. I think it’s important as a creative business owner to be able to switch between the creative brain and the critical brain. 

    From quitting your full-time job to moving to a new province, all while reinventing your career. You’ve had more than just a few bad days. What has kept you going during those days? Do you have any self-care rituals to keep you grounded and balanced?

    I read somewhere that our coping mechanisms are developed in young adulthood, and I think that’s accurate because my response to teenage angst was to devour many novels every week. Reading has always been my safe space. I strongly believe in escapism, not only for making you feel better in the moment but to better prepare you to tackle whatever reality is waiting for you. 

    I often feel like my brain is just fifteen simultaneous and overlapping narratives at all times unless I am reading. A book narrows my focus and allows me to relax. Tea and cookies also help!

    Having checked off your goal for self-employment this year, what’s one piece of advice you would give to the people who want to achieve the same. 

    Surround yourself with people who have similar goals. My social sphere has been mostly artists for years, and artists have a thing we do where we’re afraid of “selling out” so we tell ourselves and each other “the money doesn’t matter”. It’s made a big difference for me to have a few close friends who consider the business end of the arts as carefully and enthusiastically as they consider the artwork production end. My friend/collaborator Kim McCollum is a painter and textile artist, and whenever we sit down to talk about a new project “it might look like this” is always closely followed by “and we might market it like this” which feels magical to me.

    In financial terms: decide your monthly budget and work towards earning that in your side-hustle/ partial self-employment. When you’re close to earning it every month AND you’ve saved a 6-month buffer, then consider transitioning to full time. 

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    Let’s talk Books!! What’s that one book that had a deep impact on you, and why?

    I have read Anne of the Island by L.M. Montgomery probably once a year since I was 12 or 13. It’s a book that strikes me differently every time I reread it. I love Anne’s reconciliation of imagination and reality.

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    Have you read anything good recently?

    Define recently, haha. I read at least a bit of a novel every day, but I do abandon them if they don’t resonate by ¼ through. A couple of weeks ago I read and loved Circe by Madeline Miller. It was a book that was painful at times, the heroine seems to vacillate between enduring her circumstances and reclaiming her agency, and the enduring was heavy. But the ending was super satisfying/soothing.

    Honestly, I read a lot of sci-fi/fantasy and romance. One of my top favourite series is Kate Daniels by Ilona Andrews.  

    What does your morning routine look like? 

    I am not what you’d call a morning person. I snooze my alarm multiple times and have spent a lot of my life getting ready in the least possible amount of time. These days, in the new flush of self-employment, I have my tea, bagel and iron supplements, and breakfast tends to blend into the beginning of the creative workday. My favourite thing is when I’m so excited about a project that I can’t wait to get started. 

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    Let’s talk fashion!! How did you get into designing your own clothes?

    I learned to sew properly from my mom, who learned from her mom, which I love. For most of my childhood, I made clothes for my barbies. This has a huge advantage of taking very little fabric and laying the groundwork for an ingrained idea of how clothes function sculpturally. I feel like I developed my personal style kind of late in my teens which I blame on my high school uniform. 

    I think my closet is 20% handmade and 80% thrifted. The center of this Venn diagram is clothing construction and fabrics that hold up long enough to be grown out of. I would describe my aesthetic as “art school academia”. Think Dark Academia but more colours and a little weirder.

    Oh, also I did a year of fashion design university, but I determined it wasn’t for me. I knew how to sew going in, but I learned a lot about fibres in my history of textiles class. My favourite fun fact is that there is a fibre that was simultaneously synthesized in two different labs, and when they both applied for a patent, they couldn’t determine who did it first and split the credit between both labs. That fibre is nylon, aka New York and London. 

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    We briefly talked about your love and passion for colours. How does colour inspire your art? Do you have a favourite colour? And, why?

    I definitely have a favourite colour palette: think fall colours. I love rusty reds, light browns, and pale greens. I rarely if ever use the colour black in my work (or even on my website, it’s all dark gray). I am often physically cold, and I joke that I try to warm myself up with my art. My colour choices in art and fashion have significant overlap and I often accidentally or purposefully match my ink to my outfit. The most elaborate case of this was at a studio fundraiser where I was live printing a pale pink layer on the Vandercook letterpress, and I wore a matching all pink suit.

    Do you have a skincare routine?  

    My skincare routine is very minimal. I cleanse with a gentle, drug store, a liquid cleanser that says “moisturizing” or “for dry skin” on it. (I’m not very loyal, haha, it’s a different one every time I run out). and I moisturize with a daytime moisturizer with SPF. Nighttime moisturizer sans SPF. 

    What about makeup? 

    Concealer and lipstick when I’m feeling fancy. I have been genetically blessed with long eyelashes. Wearing a mask for so long has tempted me to do something in the way of eye makeup but I never really got around to it.

    Q: Do you have a  beauty product that you cannot go without?

    Okay, this is a little strange maybe, but a large Velcr roller for my bangs as they dry, otherwise they lie directly on my forehead.

    Q: Do you have a beauty philosophy?

    I believe that feeling put together or pretty can be just huge for my confidence. I believe in talking myself up, in complimenting myself in the mirror. One thing I like to do is describe myself as if I were the protagonist in a novel (in like, a novel written by a woman). 

    Thank you, Brianna. You’re so inspiring! xx

    P.S.

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  • Is Solo Sex  Cheating?

    Is Solo Sex Cheating?

    Is Solo Sex Cheating?

    So, you’ve got a lover—and things are great. 

    But sometimes, you’ve just got to *ahem* take care of yourself. Is this normal? Or maybe you’ve walked in on your lover doing the same thing. That can feel awkward at best and like a betrayal at worst. 

    But is it cause for concern?

    That notion that you’re cheating on your lover by using your vibrator? A total myth. 

    We often interpret our lover’s solo self-pleasure routine to mean that we don’t satisfy them. And that means they must not be attracted to us anymore. Not true!!

    In fact, the opposite is true. 

    The more you reinforce the benefits of self-pleasure as a couple and as individuals while continuing to communicate about your sex life, the better sex you’ll have. Working together to achieve billions of orgasms for everyone is part of the fun of sex in general, right?

    If your or your partner feels insecure because of the other’s self-openly and honestly, this happens to the best of us; it’s best to talk it through. Reassure your lover that it has nothing to do with your feelings for your partner, or your sexual satisfaction. Remember, the journey to endless pleasure starts with open and honest communication.

    Your partner does not like you indulging in self-pleasure without you. Have a conversation about it. Listen to them. It’s the unravelling of all these complex layers where we find hidden gems of intimacy and pleasure. The more you encourage the talk about your individual self-love practices in an open and honest way without judgment or shame, the better it will be for your relationship.

    Self-pleasure isn’t cheating and being partnered up doesn’t constitute ownership anyhow. Whether you’re in a relationship or not, your body is your own. Why do you need someone’s permission to touch yourself? Claim your sexual agency. Take ownership of your body and its needs.

    It simply comes down to a person doing what they want, and it’s an amazing way to love yourself and get in touch with your own energy. Self-pleasure with intention, and really feel yourself. Like with any self-care practice, if you focus on your creativity and positivity, you can use the powerful energy to help you through the day.

    This post first appeared on The Pleasure Plus. Written by yours truly 🙂

    xx

    Yachna

    P.S.

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    (Image by Lara Blacklock)

  • Snuggle into Your Shell: New Moon in Cancer

    Snuggle into Your Shell: New Moon in Cancer

    Retreat into Your Shell: New Moon in Cancer

    Cancers, in general, are thought to be sentimental, emotional caregivers who have a rep for being moody and snuggling up into their shells, refusing to come out until they’ve thoroughly processed their emotions. Are you feeling it too? 

    The new moon that occurs in Cancer today gives us a chance to understand our emotions on a deeper level. Today, take some time to check in with your emotional journey. It isn’t about sitting in a pool of feelings. It’s far more action-oriented. 

    You might be compelled to look at reasons why you’ve hidden your genuine self or put your individual needs on the backburner. Are you feeling it too? 

     Shine a light on the more sensitive subjects in your mind. You’ll want to stand even more in your truth and embrace whatever it is that makes you unique. 

    We can’t pour from an empty cup. The most important ritual to adhere to on this New Moon is taking a generous pause. Are you caring for yourself the way you care for your friends? If you find yourself craving the moments of calm, honour those feelings. It’s essential to carve out time and space away from a partner, to really connect with ourselves, body, mind, and soul – our own learnings, outlook, and personal philosophy.

    Ask yourself: Where am I closed off and disconnected from my emotional self and inner truth? Where have I shut myself off from new opportunities because of heartbreak, failures, and disappointments? 

     So, the message of this moment is to identify how you’re feeling and then allow it to fuel big changes and breakthroughs that this new moon intends to bring. Switch off from distractions, allowing space to listen quietly to your own needs and intuition, voice, and inner knowing to gain more clarity. And trust that this new moon brings you the magic, even if you can’t see it yet.

    Happy New Moon

    P.S.

    7 essential self-love tips. In case you need it too:)

    xx

    Yachna

    (Featured Image by Katja Pérez)

  • 9 Powerful Tips To Eat Her Pussy Like a Pro

    9 Powerful Tips To Eat Her Pussy Like a Pro

     

    1) Release Shame

    One of the biggest reasons we fail to get there is we get into our head- the clitoral system takes 20-40 min to engorge. That’s right we get hard too! That amount of time can feel like a burden- stress- and lots of other thoughts can drift in. Get comfortable with knowing it takes time. Remember your lover would not be there if that’s not something they enjoyed. 

    Take off the pressure- you can always go from down there to kissing or fingering or eye gazing to play with multi- sensations. 

    Releasing Shame of “it is taking too long” because this isn’t a one-size-fits-all approach. 

    2) Trusting your partner is essential

    The vulva is an incredibly intimate part of your body, so you must feel safe with your lover, even in casual situations. Let go of your inhibitions and focusing on what feels good to you can bring you unforgettable pleasure. The best oral sex is the one for which you are completely present. To be in someone’s mouth, to let them pleasure you, and to be completely present at that moment is simultaneously empowering and vulnerable, and it simply cannot be done without communication and mutual trust. 

    3) Try different positions

     Experiment with face-sitting. Get on top and ride the face of your partner. Doing so will allow you to take control and guide the direction of your partner’s lips and tongue at the angle you need for maximum stimulation.

    4) Listen to your partner’s unique body

     We vulva owners are all different so having a partner that pays attention to your body’s energy is essential. Figuring out what works for your lover is so essential. If you think oral sex is a one-tongue-fits-all situation, then you’ll be disappointed (so will your lover). 

    5) Stimulate other erogenous zones simultaneously

    Going straight to licking or touching the clitoris can be overwhelming for many. Instead, try kissing and nibbling the thighs. Rub/play with the nipples as you go down on them. Try massaging the mons with your palm before oral sex. Run your tongue lightly along the labia. Right before you move in for the clitoris—it will light up nerve endings like fireworks!

    6) Treat your legs to something sensual

    If you have a favourite oil, lotion, or spray, you might be able to use its aromatic appeal to slip into a more erotic state of mind and body. Bonus points if your partner loves it, too. Use your lover’s favourite scented lotion that you wear, and slather some on your inner thighs. 

    7) Give your lover directions

    Tell your lover what you really, really want. Or, if words fail you now, you can gently touch your partner’s head and gently pull them in when it feels good.

    8) The Clitoris

    After building your lover to all that amazing oral sex action, the clitoris is a great place to focus attention. Some love gentle licks and slow sucking on the clit. The aftermath? A surprisingly powerful orgasm. 

    9) After care

    Cupping the vulva can feel safe- grounding and deeply connecting- simply hold your hands over your lovers over your entire vulva, feel the embrace and stay there. 

    Alternatively – this could be the starting place for even more playtime- at this point you have juices flowing – this can be the perfect primer for penetration. 

    This post was written in collaboration with ThePleasurePlus.

    xx

    Yachna

    P.S.

    Re-write your sexual stories, and there’s no shame in your sexual fantasies.

    (Featured Image by art_octaherdon)

     

     

  • Healing From Your  Sexual Stories.

    Healing From Your Sexual Stories.

    Today is June 28th, the day of the Stonewall riots that changed the lives of millions. I am reminded of the sacrifices, pain, anguish, and suffering of those struggling to simply exist in the most authentic way to their soul on historical days like today.

    The truth is, sex is an invisible bond that works like a super-human glue, attaching us to our past lovers — emotionally, spiritually, and physically. It doesn’t matter whether the past is- mild or traumatic, a long time ago or yesterday. Sex from our past often haunts us in the present, impacting our relationships, self-worth, and identities. At times, we struggle with emotional and physical intimacy in our relationships, in which we lack trust. That further leads to feelings of anger, pain, and shame. We may feel connected to past lovers, fantasizing about them. Sometimes we may struggle with lack of desire or from the extreme opposite— addictive behaviour. But rarely do we relate our present struggles with our sexual past. “There’s something wrong with me,” we tell ourselves.

    Today, take the time to pause and listen to the depths of your soul simply because it’s always telling you the truth. Simply listening to the truth is often the first step towards healing your sexual past.

    Reflect. Pause. Rewrite your sexual story in a way that lights up your soul. Liberate yourself from the shackles of your past sexual stories. Be a nurturing and healing home yourself because you need you the most.

    Lastly, even though we quickly approach the end of the pride month, never let the fearless and unwavering flame of Pride dull within you. Let the stories of legendary transgender pioneers and activists such as Marsha P. Johnson inspire you to unwaveringly stand for your true identity, authenticity, and sexual power.

    This post originally appeared on ThePleasurePlus. Written by yours truly.

    P.S.

    On embracing your sexual fantasies.

    xx

    Yachna

    (Featured Image by Lara)

  • Four Beautiful Indoor Plants.

    Four Beautiful Indoor Plants.

    Hey,

    How was your week? Earlier this week I went plant shopping, and my myself a little of zen by adding new and fresh plants to my space. Here are the four best indoor plants that I think are super low maintenance. Here goes:

    1. Anthurium

    Description: The “flowers” of the Anthurium are some of the longest-lasting on earth, which means that beautiful and dazzling colours will last long in your home. The Anthurium with its open heart-shaped flower symbolizes hospitality and brings happiness and abundance.

    Here’s a little secret: the beautiful heart-shaped “flowers” are not flowers! The heart-shaped flower is a spathe.

    Light: Bright indirect light (direct sunlight will scorch the leaves and flowers!). Next to an East or West facing window, or a couple of feet away from a South facing window. 

    Water: Once every 4-6 days. Never let the soil dry out completely. Anthuriums like to have their soil moist but not soggy (no overwatering).TIP: mist the top layer every day to keep them happy and fresh, especially in a dry climate.

    Humidity: 65°F/18.3°C – 75°F/23.8°C Anthurium loves being misted with a light spray of lukewarm water often. Cleaning lightly with a gentle sponge is advised, which improves humidity – and makes it look healthy!!

    Temperature:  Preferred temperatures between 65-80 degrees during the day and no cooler than 60 degrees at night. Avoid placing your plants near heating and air conditioning vents and fans.

    Additional Care: Quickly remove fading or dying flowers as it helps the plant focus its energy on new growth. Give your Anthurium a six-week rest during the winter. Lower temperatures, less light, and drier soil during this time help an Anthurium produce more flowers in the spring and summer.


    2. Calathea Ornata

    Description: Calathea plants are tropical plants. When you look at Calathea Ornata, you can’t help but think the stunning purple patterns on the leaves are a painting. these plants raise their leaves during the night as if they were praying, earning them the nickname “prayer plant.” 

    Light:  They should get medium to bright indirect light; keep out of direct sunlight. When it gets direct sunlight for too long, the beautiful leaves start to fade.

    Water: Water thoroughly; allow the top inch of soil to dry before watering. Discard any water accumulated in the saucer.

    Humidity: 50-65%. Calathea needs a spot with ample moisture. Brown edges on the leaves indicate the air is too dry. Mist often, add a bowl of water or place a humidifier close by.

    Temperature:  Preferably between 65-85 degrees. Enjoys the warmth. Maintain indoor temperatures above 60 degrees and avoid sudden temperature changes.

    Additional Care: These plants can be sensitive to harsh chemicals in tap water. If you notice a tip or edges of your Calathea are burned or are yellow, it could be due to your tap water. To solve this, use distilled filtered water, rainwater, or allow your tap water to stand overnight before watering so the chlorine and fluoride can evaporate. Remove any yellow leaves to keep your plant healthy. Clean leaves occasionally with a damp cloth.


    3) Birds of Paradise

    Description: Bird of Paradise is considered the queen of the indoor plant world. This large, upright plant adds a rich, tropical flair to your space, one of the best-known tropical flowers and is a cousin to the banana. Shockingly, the bird of paradise is easier to grow than many tropical plants. 

    Light: Prefers bright direct light/ sunlight. 

    Water: when the top 50% of the soil is dry and regularly throughout the week. 

    Humidity: 40-50%, and appreciates the occasional misting, removing the dust from its glossy dark leaves.

    Temperature: prefers average indoor temperatures of 65-80 degrees. 

    Additional Care: If your plant’s leaves begin to turn brown along the edges, it may be caused by chemicals in your tap water. Use filtered water, or leave tap water in an open container overnight before watering to allow some of the chemicals to evaporate.


    4) Money Tree:

    Description: The Money Tree is a perfect indoor plant to give your home a tropical feel. It gets its name from the Feng Shui belief that it will bring positive energy, fortune, and good luck to the owner. Fun Fact: It has been said the Money Tree may reduce stress, anxiety, and may also help relieve sleeping disorders.

    Light: Medium to bright indirect light; keep out of direct sunlight

    Water: Money Tree prefers deep but infrequent watering. Water when the top half of the soil is dry. To prevent root rot, make sure your plant is never standing in water.

    Humidity: 50-60%, requires bit of extra humidity so increase the humidity in the winter months with a pebble tray or a humidifier. It will also appreciate regular misting year-round.

    Temperature: 65-80 degrees.

    Additional Care:

    Try not to move your Money Tree very often, they prefer to stay in the same spot. If you do need to relocate, you may see a bit of leaf drop. Not to worry—it will adjust.


    P.S.

    Plant Care 101.

    (Picture Credits (in the order they appear) 1) Unsplash 2) Art Terraium 3) Torontoparadiseplants 4)West Coast Gardens, Featured image: Arno Smit )

  • 6- Step Guide To Becoming The Ultimate Sex Goddess

    6- Step Guide To Becoming The Ultimate Sex Goddess

    It’s simple: we as humans were made to want, have, and enjoy sex. 

    Why is it then that most people feel uncomfortable talking about sex or being talked to about sex? Why? Because shame surrounds this taboo topic. We, as a society, are reluctant to accept female sexuality in all its richness and beautiful complexity. 

    Do most people act out their fantasies?

    YOU can be %100 turned on by fantasy and NOT enjoy it in practice: What!?! Many of us like to feel taken, submissive, powerful, dirty, and deceitful, in the bedroom and in our minds with the help of dirty talk, fantasies, and roleplaying– that does not mean we want that Outside the bedroom or even to perform the exact fantasy itself. This can be confusing and cause us not to share our fantasies because we think there is something dark or wrong with us for having these desires. 

    Remember– Whether you act on them or not, taking a closer look at your fantasies can be a healthy way to learn more about yourself, your sexuality, and your partner. Understanding the feeling you want to have in your fantasy- can help you achieve greater intimacy and sexual satisfaction with your partner. Don’t be afraid to explore what your mind is turned on by, and if you can create it in a safe space with a loving partner- GO For it. 

     

    Here are seven steps you can take to step into your authentic sexual power- 

    1) Accept your desires-

    Think:  Can you think of a time when you were shamed for exploring and being curious about your sexuality? Maybe your parents thought sex was immoral, so you had to repress or tone down your sexuality for social acceptance. 

    It took me years to accept that it’s natural and healthy to explore one’s body. For the longest time, I judged myself for having completely normal sexual desires and fantasies, only to later realize the shame and judgement that I internalized did not belong to me. It can be very powerful (and liberating) to learn that your desires aren’t the weird, strange, or unusual things you thought they were. 

     Allow: yourself to experience passionate and intense sexual desires without any judgements and act on that desire through safe and consensual sex. 

    2) Rewrite your sexual story-

    Rewriting your sexual story means looking at your sexual history and looking clearly at the experiences you’ve created and how and why you did that — the painful ones as well as the exciting ones. It’s time to look closely at the beliefs you carry around your sexuality. 

    Ask yourself: how do I define myself as a sexual being? How do I express my sexuality? How do I feel about my body?

     When you work on this step, you give yourself the gift of releasing the parts of it that no longer serve you and rewriting your authentic sexual story.

    3) Embrace and honour your body-

    Love and celebrate your body so you can enjoy it in a way that you forgot you could or didn’t even you could. In doing so, you take your pleasure and power into your hands and build powerful sexual confidence and self-esteem. 

    4) Develop your sexual love language- 

    As you unlearn all the shame and guilt surrounding your sexuality, you’ll notice a powerful shift in your emotional, physical and spiritual energy. Your mind, body, and soul will be in a beautiful alignment in its most authentic power bringing you closer to your sexual love language. 

    5) Create a sacred sexual practice-

     Give yourself the freedom and power to explore and enjoy your sexual needs, desires, and fantasies.  Step into your highest sexual and spiritual power by activating your daily attention to your sexuality and desires. Energy flows where attention goes!

    6) Indulge in self-pleasure

    Put yourself first. Even if you think you’re too busy, schedule solo-pleasure dates, even if it’s just 10 minutes. It’s where we are self-aware and, most of all, self-compassionate. Tidy up your space, and add some candles and flowers. Make a sensual playlist and do whatever is calling to you. 

    Do you suppress your sexual fantasies?

    Thank you, Simone. Pleasure Plus is now offering a FREE Erotic Mediation to get your mind going.

    xx

    Yachna

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  • Six Powerful Ways To Unwind After A Stressful Work Week.

    Six Powerful Ways To Unwind After A Stressful Work Week.

    Stressed? Tired? This weekend love yourself enough to take some time to recharge your mind, body, and soul because you can’t pour from an empty cup. 

    1)Connect to Creativity 

    The more open and connected you are to the world around you, the more creative you become. Put your phone away. Read that book you’ve always wanted to. Do joyful painting. Cook your favourite meal. Take up gardening or pottery. Learn how to play the flute. Use this time to connect with yourself and the world within and outside you. 

    2) Get Outside

    Step outside. Take a long walk in nature. Listen to the sounds that you hear or don’t hear. Be in the now. Enjoy the present. Embrace life. Watch the sunset, gaze at the moon and the stars. Feel the light summer breeze on your face, the rain on your hair. Fill your world with nature’s delightful colours. There’s so much love out in the universe. Soak it all in!

    3) Come home to yourself

    Love yourself enough to connect with your body. Find a quiet spot and reset by indulging in some much-needed self-pleasure or with a partner. Listen to your body and its needs. Giving your body the pleasure it needs is the best way to honour it. A little after-work delight if you will 😉

    4) Shower/Long Bath

    Wash away your stressful work week so you can feel refreshed and start anew. Take a long relaxing aromatherapy bath. If it’s legal in your country, make that aromatherapy a gram of weed in a diffuser because why not? Or, drink your stress away. Pick a poison. Follow your heart!

    5) Imagine What You Want

    What do you want? What kind of life do you want for yourself? What situation do you want to live in? Imagine your life in detail. Write it down. Visualize it. Put into action. Make it real. Make a plan for your new life where you don’t have to unwind from your stressful life next Friday. Always remember, life is what you make it. You have the power to redefine your world. 

    6) Let the laughter and music find you

    Let the music sweep away your soul on your toughest days. A little dose of laughter with your people goes a long way. Sometimes both at the same time. Let life’s rhythm find you. 

    I hope you take the time to honour yourself and how far you’ve come. Find healing and lots of magic within yourself. Have a relaxing weekend!

    xx

    Yachna

    P.S.

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    (Featured Image filthymouthcreative)

  • 11 Best Romantic K-Dramas That’ll Make You Swoon!

    11 Best Romantic K-Dramas That’ll Make You Swoon!

    For all the hopeless romantics in this cynical world, here’s a list of 11 best romantic K-Dramas (in no particular order) GUARANTEED to make your heart swoon and ache at the same time. Here goes-

    1) Boys Over Flowers

    Is there anyone that’s not in love with this fun and fluffy binge-worthy K-Drama? With the endless romance and swoon-worthy moments, instantly dubbed a classic, it was one of the first Korean drama that took the world by storm and rightly so. 

    With a fabulous display of emotions, this series will take you to an adventure of a lifetime that’ll make you laugh, cry, and feel immense butterflies leaving the viewers at the edge of their seats in desperate anticipation of what’s next?

    Since its release, the show has been remade several times in different languages. My favourite one being the Chinese remake of Meteor Garden. Click here

    2) Legend Of The Blue Sea

    Utterly beautiful and one of the best Korean drama ever!!

     Legend of The Blue Sea is a kind, beautiful love story about reincarnation and a love that transcends time. The chemistry between the two main leads was off the charts. This show has all the fantastic elements- romance, comedy, suspense, fantasy, and an engaging storyline that’ll keep you hooked from the first episode. 

    From the beginning until the last episode, the continuity is strong, and the slow character build-up from different centuries makes the show even more enticing.

    3 Something in the Rain 

    MY FAVOURITE!!!

     Something in the Rain is one of the shows that’ll forever stay with me because of the beautiful and heartwarming chemistry between the two main leads. This show is for those who have not felt the sweet beginnings of love for a long long time. The characters got me hooked within 15 minutes. A heartwarming love story with slow and beautiful character development, impeccable timing, effortless comedy, and heartfelt music built on a forbidden yet deep romance. This series is guaranteed to make your heart flutter and ache simultaneously!!

    4) Wok Of Love

    Wok Of Love is a beautiful story about love, friendship, and lots of delicious, mouth-watering food. The details given to the food preparation are simply impeccable, while the chemistry between the leads is just irresistible. Simply a mood refreshment with a storyline that’s fresh, light, and delightful. The flirty playfulness and love of the show will leave you wanting for more. Every episode is exciting. The concept is a mix-up of love, romance, career, passion, acceptance and striving hard for what you want to get in life no matter what. This is totally a BINGE!! 

    5) Guardian: The Lonely and Great God

    Breathtaking is the word for this pure and soulful show. Everything of the drama, including the story, songs, background music, dialogues and especially everyone’s acting, was terrific. Some very emotional scenes in the series are bound to pierce the heart of even an unemphatic person. It made me feel some way; it’s almost godly in my mind. Every single episode of the series was glittering. This is seriously one of the most powerful series I’ve seen so far. I will always remember the emotions this series gave me.

    6) Coffee Prince

     This one-of-a-kind quirky, full of humour, light romantic comedy will steal your breath away. Watching this show felt like sipping a delicious hot cup of coffee. The clumsiness, fun, touching and heartwarming moments made me fall in love with it. The charisma and charm of all the actors are to die for. Beautifully made series with such simplicity yet such longing, it left a hole in my heart.

    7) Descendants of the Sun 

    It’s one of the Most Exquisite shows that I’ve ever seen. A complete package of Comedy, Romance, Action and Lots of emotions in a single series is rarely seen. 

    With a fantastic background & a fabulous display of emotions, values & relationships, this series keeps you excited throughout all the episodes, from the start till end, while pulling out various emotions from within you & making you eager to look forward to seeing ‘what’s next & how?’. 

    8) What’s Wrong with Secretary Kim 

    If you’re looking for a quarantine and chill series, consider adding this one to the mix. A cute, feel-good, light and funny rom-com themed series that will make your heart smile. The leads have their chemistry bang on- they are funny and quirky yet “super hot “as a couple. There is a good storyline with suspense that will keep you guessing till the end. 

    9) The Heirs

    The Heirs is the series that’s guaranteed to lead you down a life of watching endless Korean Dramas. One of the best romantic series that I’ve ever watched; it covers many different emotional facets of life, including depression and social acceptance. This series is full of top gun actors who play their roles well with sweetness, jealousy, humour, and some silliness. Overall, very entertaining series with rarely any dull moments.

    10) I’m Not A Robot 

    Imagine living in a world where you have to isolate yourself from everyone because it is a possibility you might die if you come in contact with them? This drama isn’t your everyday love triangle; it delves deeper into human emotions and the beauty of companionship, both platonic and intimate. 

    The writers have done an exceptional job writing the story and goosebumps-inducing scenarios that relate to one another in an entirely unexpected way. The ending of the story is beautifully and leisurely written, which warms your heart.

    11) Rain or Shine 

    It is a beautifully executed story focusing on real people, emotions, tragedy, and how it can impact lives well into the future. A simple yet beautifully profound story that sends a strong message to the audience. As the story unfolds, you enter into a different world. It feels as if you’re watching someone else’s life story for real. It makes you fall in love with every character. The leads certainly deserve some love and attention for the superb acting! The story ended exactly how it should have. If only we could get a season 2 🙁 

    Do you have any recommendations to add to this list? Have you watched any or maybe all of them? Do you have any favourites? Let us know in the comments below 🙂

    xx

    Yachna

  • 9 Powerful Foods For A Gigantic Orgasm

    9 Powerful Foods For A Gigantic Orgasm

    Eating clean and healthy allows the body to perform better on all levels, including sex. Eating food that nourishes our body on a consistent basis literally gives you energy, puts you in a vibrant mood, and boosts sexual performance and pleasure. I’ve always been keen on the idea of foods that boost your libido because you can eat them to elevate your sex life without having to worry about any weird side effects associated with sex-enhancement drugs. Plus, eating right and taking care of your body will just help you feel comfortable in your own skin which means more confidence and pleasure in the bedroom.

    Today, Simone Farschi, a sex and intimacy coach recommends incorporating these nine powerful foods into your diet for a mind-blowing climax. Here goes-

    1) Greens

    Leafy green veggies facilitate the production of the female hormone estrogen. They are also loaded with zinc, which is known for its libido and sperm production qualities in men.

    2) Seeds

    Seeds such as flaxseeds, pumpkin seeds, soybeans, chickpeas, and sunflower seeds etc. are again friends of sexual hormones. These seeds are rich in Omega 3 fatty acids, a drop in which affects hormone levels leading to a plummeting sex drive. Pumpkin seeds are also rich in zinc which is a mineral needed to produce testosterone.

    3) Seafood

    Be it fish or raw oysters, they contain the wonder sex drug in them! It’s also found to boost the hormone dopamine that lights up the brain’s pleasure system. ⠀⠀

    4) Nuts

    All kinds of nuts provide one with energy that’s directly proportional to your stamina while having sex.

    5) Fruits

    All fruits, especially those rich in vitamin C such as pineapples, papayas and strawberries can be vital in sexual gratifications. The body needs vitamin C to keep the sexual organs fine-tuned. Vitamin C increases the number and quality of sperm produced. Not to mention, it makes you taste better 😉

    Fruits such as Bananas are ideal to give you endurance in the bedroom as they are a rich source of vitamin B that converts carbohydrates into energy. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

    6) Spices

    The right kind of spices not only spice up your palette but also your bedroom. “Chilli pepper, red chillies and ginger perk up blood circulation. ⠀⠀⠀

    7) Dark Chocolate

    A natural libido booster! Chocolate contains a chemical called phenethylamine that triggers feelings of relaxation, intoxication, and pleasure. releases mood-boosting, stress-reducing serotonin and stimulates physical contact desires and lowers inhibitions.

    8) Olive Oil

    Orgasm worries in women find an answer in olive oil, which triggers the production of the testosterone hormone.

    9) Garlic

    A wonder sex booster, regular consumption of garlic in food can bring a marked difference in your sexual prowess.

    P.S.

    The art of self-pleasure.

    This post was originally posted on Pleasure Plus, an online sex education community created by Simone.

    (Featured Photo by Alicia Pitaluga)

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