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  • 5 Things She Wants From You

    5 Things She Wants From You

    We’re excited to kick off the first installment of our new pleasure column. In the blog posts that follow every Monday, we’ll provide a cliff note version of everything you need to know to make the woman (or women) in your life extremely happy and satisfied. Think of these mini-posts as your Lover-in-a-Box Kit on a count of five. 

    Starting off with the question that have plagued the greatest philosophers to have ever lived. “Why don’t men know what women want? Is it really that hard to figure it out?” Well no. If you ask women what they want…especially in bed, we’ll tell you exactly what we need. Here goes five things every woman wants from you-

    1) Attuned Giving

    Let your focus and direction be leavened by awareness and attunement. Initiate and direct not by dominating and going where you want, but by paying attention to her signals and taking her where she wants to go. Give her exactly what she wants when she wants it by using your attention and presence in service to her pleasure. (Ultimately, her complete surrender to opening is exactly where you want to go, too!)

    2) Your presence 

    If you don’t show up, who’s that guy having sex with her? Your presence in the moment with her will bring more magic to your time together. 

    3) Clean, clear intentions and integrity 

    Don’t degrade yourself or her by manipulating or lying to her. Know what you want and speak your truth to her. If all you want is hot sex with no commitment, that’s okay- tell her. That might be what she wants, too!!

    4) Reliability and direction

    Women are just like the moon. Similar to lunar energy, women are shifting and have several phases. They need a “solar” partner with reliable, powerful masculine energy that doesn’t blow away with the wind. Instead, she wants someone that can be counted on to provide clear focus and attention. You’re her solid centre; she dances around it. Bring it on!

    5) Your fiery hot studly masculine energy

    Be that demon lover, guys, but only when she’s really ready and basically begging for it. You’ll know when it happens 😉

     

    Do you have any words of advice you’d like to add? Or questions you’d like us to answer in future columns? Please let us know in the comments. xo

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    P.S.

    9 powerful tips to eat her pussy like a pro, 16 things that turn women on, and 9 powerful foods to boost your sexual health. 

     

    Featured Image Credits– Pinterest 

  • 16 Things That Turn Women On

    16 Things That Turn Women On

     

     

    1. He puts his arms around your waist and kisses your neck when he comes up behind you. This is never not hot.

    2. We love it when he can have an intellectually stimulating conversation about his favourite book. It’s nice to know that he has a brain that isn’t flooded with random facts about sports and TV shows.

    3. When he goes down on you without expecting any other sexual activity afterward.

    4. When he plays with your hair. It‘s one of my biggest turn-ons, and I know I’m not the only girl like that!

    5. When he opens doors for us and pulls out, our chairs are swoon-worthy. It’s not something we see daily, even though we should. So if you treat a woman with respect and do a few little things for her, she’ll think you the sweetest thing she’s ever seen. 🙂

    6. He surprises us with our favourite flowers and chocolates or does something we never would have predicted. 

    7. When he’s a total gentleman and makes you feel safe, protected, and comfortable in his presence. There’s nothing more manly and sexier than this!!!  

    8. We women can’t get enough of funny men. Of course, making us laugh is one of many important things you need to do. It’s hot when you can take a joke and are ready to laugh at yourself without yelling or getting angry.

    9. When he’s proud of you and brags about you to your friends/family.

    10. When he knows to be a man and when to be a child. You can’t have too much of one; a balance should exist. When I say man, I mean a mature, romantic, serious guy who works hard and has a direction in life. By a child, I mean a man who’s silly, funny, and can enjoy nostalgic things like cartoons and comic books.

    11. When he won’t complain if we want to wait to get physical. We want a man who won’t groan if we take too long applying makeup in the bathroom. The more patience you have, the happier we are with you.

    12. When he gives you a foot relief massage and sensual leg caressing after a long day. Yum!!!

    13. When he has excellent hygiene and is well-dressed. We obviously can’t resist a suit and a tie. However, you don’t always need to wear a suit and tie but look clean and presentable. Rawr!!

    14. We love it when he’s confident in himself, comfortable in his skin and owns any room he’s in. Periodtttt!!!

    15. It’s a huge turn-on when he’s willing to give her her space yet still be there.

    16. We love it when you seduce us with food by cooking a delicious meal or taking us to a yummy food spot. The point is to feed our souls with our favourite food. 

     

    P.S.

    9 hot tips for best period sex, 9 powerful tips to eat her pussy like a pro, and 9 sexy foods to boost your sex drive

     

    Features Image- Onna-lifestyle

     

  • 14 Self-Care Rituals To Nourish Your Sensuality

    14 Self-Care Rituals To Nourish Your Sensuality

    If you’re struggling to find time in solitude and stillness for yourself or desire to do more self-care- because, let’s face it, life can get real hectic sometimes- you’re not alone! You’re drained, overstretched, and life is too busy.

    And then you need to squeeze in time for dating and sex too? Ha! In your dreams!

    So what if I told you today’s post would guide you into deep bliss of sweetness that will boost your libido and desire to be intimate with your honey? What if I also told you that self-care could be deeply sensual and yummy too?

    Ladies! To make this accessible and easy for you, we’ve created a 14 day-challenge to dive deeper into your sensuality. We hope you find value in this just as we did. 

    Day 1

    Luscious Vulva

    Look at and feel your yoni and see precisely what your beautiful flower looks like. Find your outer lips, inner lips, and vaginal opening. Touch it with tenderness. Study the colours, shapes, and textures of your unique flower. Take time to appreciate your yoni’s unique beauty and her amazing potential. 

    Day 2

    Treat your yoni well.

    Make your yoni a chemical-free zone. No soap or feminine hygiene around the mucus membrane or inside the vagina. Soap and all forms of hygiene products are harsh for your yoni. Treat it with love, care, and lots of tenderness. 

    Day 3

    Blossoming Yoni

    Place your fingers firmly on either side of your vaginal opening and press down, feeling through the skin and fatty tissue to the muscles and the bulbs beneath them. Explore the different ways you can rub, squeeze, and stimulate them, discovering what inspires them to enlarge. Take a look in the mirror and notice how the whole shape of your vulva is altered. Enjoy!

    Day 4

    Be Here. Now. 

    Right now, our world is moving faster than it has ever before. We are navigating new technological spaces and connecting virtually more than ever; in between these spaces, we often plan one thing to the next without really being present in anything. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

    When your body and mind are at ease when you are not planning for the future or thinking about the past, that is what is truly special; those are the moments we feel- in our body, with our mind, a pure connection. 

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    Day 5

    It’s okay to want to be alone. 

    It’s okay to say no to a gathering you do not feel like spending your time. It’s okay to need some space and take time to yourself, give yourself the gift of giving, and schedule it even if you have to. Permit yourself to take care of your soul.

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    Listen to your body

    Communicate with your body to align with your needs and desires. Create a conversation with yourself and ask your body, the most intimate parts, what they have to say. Allow the parts of you that often go unnoticed a space to be heard. 

    Dedicated time for stillness in your body and mind. You’ll discover new ways of touch or old ones continuously hitting the spot. After all, this is the time to awaken and be in your most divine feminine truth and sensual power. ⠀

    Day 7

    Take the time to learn about your body.

    We do self-pleasure in secret by staying quiet, performing quickly, and taking as little space as possible. We rarely give ourselves the time to notice the small things about how we like to receive pleasure and want intimacy when we are not with a partner. 

     Connect with your desires. Set aside some alone time. Take a relaxing bath. If lighting up candles, playing relaxing music, and putting on sexy lingerie gets you in the mood, then do it. Make sure to turn off your phone, lock your door, and be present with yourself. 

    Day 8

    Breathe

    Focusing on your breathing helps build a deeper connection with your body and calms down the nervous system. It brings your awareness back to the present and helps you escape distracting thoughts. Just concentrate on deep inhaling and exhaling, and your body will take care of the rest. 

    Day 9

    Nourish 🌹⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

    Sharing with you this delicious recipe for Golden Rose Latte, my favourite thing to be sipping with a dose of adaptogen love and soothing colours as we transition to fall. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

    Brew in Milk:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

    2 cups Organic Regular, Oat, Coconut or Almond⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

    1/2 tsp turmeric, ground⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

    1/2 tsp cinnamon⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

    1/2 tsp ginger powder or fresh grated⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

    pinch black pepper⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

    1/4 tsp cardamom powder⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

    1/2 tsp rosewater (add at the end) ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

    few strands saffron⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

    pinch of rose petals to garnish⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

    honey or maple syrup according to taste⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

    xo

    Day 10

    Move those hips 🤸🧡⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

    Pelvic rigidity is a common condition affecting the free flow of energy in the spinal cord and throughout the body. The rigidity cuts off a direct flow of energy into the pelvis and creates stagnation and a lack of fluidity, emotion, and pleasure.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

    This rigidity is commonly due to gender conditioning- boys are taught to control the sway of their hips as it’s too feminine, and women are condemned to swing their as it suggests being provocative and naughty.⠀

    No wonder there is such a massive gap in our connection to intimacy. It will feel weird at first if you are not used to it, but get a hula hoop, dance in your bedroom, practice making circles with your hips, and open the portal to what is your greatest power and pleasure source you have!

    Day 11

    Inhale ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

    Take a breath in through your yoni, and let it travel up your spine to your navel, all the way to your heart.

    Expand the ribs, drawing the breath up the throat. Exhale. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

    Release the breath out through the mouth. Let the breath flow like sweet, fresh waterfall water.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

    Repeat. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

    Until.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

    Bliss.

    Day 12

    Let’s talk self-care!!

    Most women usually have some form of routine or nurturing, although it could always be more intentional, and we often forget key body parts. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

     Do you massage your breasts? Do you care for your breasts the way you rub your legs or spend time rubbing the suds out of your hair? Our breasts, located right around our hearts, serve as beautiful reminders of our femininity, and they love to be cared for. How do they like to be touched, held, and cupped?

     Rubbing in a circular motion towards your heart increases circulation, awakens the heart chakra, and softens your nervous system allowing for more pleasure and presence. ⠀⠀

    Day 13 

    Sacred space.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

    It‘s essential to have a clean, inspiring, beautiful and inviting space to call yours, whether in your bedroom, a meditation corner, or a room where you can work out, pray or nap in the sunshine.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

    This is key to also having the pleasure time that you want. Just like our mind when it’s full of things we can not center, we can not find the clarity to ground and sink into deliciousness. 

    Day 14

    What is Pleasure Mapping? How will it transform your sex life?

    Pleasure mapping is a practice, like yoga or meditation, to better explore your body on a deeper level and expand your ability to receive more pleasure. 

     It’s the practice of getting to know your body and how it responds to various touches, sensations, and potential emotional stories held in those areas. In pleasure mapping, we’re just noticing everything. 

    Where do we feel resistance? What do we enjoy the most? How can we change up our routine to experience more pleasure? It’s an incredible way to practise slowing down and savouring the journey. 

     

    Your friend cannot miss this.  Share it with your BFF right now <3

     

    This post was written in collaboration with The Pleasure Plus. I’d highly recommend you check out the courses and other services that are offered by Simone Farschi, the founder of the brand. 

     

    xo

    Yachna

     

    P.S. The ultimate guide to becoming a sexual goddess. 

     

    (Picture Credits from top to bottom- Pinterest, Fertility Awareness, Alexasha_zmi, Valeriya Komarova, Vintage Feeling, Badass Limited, The Pleasure Plus)

     

     

     

     

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  • 9 Hot Tips For The Best Period Sex.

    9 Hot Tips For The Best Period Sex.

     

    You should be able to have sex whenever you want to. Life is too short to NOT have sex for a week every month. Especially not when our bodies crave it the most!!!

    Of course, you may be strongly opposed to the idea, considering how disgusting we assume it to be (thanks, society) and think it’s the worst, and that’s fine, too. 

    Period sex can feel like stepping into an unknown territory which can cause fear. And, no, it will not be some insane bloody crime scene (although there will be blood). 

    With these hot tips, you’ll have a good idea of what to expect during period sex with a partner or sex with yourself.

    1) Goodbye cramps

    Orgasms are the best cure for your cramps! You may think popping your favourite pain killer will do the trick and can contribute to a degree. Period sex can be messy, but there’s nothing as powerful as orgasms during period sex that will take away all the period pain. It’s because, with every orgasm, serotonin and dopamine are released into the body, and it’s the best painkiller you can give all those cramps. Whether it’s sex with a partner or sex with yourself, that orgasm is going to deliver.

    2) There’s even more lubrication

     There’s nothing different about period sex, except that there’s even more lubrication. If your vagina is on the dry side or has difficulty producing enough lubrication naturally, then period sex will likely be a welcome break from needing lube. The blood acts as extra lubrication, which is incredible. The wetness feels unbelievable!!

    But before you start thinking the whole “ew, blood” thing again, think about this: Yes, you’re bleeding when you menstruate. But, most of what you’re seeing is the shedding of your uterine lining. Not all of what you see is blood, as there are other fluids in there as well.

    3) Heightened sex drive

    Do you also feel like your hormones are bat-shit crazy during that time of the month? Use that in your favor1 so you and your partner can both enjoy the intensity you have sexually. Since period sex is taboo, it feels a bit risqué, making it hotter. Plus, you are extra-horny during your period, so to have sex and not hold back just because you’re on your period is a liberating feeling.

    4) Use a condom

    Safety first, always!

     Using a condom (any form of barrier birth control, and for oral sex, a dental dam) during period sex is a must for STI prevention. It makes for easier cleanup, which is essential if your partner gets easily nauseated about blood and lessens your chance of contracting bacteria. If blood in the vagina or uterus gets exposed to bacteria during unprotected sex, there are more places for bacteria to grow. 

    5) Pick a comfortable sex position

    The position is everything. Missionary or any position that involves having you on your back—is your best bet when your blood flow is on the heavier side. It’s simple: if you’re on top, there’s likely to be more blood than on the bottom. If you want something gentler—or feel bloated and gross—give in to the endless joy of spooning. 

    6) Use a dark-coloured towel

    I know, this is super obvious but it needs to be said.

    You may worry about creating a mess, or your partner may be grossed out.

    It’s easier for all the bloody mess to distract you and your partner from enjoying the sex. Yes, I agree having sex on your period may seem a little messy in theory, it’s not the bloodbath you’re envisioning.  

    You can’t forget a (dark) towel to put on your bed because things WILL get messy. You can even invest in a “sex blanket” designed to absorb liquids if you’re feeling a little fancy. Doing this will keep you from thinking about the mess. Instead, you’ll be present in the act, not the sheets or the situation.

    7) It’s super intimate

    It feels even better than regular sex- as if being on your period makes everything more sensitive and receptive to touch. Exposure to bodily fluids like blood can create real intimacy; some even believe that period sex is soul-binding with the other person. Soul binding or not, it’s super intimate to be with your partner in such a vulnerable, un-perfect state.

    8) Yes, you can still get pregnant

    Many things come up when people talk about period sex, and something that doesn’t come up enough is that you CAN get pregnant when you’re bleeding. So many people with vaginas have irregular cycles, so if you don’t know exactly when you’re menstruating and ovulating, you CAN get pregnant. 

    9) The Aftercare

    You may need to clean up after sex, especially on heavier flow days. Hopping in the shower after will make you feel the cleanest. Another option, keep a packet of baby wipes on hand for cleanup. Baby wipes are the holy grail for sensitive skin. 

     

    Is there anything you would add to this list? I’d love to hear in the comments below. 

     

    P.S.

    A 7-Step Guide To Becoming a Sex Goddess

     

    (Exquisite images by safiabahmedschwartz)

     

    This post was written for The Pleasure Plus. I’d highly recommend you check out the courses and other services that are offered by Simone Farschi, the founder of the brand. 

     



  • 9 Powerful Foods to Boost Your Sexual Health

    9 Powerful Foods to Boost Your Sexual Health

    Sex coach Simone Farschi, founder of the pleasure plus community has recommended these nine deliciously healthy foods that are good for you and help boost your libido. 

    Here are the top nine powerful foods to feel sexy-

    1) SPINACH: Popeye was right about spinach! Besides building big muscles, eating spinach can help you in a sexy mood by increasing blood flow below the belt. Packed with magnesium, a mineral that increases blood flow leading to crazy good orgasms!

    2) VITAMIN D: D is for desire. An essential part of every sexually healthy person’s diet. You can get vitamin D from both foods, such as mushrooms, egg yolks, fatty fish, etc. 

    3) MACA: boost your libido with this powerful Peruvian plant. MACA has been shown to improve semen production, increase sexual desire, and regulate hormones.

    4) GINSENG: Have you ever tried Ginseng Tea? Red ginseng extracts might be used as alternative medicine in menopausal women to improve their sexual life.

    5) WATERMELON: aka the new Viagra. Watermelon contains a compound called citrulline, which the body converts to arginine. Arginine relaxes blood vessels in the body like Viagra does, ultimately increasing libido. 

    6) ASPARAGUS: rich in vitamin B6 and folate (helps make red blood cells), which can boost arousal and orgasm.

    7) APPLES: regular daily apple consumption can boost sexual pleasure. They can stimulate blood flow to the sex organs, helping with arousal.

    8) CUCUMBERS: these are loaded with vitamin C and manganese, supporting sexual health, elevating energy, and increasing your sex drive.

    9) VITAMIN E: aka the “sex vitamin.” It increases libido and heightens desire. Consume 2 to 3 hours before any sexual activity 😉

     IMPORTANT: Eat at least three of these foods daily: the more, the better. 

     

    Do you have someone in mind that could benefit from this? Share with them here to show them you care ☺

     

    P.S.  juicy foods to eat before sex to make your night 

     

    (Pic Credits: Louis Fraga)



  • 8 Step Guide to Sex After Baby

    8 Step Guide to Sex After Baby

     

    Giving birth changes everything. You’re a parent now. When your body goes through such a powerful transformation, it’s only natural to feel discomfort, pain, and tiredness. Your priority is the miraculous new life you have created. Sleeping, eating, reading, drinking tea, you name it, and giving birth changes it.

    Does it mean you have to say goodbye to a sexy time with your partner? Giving birth does not mean saying farewell to your juicy sex life. The health experts recommend waiting for at least six weeks after giving birth before having sex again. But, you take as long as you need before you feel comfortable. Listen to your body and give it all the time it needs.

    Sex can be as satisfying as before your baby came along with these nine juicy tips approved by sex educator and intimacy coach Simone Farschi–

    1)Yoni Steaming 

    Yoni steaming is an ancient, powerful ritual and practice used in many cultures to support yoni wellness and feminine power. The healing herbs in the steam gently penetrate deep into the vaginal canal, cleansing the womb of toxins.

     It’s excellent practice for restoring connection from our female body, increasing yoni/uterus healing time from birth, cleansing, and getting you tuned in. 

    I would highly recommend you check out the ultimate guide to yoni steaming that you can do from the comfort of your home. 

    2) Sex without sex

     Fact: After birth, our bodies are less forgiving when it comes to penetration without full arousal.

     You may be well ready for sex but are worried that it might be painful. Most mothers find it challenging to get it on after childbirth, making it more challenging to go into sexual space mainly because our bodies are not ready. 

    Talk to your partner, and let them know you desire an intimate sexual connection. Forget about penetrative sex for a while. Instead, explore new and exciting ways to give and receive pleasure.

    HOT TIP: Don’t underestimate the power of deep intimacy of eye gazing or holding hands that have nothing to do with physical touch.

    Even if it’s just a few minutes to kiss before falling asleep at night. Let your partner know that you enjoy pleasure outside of lovemaking by saying, “I love it when you gaze into my eyes and gently kiss my lips.” Even if it’s a single moment, allow yourself to stay there a little longer. Take it slow. Enjoy each other’s bodies and enjoy the now without expectations of where it will lead. 

    3) It’s okay to ask for help

    Your mind and body need time to adjust physically and emotionally to this beautiful and exhausting new chapter of your life. 

    This can be a real challenge for most mothers. Next time you feel overwhelmed about your to-do list, pause and check in with yourself. Be honest about your needs. 

     Give yourself a break. Lean on your partner because trust me, they might not know what you need help with- so this is your opportunity to let them in. 

    4) Reconnect with your voice 

    Own your birth story. Claim your experience. This is something we often overlook. Be the writer of your story. Remember how strong you are and all the times that courage has pulled you through. 

    Reconnecting your voice starts with getting clear about your feelings and what you desire. You will find you have a new voice; she is strong, and it may feel overwhelming to see this new woman, but she’s a warrior, and she’s fierce. Embrace it. 

    5) Set aside time for romance

    Don’t let the romance fizzle out. Once the baby is a few months old, it might be wise to plan weekly date nights where you and your partner get to spend some much-needed alone time. Go out for a romantic candlelight dinner. Indulge in sensual massages or foot rubs. Cuddle with your partner, falling asleep in their arm. Let yourself feel your partner’s body. This will help you surrender yourself into a space of safety and receiving. 

    6) Keep talking to each other

    You need each other. Now, more than ever. Speak honestly with your partner about what feels good and what doesn’t. Many couples struggle to adapt to their new roles as parents. Check in on your partner daily. 

    Discuss: How are you feeling? How are we? How are we as parents? How are we as a couple? What can we do to be there for each other right now? 

     Remember, you are two people nurturing a new life together. Give space and honour each other’s experiences and emotions while supporting bringing it back to a plan for togetherness. 

    7) Be kind to your body

    The first few months after your baby’s birth are the toughest. Your body is recovering. Your body goes through numerous changes throughout pregnancy, including hormonal changes and weight gain. One of the major concerns women have is with their post-pregnancy body.

     Let go of any unrealistic expectations of what your body needs to look like post-childbirth. Find acceptance in the present state of your post-birth body. Always remember how powerful your body is, and the miracle is performed. Yes, your body did that! 

    Be kind and accepting of your body. Share positive messages with yourself. Your body and outlook on the world have changed, and that is beautiful, wise and attractive. 

    8) Invite new pleasure into your life

    Take time to move your body by doing daily stretches, taking walks with your baby, or indulging in long relaxing baths. There’s no rush. Start where you are, and listen to your body. The happy hormones released through exercise will do wonders for your mental health. Take a few deep long breaths. You got this, Mama! And for an added dose of self-love, schedule yourself that massage you so deserve! 

     

    Is there anything else that you would like to add to the list? I’d love to hear your thoughts/comments on this.

     

    Remember to share this with a momma to brighten up her day <3

     

    xx

    Yachna 

     

    P.S.

    6 powerful ways to reconnect with your mind, body, and soul 

     

    (Featured Image by Mehran Djojan)

     

  • If Not Now Then When?

    If Not Now Then When?

    Have you ever wandered on purpose? That’s what I did today. 

    It was a tropical day, and we went out to swim in the ocean. While I floated in the water, looking up at the sky, I saw an unbelievably beautiful scene unfolding before my eyes. I gazed at the night sky filled with stars twinkling in the sky. It looked so magical as though it’d grant me any wish. 

    Then it suddenly hit me. From time to time, it’s actually lovely to sail off without a map. I had a plan all my adult life—a road map of where I wanted my life to go. 

    I wasn’t happy where I was in life many years ago, and I knew there was so much more in store for me. This may or may not sound familiar to you. 

    I would talk about quitting my job, what I wanted to do, where I wanted to move, and discuss the dreams brewing in my head without taking any real action. 

    The decision to quit my high-paying 9 to 5 wasn’t an easy one. Crippled with indecision, I asked my mom for advice. “Instead of thinking you are stuck in your job, realize that your living is assured thanks to your job,” was her response. 

    Still, it bothered me that I was working in a job that I hated. My time wasn’t mine after all. It felt so wrong. I spent so long in indecision. Should I do it? Maybe a few more months. The longer I remained unsure, the less confident I felt. 

    The hard choices – what we fear the most doing, asking, saying – are very often exactly what we need to do. So, I decided to work up my courage and start my own business- this very blog.

     Being your boss is not all as glamorous as it sounds. The path is steep and rough. Trying to be successful at your business feels like a strong winter wind. But I tell myself that it will feel like a light summer breeze through hard work, consistency, and perseverance one day. Despite all the struggles every day, I am grateful for my choice.  

    We humans are very good at considering what might go wrong if we try something new. Most often, what we fail to consider is the brutal cost of not changing anything. The most difficult step ever is the first step. It comes with doubts, uncertainties, and all sorts of fears. 

    Ask yourself: If I avoid this action or decision and actions and decisions like it, what might my life look like in six weeks, months, and years? What do you see? 

    When I put this exercise into practice a few years ago, I was terrified of the picture I saw. It was then I realized that if you want momentum, you’ll have to create it yourself, right now, by getting up and getting started because the cost of inaction is more terrifying than the failure itself. 

     There’s always room to learn, to embark on an adventurous journey of self-discovery. To constantly shake up your routine, to let go of your fears and inhibitions. To invite more passion, creativity, and yumminess into your life. 

    This is your sign of waking up and taking that first step towards your dreams. Do something, even if it’s small, all while remembering this simple yet powerful quote from Seneca, “We suffer more in imagination than in reality.”

    xx

    Yachna

    (Featured Image by Lilly)

    P.S. Six powerful ways to reconnect with your mind, body, and soul.

  • Kiss Me: 9 Juicy Tips For An Unforgettable Kiss

    Kiss Me: 9 Juicy Tips For An Unforgettable Kiss

     

     

    The art of Kissing is something we often take for granted, at least as adults. After we’ve moved past our teen years, it almost seems like the least of your dating life concerns.

    But let’s be honest, we all want to be kissed in a way that makes you weak in the knees. 

    As usual, we’ve got you covered with the best 9 juiciest kissing tips that will make your world go upside down 😉

     1) Consent is sexy 

    Nothing is sexier than asking for consent. An unforgettable kisser seeks approval before going in for the kiss. Just by simply asking, ‘Can I kiss you?’ you can affirm the presence of a “yes,” not just the absence of a “no.” Once you know, your lover is feeling it, and they’ve said yes, proceed by holding eye contact with the sexy little lean-in. Or, if you want your partner to kiss you, you can look them in the eyes and say, “I’d love for you to kiss me right now.”

    2) Be sure to ask 

    Kissing is such a powerful thing, yet we rarely take the time to ask our partners how they would like to be kissed. During a make-out session, the best thing you can do is ask your partner how they want to be kissed. Even something as simple as, “Does this feel good” or “Do you like this?” will do the magic. You’ll never know unless you ask. And, it’s a shame not to ask. 

    3) Be present

    Your partner should feel your interest in them through your mouth. 

     Use your body language- eye contact, place your hand on your partner’s cheek — to create a connection while you’re making out. Pay attention to your partner’s body language and arousal. Being present in the moment allows you to surrender to your partner’s sugar lips, making it a steamy kiss. 

    A passionate kiss is usually done privately to allow both people to let their guards down and get into it. The moment of surrender is magical. 

    4) Close your Eyes

    Kissing is a holistic sensory experience — smell, taste, and touch. Did you know that the other senses become heightened when you close your eyes? Try this: close your eyes the next time you take a bite of pizza; you’ll see that it tastes even more exquisite. So, closing your eyes while kissing takes the Kissing to the next level of passion and intimacy.

    5) Slow and sensual

    There’s no reason to rush, and each kiss should feel like you mean it! The best kiss starts slow and tender—like a soft touch of lips. Press your lips directly onto hers. Pull your partner closer to you and deepen the pressure of the kiss. Part your lips and gently use your tongue to stimulate your partner’s lips and tongue. Tongue tips often dance together and give a sexy idea of what they might be doing to other body parts later that evening. 

    Run your fingers up and down the nape of the neck, right where her hair meets the flesh. Let your lover know how much you cherish them holding them in a passionate embrace while time stands still all around you. 

    Watch your lover start to go wild on you, but we’re just getting started…

    6) French Kissing

    French Kissing is a super sexy instrument in your toolbox. 

    Start by using the tip of your tongue to make soft, slow, and sexy swirls around your partner’s tongue. Think of it as you’re massaging each other’s tongues. Suck and rub your partner’s tongue slowly — but not too hard.

    Too much tongue!

     A little tongue is delicate, but no choking with it. It’s a huge turn-off when someone uses too much tongue. It’s more surprising and fun if it’s gentle. 

    7) Wanderlust

    A passionate kiss is not limited to just the lips. It’s tender; light kisses up the neck under the chin. Slowly moving the way to the neck. Then, behind the ears and down the neck, along the shoulders, and across the collar bone. Feel the magic-like sensation taking over your body. 

    8) Tease me, baby

    “Touch me. Tease me. Play with my body.”

    Sucking the upper or lower lip will drive your partner wild. Seductive them by sucking on their bottom lip as the kiss lingers. Lips are incredibly arousing as they house infinite nerve endings, and doing this immediately puts you in the best-kisser category. 

    9) Sugar lips

    Having soft, pillowy lips makes everything better. You need to have soft and moisturized lips for the kiss to be even sexier. This is with a major impact on the entire process. Use a hydrating lip balm for soft sugar lips. 

    BONUS HOT TIP.

      Moan, if it feels incredible. Even though moaning may be something you save for the bedroom, soft moans add to the sexiness and even make for a better kiss. 

    xx

    Yachna

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  • Goodbye.

    Goodbye.

    As Nelson Mandela once quoted  “The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.”

    We have collectively dealt with hardships, disappointment, and loss during the pandemic in the past year. 

    When expectations are shattered, there can be broken hearts. 

    “I feel stuck; all my cups have spilled. The only thing that remains is this hollow emptiness.”  This year more than ever, I felt overwhelmed with the feeling of being stuck while I ruminated on my pain and regrets. 

    This year felt like fighting 365 battles. Some days were full of rainbows and sunshine. The others felt like drowning in the ocean, struggling to come up for that breath of fresh air. 

    Your soul has stood powerfully strong this year. No matter what came your way, you stand tall with unshakable faith. That’s all that matters. 

    Reflect on the lessons of your hardship and how you survived each one of the roadblocks. How has this year strengthened you?

    Remember: every disappointment and heartbreak presents itself as the opportunity to grow and learn from it.

     Sometimes we must take a few steps backward to move forward. 

     It is said that darkness teaches us lessons that light could never. The brightest stars rise out of the darkness.

    As we step into the new year, think about what is holding you back from taking the next big step in your life? What would you do if nothing stood in your way? 

     Shine a light on your fears. Striking out a new path often feels uncomfortable and scary. Let yourself feel this, and know that growing always comes from discomfort and pain. 

    Explore new territories. Step into the new beginnings and adventures into the unknown. 

    Your journey is uniquely yours, with all its bumps and detours. Let your inner light guide you to the galaxies of stars. The best is yet to happen. 

    Have a magical new year ✨✨✨

    xx

    Yachna

  • Is Solo Sex Cheating?

    Is Solo Sex Cheating?

    Is Solo Sex Cheating?

    So, you’ve got a lover—and things are great. 

    But sometimes, you’ve just got to *ahem* take care of yourself. Is this normal? Or maybe you’ve walked in on your lover doing the same thing. That can feel awkward at best and like a betrayal at worst. 

    But is it cause for concern?

    That notion that you’re cheating on your lover by using your vibrator? A total myth. 

    We often interpret our lover’s solo self-pleasure routine to mean that we don’t satisfy them. And that means they must not be attracted to us anymore. Not true!!

    In fact, the opposite is true. 

    The more you reinforce the benefits of self-pleasure as a couple and as individuals while continuing to communicate about your sex life, the better sex you’ll have. Working together to achieve billions of orgasms for everyone is part of the fun of sex in general, right?

    If your or your partner feels insecure because of the other’s self-openly and honestly, this happens to the best of us; it’s best to talk it through. Reassure your lover that it has nothing to do with your feelings for your partner, or your sexual satisfaction. Remember, the journey to endless pleasure starts with open and honest communication.

    Your partner does not like you indulging in self-pleasure without you. Have a conversation about it. Listen to them. It’s the unravelling of all these complex layers where we find hidden gems of intimacy and pleasure. The more you encourage the talk about your individual self-love practices in an open and honest way without judgment or shame, the better it will be for your relationship.

    Self-pleasure isn’t cheating and being partnered up doesn’t constitute ownership anyhow. Whether you’re in a relationship or not, your body is your own. Why do you need someone’s permission to touch yourself? Claim your sexual agency. Take ownership of your body and its needs.

    It simply comes down to a person doing what they want, and it’s an amazing way to love yourself and get in touch with your own energy. Self-pleasure with intention, and really feel yourself. Like with any self-care practice, if you focus on your creativity and positivity, you can use the powerful energy to help you through the day.

    This post first appeared on The Pleasure Plus. Written by yours truly 🙂

    xx

    Yachna

    P.S.

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    (Image by Lara Blacklock)