Author: yachnaa

5 Things She Wants From You

We’re excited to kick off the first installment of our new pleasure column. In the blog posts that follow every Monday, we’ll provide a cliff note version of everything you need to know to make the woman (or women) in your life extremely happy and satisfied. Think of these mini-posts as your Lover-in-a-Box Kit on a count of five.

Starting off with the question that have plagued the greatest philosophers to have ever lived. “Why don’t men know what women want? Is it really that hard to figure it out?” Well no. If you ask women what they want…especially in bed, we’ll tell you exactly what we need. Here goes five things every woman wants from you-

1) Attuned Giving

Let your focus and direction be leavened by awareness and attunement. Initiate and direct not by dominating and going where you want, but by paying attention to her signals and taking her where she wants to go. Give her exactly what she wants when she wants it by using your attention and presence in service to her pleasure. (Ultimately, her complete surrender to opening is exactly where you want to go, too!)

2) Your presence

If you don’t show up, who’s that guy having sex with her? Your presence in the moment with her will bring more magic to your time together.

3) Clean, clear intentions and integrity

Don’t degrade yourself or her by manipulating or lying to her. Know what you want and speak your truth to her. If all you want is hot sex with no commitment, that’s okay- tell her. That might be what she wants, too!!

4) Reliability and direction

Women are just like the moon. Similar to lunar energy, women are shifting and have several phases. They need a “solar” partner with reliable, powerful masculine energy that doesn’t blow away with the wind. Instead, she wants someone that can be counted on to provide clear focus and attention. You’re her solid centre; she dances around it. Bring it on!

5) Your fiery hot studly masculine energy

Be that demon lover, guys, but only when she’s really ready and basically begging for it. You’ll know when it happens 😉

Do you have any words of advice you’d like to add? Or questions you’d like us to answer in future columns? Please let us know in the comments. xo

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June 19, 2023
16 Things That Turn Women On

1. He puts his arms around your waist and kisses your neck when he comes up behind you. This is never not hot.

2. We love it when he can have an intellectually stimulating conversation about his favourite book. It’s nice to know that he has a brain that isn’t flooded with random facts about sports and TV shows.

3. When he goes down on you without expecting any other sexual activity afterward.

4. When he plays with your hair. It‘s one of my biggest turn-ons, and I know I’m not the only girl like that!

5. When he opens doors for us and pulls out, our chairs are swoon-worthy. It’s not something we see daily, even though we should. So if you treat a woman with respect and do a few little things for her, she’ll think you the sweetest thing she’s ever seen. 🙂

6. He surprises us with our favourite flowers and chocolates or does something we never would have predicted.

7. When he’s a total gentleman and makes you feel safe, protected, and comfortable in his presence. There’s nothing more manly and sexier than this!!!

8. We women can’t get enough of funny men. Of course, making us laugh is one of many important things you need to do. It’s hot when you can take a joke and are ready to laugh at yourself without yelling or getting angry.

9. When he’s proud of you and brags about you to your friends/family.

10. When he knows to be a man and when to be a child. You can’t have too much of one; a balance should exist. When I say man, I mean a mature, romantic, serious guy who works hard and has a direction in life. By a child, I mean a man who’s silly, funny, and can enjoy nostalgic things like cartoons and comic books.

11. When he won’t complain if we want to wait to get physical. We want a man who won’t groan if we take too long applying makeup in the bathroom. The more patience you have, the happier we are with you.

12. When he gives you a foot relief massage and sensual leg caressing after a long day. Yum!!!

13. When he has excellent hygiene and is well-dressed. We obviously can’t resist a suit and a tie. However, you don’t always need to wear a suit and tie but look clean and presentable. Rawr!!

14. We love it when he’s confident in himself, comfortable in his skin and owns any room he’s in. Periodtttt!!!

15. It’s a huge turn-on when he’s willing to give her her space yet still be there.

16. We love it when you seduce us with food by cooking a delicious meal or taking us to a yummy food spot. The point is to feed our souls with our favourite food.

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May 22, 2023
30 Life Lessons From 30 Years

This week I turned 30.

My heart is filled with gratitude and joy for experiencing another year across the sun. I still have so much growing up and learning to do. Even though everyone around me makes turning 30 scary and that life as I know it is over, I am thrilled to be starting this new chapter of my life.

In honour of the occasion, here are 30 things I’ve collected over the years — observations, lessons, and reminders-

1. The magic of gratitude.

If there’s one thing that can stop negative thoughts and emotions in their tracks, it’s gratitude. Feel joy in every season of your life. It doesn’t matter whether it is stormy, rainy, or sunshine. A grateful heart is a magnet for miracles.

2. Be your own hero.

No one is coming to save you. Depend on yourself. You get to choose your next chapter. Be the writer and the hero of your story.

3. Let the world surprise you.

Keep your eyes and heart open. Withhold judgement. Think of all the people, experiences, shows, and stories you’d miss out on if you didn’t give them a chance. Allow the world to surprise you.

4. Give in to the sweetness of doing nothing.

Waste time. Go for long walks in nature. Lie down in the flowers. Fall asleep under a tree. Try out a new recipe. Read that book. Write a love letter to yourself. Paint. Knit something. Have a rest day or a year. In a world obsessed with productivity and keeping busy, reclaim the playful and creative energy within you because these “unproductive” hours are the soul-shaping hours of our lives.

5. You are enough.

Care for yourself the way you’ve always longed to be cared for. You deserve all the love, softness and kindness you always give others. You don’t need to exhaust yourself, proving it to others.

6. Create your own definitions.

People are full of suggestions on what your life should look like at any given age. But some words such as “happiness,” “success,” and “respect” you get to define for yourself.

7. Create what you wish existed.

Start your blog. Finish your book. Create your dream skincare line or a hair product that actually works for curly hair. Bring your craziest idea to life. Just do it.

8. Comparison is the thief of joy.

You can’t compare the sun, the moon, and the stars. They all shine in their own time. No same flowers blossom at the same time. Stop comparing yourself to others. Compare yourself to the person from yesterday.

9. Enjoy the journey.

You are exactly where you need to be today. Life is not a race. Take your time to the destination. Slow down and savour this moment…just like your favourite dessert.

10. The first step is always the hardest.

Just start. It takes a lot of courage and boldness to that take that first step. Do it alone. Do it, scared. Do it broke. Just take that first step and learn as you go. You don’t need to have it all figured out…just yet.

11. Some goodbyes are inevitable.

Sometimes our loved ones have to say goodbye to us. But you’ll still love them when they’re gone and keep them safe in your heart forever.

12. Moms are always right.

She’s your best friend. Listen to her. It turns out my mom has always been right. I just didn’t like her tone.

13. No looking back.

You can’t go back to the person you were yesterday. That person no longer exists. I love where you’re going.

14. Everything takes longer than you think it will.

Building friendships, relationships, starting your dream project. Everything good takes longer than we think, and life rarely goes as planned.

15. Nobody can be uncheered with a balloon.

Long walks in nature. Morning cuddles. Watching a beautiful sunset. A long candlelit bath. Jamming your playlist. Tender kisses on the forehead. Video chatting with someone you love. All these little things take up the most room in your heart. Cherish them.

16. It’s time for a glow-up.

There are no limitations on starting over. Drop the idea that you must always be who you have always been. Be a phoenix. Burn to ashes and reinvent yourself into who you’ve always wanted to be.

17. Transform yourself in solitude.

It’s okay and necessary to need quiet time to replenish your spirit. Find a healthy balance between connection and solitude.

18. It’s okay to need help.

It’s okay to need help sometimes. We were never supposed to do this alone.

19. Speak up for yourself.

You heal every time you muster the courage to speak up for yourself. Reclaim your power by making your own decisions.

20. Burn brightly.

Even if it provokes others, who are still afraid of their own light.

21. Rejection is redirection.

Whenever I thought I was being rejected by something good, I was redirected toward something even better. Believe it or not…many of my life’s greatest blessings have come in the form of rejection.

22. Worship your body.

Listen to it. Worship it. Honour it by treating it with kindness and tenderness.

23. Daily Meditation.

Create space in your daily day for quiet stillness, even for 10 minutes. It does wonders for your soul.

24. Know when to walk away.

Respect yourself enough to walk from people and places that don’t see the beauty in you.

25. Keep it weird.

The things that make you ‘weird’ are some of your best qualities.

26. Perfectionism is a myth.

Liberate yourself from the shackles of perfectionism by letting yourself be seen just the way you are.

27. It’s okay to not be okay.

Crying isn’t cringe. It’s a natural and healthy response to pain and sorrow in life. It provides a hard reset for your heart. Let it flow.

28. Boundaries are hot.

Create and stick to the boundaries that protect your softness.

29. You are not vanilla ice cream.

You can’t make everyone happy, and that’s okay. Stop worrying about what other people think. Be your own unique flavour, even if it’s not for everyone.

30. Your intuition is your superpower…so listen to it.

Thank you, as always, for reading.

xo

Yachna

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May 12, 2023
11 Sweat-Proof Makeup Products That Won’t Melt in the Heat

That 30+ weather making sweat drip all over your face?

And not all your makeup is coming off with the sweat, too; yikes!!!

Tell me about it…

With summer here, you’ll need a list of all the sweat-proof, waterproof, bulletproof, and mistake-proof makeup for all your needs. Sheesh, good luck taking it off at the end of the day.

1. Face Sunscreen

Let’s start with a good SPF because looking like a burnt zucchini is a no-no. We’re not doing that this summer; were you lacking last summer?

Let’s make sure you stock up on an essential, like Sunscreen, this summer. One of my favourites has been the Laneige Hydro UV Defense Broad Spectrum Sunscreen with SPF 50. It leaves no white cast, gives a healthy glow to the skin and keeps your skin hydrated and nourished the entire day. I use this everyday rain or shine as a part of skin prep.

10/10 for Sunscreen in my books. You’re welcome!

2. Primer

If you’re wearing makeup, you want to make sure it’s not moving anywhere! I have two primers that get the job done.

First, the Milk Makeup Hydro Grip Primer. The tackiness of this primer helps my makeup last all day. You want to wait a minute for this to dry, then apply your products.

Second is the One Size Secure The Sweat Mattifying Primer, a great primer to lock in your makeup all day. In general, One Size Beauty has a great selection to lock in your makeup all day… literally locked in, not moving.

3. Concealer

I love minimal makeup, especially in hot ass humid weather. I skip foundation altogether.

I have been loving a drugstore product, the NYX Bare With Me Concealer Serum for concealer. This one is great for spot concealing, super lightweight and gives excellent coverage.

Another alternative is the Kosas Concealer; I love how creamy this one is, and it also gives great coverage, especially for under eyes.

4. Tint

If you’re looking for a product all over the face, I recommend using a bb cream or a skin tint.

One of my ABSOLUTE faves is the Fenty Eaze Drop Blurring Skin Tint. When I tell y’all, finding a shade that matches your colour in this is so easy. The coverage is buildable, so it’s nice for a natural everyday look. Highly recommend this skin tint, especially for summer use!!!

5. Foundation

Even though I skip out on foundation altogether during summer, to anyone who likes foundation in the summertime, especially for a night out, the Fenty Pro Filter Foundation is another excellent sweat-proof product, as it is mattifying.

6. Eyeshadow

*The eyes chico. They never lie*

So if you want to do eyeshadow, I’d keep it simple and do a stick or cream to sweep on the eyelids. I have been loving the Bobbi Brown Longwear Cream Shadow Stick. It stays put all day and is very easy to apply.

If you’re looking for a cheaper alternative, the NYX Jumbo Eye pencils are perfect for eyeshadow, and they are highly pigmented and last a long time.

7. Mascara

Drugstore

Next, mascara, of course! For Waterproof mascara, we’ll give you a high-end as well as a drugstore suggestion.

So let’s start with the drugstore. L’Oréal Lash Paradise Mascara is waterproof and smudge-proof mascara, giving your lashes breathtaking volume! When I tell you that mascara will not budge. A MUST-HAVE for a pool day.

High-End

Now for high-end, I love me a Lancôme Mascara, honestly any of them and with a waterproof formula. Amazing!

8. Bronzer

I almost forgot a bronzer and blush… how could I?

Alright, so I’ve loved the GloWish Soft Radiance bronzer from Huda Beauty. The swirl two-toned bronzer gives the perfect amount of sun-kissed to the skin, and with a vegan formula, your skin will love it! If you want to swap out for just a cream bronzer, the Match Stix from Fenty Beauty is a must-try!

9. Blush

On to blush, again for a powder (this one is a hidden gem), the Rimmel Maxi Blush. This needs to get more hype; so much pigment packed in these blushes, and for such a low price!!! Try them out if you haven’t yet!

So for cream blush… you already know it will have to be the Soft Pinch Liquid Blush by Rare Beauty, that pea-sized amount for all that pigment that’s a no-brainer.

10. Lippies

I don’t know about you, but I feel complete with SOME gloss or lip liner; it just ties a whole look together. The Refy Lip Sculpt Lip Liner is such a game-changer for lip liners.

I apply this once, and it stays in place all day. I’d keep the look simple with a gloss or lip balm; I love the NYX Butter Glosses. It’s like lipstick and gloss in one; you have to re-apply. However, the pigment on these is impressive, and the texture is very smooth and velvety. Love it!

11. Setting Spray

Of course, the hairspray for the face, Setting Spray! An essential for a locked-in look that lasts you all day. Two suggestions for this one as well

Drugstore

First, the One Size On ‘Til Dawn Setting Spray. This doesn’t even come off when you go in a pool; this is perfect for summer days.

High-End

Next has to be the Charlotte Tilbury Airbrush Setting Spray; if it’s anything you need from her line, it’s definitely this!!

I love this setting spray and use it whenever I have a full beat; it’s refreshing and keeps my makeup fresh all day. Must have, for sure!

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So you beautiful, sweaty and sometimes oily girly, ready to tackle this summer heat? You are more than ready!

Go for some food and drinks on the patio, go to that pool party, confident you don’t need any touch-ups with this list. And most importantly, protecting your skin with that Sunscreen!

You can thank me later with a sangria on the patio.

Xoxo

Chantel

May 4, 2023
Top Six Tips for Being Independent in a Romantic Relationship

Falling in love is intoxicating.

It’s tempting to circle your whole life around the new sparkly, shiny, lovely man you’ve just met, especially in a new relationship.

Trust me. I get it.

It’s been a long time since you really liked someone, and you’re excited. You both are into each other. And it feels good after months or years of boring, meaningless dates that never evolved into anything.

You’re finally in love; all you want to do is be in love.

Everything else sounds boring and lame compared to the happiness you’ve found in your lover’s arms.

This starry-eyed feeling you have right now is fleeting. And the more you try to hold onto it, the less happy you’ll be.

Yes, you’re the happiest when cuddling with your baby, all cozy watching Netflix. You think it makes you the happiest, but it shouldn’t be that way.

Yes, it’s a priority!!! But it can’t be the biggest one.

It’s not your fault.

We all grew up watching movies that showed us in a romantic relationship; two people spent all their waking moments doing everything together. Hello, Claustrophobia!!

The two of you might be ridiculously compatible and annoyingly cute, but alone time is still a realistic expectation.

Here are SIX tips for being independent in a romantic relationship-

1) Keep your individuality

It’s so easy to be wrapped up in him and “us” that you lose your uniqueness. The two of you do everything together. Slowly, you abandon old habits and hobbies. Your friends never see you anymore. If he’s interested in soccer, suddenly it’s your favourite pastime too. Seriously, why??? Cut that crap out! You are awesome, just the way you are.

2) Be fiercely independent

Express your opinions. Share your thoughts. Speak your mind. Set your boundaries. Be assertive. Understand and accept each other’s point of view without imposing. Give your partner the freedom to be who they are, and do not settle for anything less. All of these will help your partner to understand you better.

Remember: You don’t have to be on the same page on everything to make each other feel like one. On the contrary, freedom in a relationship helps love last.

3) Solo Dates

Just because you are in a relationship doesn’t mean you need to give up the things you once loved doing—even if you feel tempted, especially at the beginning when things are new and exciting. Take yourself on dates.

Sign up for that pottery class. Take up photography. Enroll in a cooking class. Take a solo trip to your dream place. Or, have a cozy night in watching Netflix.

The point is to keep investing in yourself and trying to know yourself. Keep some hobbies you do alone or with people other than your partner. Plan some time every week when you do things separately.

4) Keep following your dreams and desires

Please do this right now.

Make a list of your dreams and ambitions. Write down your goals and place them into categories such as Education, Health & Fitness, Creativity, Travel and Finance. Then, take action toward it and check those things off your bucket list.

The best kind of relationship is two people supporting each other while they do their own things. It’s about developing and learning alongside your partner and not making him the only priority in your life.

5) See your friends often

Don’t be that friend who disappears whenever she gets a new boyfriend. Your relationship is important, but don’t let weekly hangouts with your friends be annual. If you make your partner the sun, the moon, and the stars, that’s a lot of pressure on just one person. It’s great to feel wanted, not desperately clutched. That behaviour isn’t about love; it’s about insecurity.

6) Talk to each other

Finally, communication is key. Be open and brutally honest with your partner about how you feel and what you need to maintain your sense of self in the relationship. By following these tips, you’ll be able to you can stand by his side, tall and proud, instead of strangling him with expectations.

Do you do everything with your partner? Or do you, sometimes, need a bit of time to yourself? Would you add anything to this list? Comment below

May 1, 2023
Why Only The Happily Single Find True Love

When I was young and naive and didn’t know how to be alone and content on my own, I structured my whole life around this glittery, shiny lovely boy I had just met.

Life seemed much easier when I was distracting myself with the idea of love and relationship. At the time, I didn’t know what it meant to love myself or how to be alone with myself.

I didn’t like the idea of spending any time in solitude. It was scary. As a result, I wasn’t nurturing myself or growing as a person.

It took me a while to realize I wasn’t happy with myself and my life, and I believed a relationship would change that, even when I knew in my gut that this wasn’t the right person or relationship for me.

I still couldn’t get myself to leave. I made up excuses to stay. It didn’t feel healthy at all. I compromised my values and romantic ideals just to have someone in my life.

On the surface, I was a strong, independent woman full of energy and opinions. But deep down, I cared only to be loved because I was so tired of being lonely. I just wanted to be loved.

The relationship was doomed to fail. People need a little space. I knew that. Yet, we spent day and night together, giving each other no room to breathe. I started to feel suffocated. As a result, I started to resent him and eventually made a move to escape.

After that relationship ended, I took a break from dating and focused on becoming happier and stronger.

I took the time to build a life that I love and develop a relationship with myself, which meant doing hard things even when I didn’t feel like it, such as learning how to enjoy my company without needing to surround myself with people constantly. I discovered my likes and dislikes, took up new hobbies, and set boundaries to protect myself.

In the past four years, I truly valued being happily single and loving myself. Taking steps to improve myself and prioritizing my progress made me realize that: we cannot choose wisely when being single feels unbearable.

We have to be at peace with solitude if we are to have any real chance of starting a healthy and fulfilling relationship.

If we don’t know how to be alone, we end up with the wrong people because we choose them out of the need for love and attention. That’s why many people find themselves in a relationship that makes them feel empty and drained.

Being single isn’t always as sweet as a piece of cake—especially when all the movies push the concept that you aren’t truly “complete” until you’ve found “the one .”

Having spent the past few years utterly single made me realize I am happy to be alone. It’s only when I am reminded by society that being alone is unbearable that I ever feel lonely.

Until we are sure that being single can be just as secure, warm and fulfilling as being in a relationship, how will we know we choose to couple up for the right reasons?

Now that I am in a healthy, fulfilling relationship, I genuinely feel that when I did meet my current partner, it wasn’t out of boredom, distraction, or to fill a void; because it added new value to my already complete and fulfilled life.

xx

Yachna

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April 24, 2023
A Heartwarming Japanese Series I Am Obsessed With

Like all good things, I accidentally stumbled upon the Midnight Diner at my cousin’s recommendation. I instantly fell in love with the show and couldn’t stop watching it.

As someone who doesn’t speak or understand Japanese, this series charmed me to the point that it inspired my trip to Tokyo.

Why is it so special?

The show is about a late-night diner inside a busy, narrow street in Tokyo that’s only open after midnight while most people are asleep. “When people finish their day and hurry home, my day starts. But sometimes, they don’t want to go straight back home. So, they drop in somewhere else on the way home.” the restaurant’s chef, known only as “the Master,” explains.

While his menu is very minimal—usually just pork miso soup, beer, and sake, he’ll cook whatever you want if you supply the ingredients. But most of his regulars, a diverse group of people, such as sex trader workers, celebrities, LGBTQ, Yakuza, and immigrants who are sad, lonely, or restless, looking for a quiet place to take the edge off, come for the company.

A very humble, sincere and stoic Master greets them all with a mysterious scar on his face. He’s an excellent listener and is well-respected and highly regarded for his cooking by all his customers.

It’s particularly touching when regulars ask him to make their childhood favourites—a reminder of the essential comfort that his diner provides.

Midnight Diner is like stories from a place I’ve never lived in or known. Yet it still somehow manages to feel like home. Every episode involves a story that is so beautifully crafted and is so human and universal based on the dreams, wants, hopes or fears of a regular customer of the diner.

It might not be something you’d want to binge on all night, but savour one bite at a time, just like the food the Master cooks, which always looks exceptionally delicious.

The intro makes me feel nostalgic for a place I have never been to, but it still feels comforting. The only bad thing about this show is that it’s not long enough 🙁

Master, more episodes!

Have you watched The Midnight Diner? What shows are you watching these days? I’d love to know 😀

xo

Yachna

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April 14, 2023
Why We Lose Friends

A few months ago, I met a friend I hadn’t seen in years for coffee. As we were catching up on the lost time, mid-conversation, she held my hand, tears flowing down from her eyes, saying, “I miss you so much. You stop making friends after some point in life.”

Her words moved me deeply because, at that time, I had lost friends that were so special and precious to me. I was grieving the loss of dead friendships and naturally realized that the older we get, the more we need our friends—and the harder it is to keep them. And that our social circles grow smaller. And then one day, we suddenly find ourselves in the company of just a few familiar faces.

Now that I’m officially leaving my 20s, I feel older and wiser – at least wise enough to write this post. Over the years, I’ve outgrown many friendships I couldn’t imagine my life without. Now, they aren’t even part of my life. Those same friends I’ve known for years don’t know me anymore (and I don’t know them either). There were no fights. No drama. No hard feelings. We just grew apart. We all got busy in our lives. Our different life transitions, lifestyles and interests took us on different paths, and we couldn’t relate to each other anymore.

Some friendships just die. That’s the truth of it. Don’t try to fight it. Don’t let it make you angry. Don’t blame yourself or the other person or circumstance or anything else. Accept it for what it is.

Through it all, the biggest lesson I’ve learned is that change is the only constant thing in life. And sometimes, separation is just a necessary part of growth for everyone involved.

I am still fond of those friends and the time we spent together, but I can’t go back to that as we are different people now. Truthfully, it wasn’t that we stopped caring about each other. We can’t relate to each other and the version of self that was friends with them.

And you know what the strangest part is? It’s so much more peaceful to have a few friends. Past few years, as I intentionally started to withdraw from people, the more I learned about myself. And the more I learn about myself, the more people I lose.

And again, this doesn’t mean that your early twenties friendships were meaningless, vain, or shallow. I am grateful to have experienced such beautiful and deep friendships, but I also experienced a lot of pain and loss in these friendships.

It’s not easy. I was thinking to myself while writing about this: What about all the good times and memories and love I’ve shared with these people? Doesn’t that matter?

Of course, it matters.

At the same time, you need to let go with grace. People grow and change, and you grow apart more often than not. Don’t let the bitterness of broken friendships poison your soul. Wish them love, wish them well, and know that all the love you gave them was real and is for their keep for life.

Finally, leaving you with these wise words from my favourite rapper Tupac, “Just because you lost me as a friend, doesn’t mean you gained me as an enemy. I’m bigger than that, I still wanna see you eat, just not at my table.”

xo

Yachna

Have you ever lost a precious and dead friend? What did it feel like? Share below <3

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March 28, 2023
9 Timeless Lessons From The Little Prince

Hello Readers,

What have you been reading lately? I just devoured The Little Prince, and it has left me devastated. It has certainly left a profound impact on me. On the surface, it may seem like a children’s book, but the Little Prince’s messages of friendship, compassion and love continue to move hearts. Here are nine timeless life lessons from this enchanting story, as told through quotes.

1. Our lives are measured in love, not numbers

Grown-ups are very fond of numbers.

When you tell them about a new friend, they never ask you the kind of questions that should be asked, such as: “What kind of voice does he have?” “What are his favourite games?” “Does he collect butterflies?” Instead, they ask: “How old is he? How much money does his father earn?” They really do imagine this is the best way to discover what sort of person he is!’

“If you were to say to the grown−ups: “I saw a beautiful house made of rosy brick, with geraniums in the windows and doves on the roof,” they would not be able to get any idea of that house at all. You would have to say to them: “I saw a house that cost $20,000.” Then they would exclaim: “Oh, what a pretty house that is!”

2. Don’t judge others by their words but by what they do

“[My rose]She cast her fragrance and her radiance over me. I ought never to have run away from her… I ought to have guessed all the affection that lay behind her poor little stratagems. Flowers are so inconsistent! But I was too young to know how to love her…”

3. Dare to have a mind of your own

“Who are you?” said the little prince.
“Who are you-Who are you-Who are you?” answered the echo. “Be my friends. I am all alone,” he said.

“I am all alone — all alone — all alone,” answered the echo.

“What a queer planet!” he thought. “It is altogether dry, and altogether pointed, and altogether harsh and forbidding. And the people have no imagination. They repeat whatever one says to them . . . On my planet I had a flower; she always was the first to speak . . .”

4. Relationships make life worth living

‘”What exactly does ‘tamed’ mean?”

“It is an act too often neglected,” said the fox. “It means to establish ties.”

“To establish ties?”

“To me, you are still nothing more than a little boy who is just like a hundred thousand other little boys. And I have no need of you. And you, on your part, have no need of me. To you, I am nothing more than a fox like a hundred thousand other foxes. But if you tame me, then we shall need each other. To me, you will be unique in all the world. To you, I shall be unique in all the world…”

5. Money can’t buy love or friendship

“Men have no more time to understand anything. They buy things all ready made at the shops. But there is no shop anywhere where one can buy friendship, and so men have no friends anymore.”

6. It is time you give to something that makes it precious

“You are beautiful, but you are empty,” he went on. “One could not die for you. To be sure, an ordinary passerby would think that my rose looked just like you—the rose that belongs to me. But in herself alone she is more important than all the hundreds of you other roses: because it is she that I have watered; because it is she that I have put under the glass globe; because it is she that I have sheltered behind the screen; because it is for her that I have killed the caterpillars… because it is she that I have listened to, when she grumbled, or boasted, or ever sometimes when she said nothing. Because she is my rose.”

“No one has tamed you and you haven’t tamed anyone. You’re the way my fox was. He was just a fox like a hundred thousand others. But I’ve made him my friend, and now he’s the only fox in the world.”

7. The essential things in life you cannot see with your eyes

As the little prince dropped off to sleep, I took him in my arms and set out walking…I felt deeply moved…it seemed to me that I was carrying a very fragile treasure. It seemed to me, even, that there was nothing more fragile on all the Earth. In the moonlight, I looked at his pale forehead, his closed eyes, his locks of hair that trembled in the wind, and I said to myself: “What I see here is nothing but a shell. What is most important is invisible to the eye.”

8. The greater the effort, the sweeter the reward

“I raised the bucket to his lips. He drank, his eyes closed. It was as sweet as some special festival treat. This water was indeed a different thing…Its sweetness was born under the stars, the song of the pulley, the effort of my arms. It was good for the heart, like a present.”

9. Always finally, always remember to look up at the stars

“All men have stars, but they are not the same things for different people. For travellers, the stars are guides. For others, they are no more than little lights in the sky. For scholars, they are problems… But all these stars are silent…In one of the stars, I shall be laughing. And so it will be as if all the stars will be laughing when you look at the sky at night…You, only you, will have stars that can laugh!”

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Have you read The Little Prince? I’d love to know 🙂

March 13, 2023
A Love Letter to Women

Hello Readers,

How are you doing?

In the past couple of months, a lot has changed.

Moving back home to the Philippines, saying goodbye to the people I love so dearly in Canada, going through friendship breakups, and building a business from scratch. I mean, it’s a LOT.

Some stages have been grindingly hard and emotional. On the outside, everything looks perfect. But, on the inside, I have been struggling with loneliness, low self-confidence and self-doubt. The past few weeks have been a lot of crying alone in my car, feeling utterly alone and isolated in my struggles.

And then, a few days ago, going through my notes, I found this note I had written last April to make myself feel better. With tears flowing from my eyes, I read the words that brought me so much comfort while giving me the strength to walk into the unknown. Sharing this with you in case you need it too…

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You are already the ray of love and warmth you wish dearly to be.

You have always been the woman you wanted to be- artistic, beautiful, creative, insanely kind, caring, soft-hearted, comforting, and warm.

You have been hurt so many times and it’s so see beyond that pain.

I lose myself in the pain, grief, numbness, anger, resentment, and distrust caused by one disappointment after the other.

I understand it’s just the universe giving me no choice but to rely on my self-love instead of love from others, but it does hurt how under-appreciated I am.

You are disappointed things didn’t work out as you wanted them to. It’s okay to feel sad and disappointed.

Soon, you’ll be thankful that you didn’t get what you thought you wanted because there was something better in store for you.

Women deserve better.

You deserve better than waiting for a man to show up for you and do the bare minimum. It’s better to be alone than with a man next to you who’s not on the same wavelength as you.

Your heart is soft and tender and deserves to be treated with kindness and gentleness.

If your life has to have any meaning, then you have to live it. You are the writer of your story; make it a great one. It’s time for you to become the star you already know you are.

Keep investing time in yourself and learn to be strong alone. You’ve been alone for most of your life. You have picked yourself up on the days when you felt like not waking up. That was all you.

So now that you know what you are capable of, you cannot let your self-worth depend on anyone.

Since you are so sensitive and have such a soft and gentle heart, you are its most fierce protector. Because if you don’t protect yourself, then who will?

Just don’t lose confidence in yourself. Because if you lose it, no one else will have confidence in you. You are the only person who can make yourself feel better and treat yourself the best.

You spent your 20s carving a place for yourself with your blood, sweat, and tears. You show the rest of us through your strength and pioneering spirit that we, too, have a chance. You lead the way for us all to walk the paths that have never been taken and instead teach us all how to live free. YOU ARE NOT ANYTHING WRONG. You should be proud of everything you have done ALONE, unlike them.

If no one has said to you before, here it is: I am proud of the woman you are becoming. I hope you are too.

xo

Yachna

February 10, 2023