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Category: Relationships

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  • 20 Easy Things That Make You A Cool Person

    20 Easy Things That Make You A Cool Person

     

    Have you ever had a moment when you were struggling with something, and nobody seemed to notice or care?

    I remember carrying my heavy luggage down a flight of stairs at a railway station in Paris, and despite being surrounded by a sea of people, I felt invisible and alone.

    That is until a kind stranger appeared and offered to help me carry my luggage down the stairs. It was such a nice thing to do – a stranger offering to help another stranger.

    It made my day.

    The incident got me thinking about all the other little things people do to make our lives better and brighter.

    So, if you’re in the mood for a dose of positivity and inspiration, you’re in for a treat!

     

    1. Being patient with someone

    I remember how my screenwriter professor always took the time to explain things to me, no matter how many times I asked. He never showed any frustration or irritation – instead, he would explain it all with the same enthusiasm he had the first time. Moments like these always stick with us and make us feel grateful. Of course, I am not blessed with much patience, so this is something I need to work on the most. 

     

    2. Asking others to join rather than offering them 

    Imagine this scenario – You receive an invitation from someone who says, “I am having a get-together tonight. You can join if you want.” Now, imagine receiving an invitation from someone who says, “I am having a get-together tonight, and I really want you to be there.” Can you feel the difference in how that makes you feel?

     

    3. Being a reflective listener 

    Do you ever find yourself conversing where the other person seems disinterested or distracted? It’s not a great feeling, right? Well, the good news is that you can be the exception! Just give them your full attention, and show you’re really interested in what they’re saying by asking open-ended questions. No more boring “hmm” or “ok” responses, ok? Trust me, it’s these small changes that can have a big impact. 

     

    4. Hyping up someone’s progress

    Do you have that one friend who’s been sweating it out at the gym every day or the friend who took the leap to quit their job and start a small business? 

     A simple but heartfelt compliment, like, “I can see all the progress you’re making, and it’s awe-inspiring. Keep it up. I’m rooting for you!” can make their day and motivate them even more.

     

    5. When someone is excited about something and shares it with you

    it doesn’t matter how mundane or common that thing is to you; share their excitement.

     

    6. Smiling at strangers

    This one time, I was at an NYC subway looking down at my phone, and when I looked up, a very cute guy looked at me and put on the brightest, most loving smile ever before I stepped on it. This rarely happens to me, so naturally, it felt nice. At that moment, I realized a smile can do wonders. A smile can someone’s entire day or even save their life. 

     

    7.  Say what you feel

     When someone asks you to text them when you get home safely, you forget to get back to them. Then they reach out and ask if you made it home okay. That little gesture makes you feel cared for and valued. It’s like a warm hug in text form.

     

    8. Getting back to others about stuff they recommended 

    Have you ever received a recommendation from a friend or family member about a book or movie they love?

    Imagine how thrilled they would be if you took their recommendation and actually read the book or watched the movie! And you might end up falling in love with it, too. It’s always great to share the joy of a wonderful recommendation with someone.

    9. Say what you feel

    Have you ever come across someone who speaks their mind without any sugar-coating or giving the silent treatment? I really admire such people because it saves everyone involved from the exhausting mind games and misunderstandings that often come with hiding our true feelings. 

     

    10.  Genuinely complimenting people

    One of the best ways to make someone feel appreciated is by complimenting them. We’re not just talking about the usual stuff about how they look, but something that really shows them that you appreciate their unique qualities.

    Like when you tell someone, “I always learn something new from you – that’s why I love talking to you,” you’re letting them know that you see the good in them and that you appreciate their unique qualities.

    So, go ahead and spread some positivity today by giving someone a sincere compliment!

     

    11.  Making someone feel comfortable in your presence. 

     

    12. When your cart is full, you let someone with a few items go ahead of you in line at the grocery store.

     

    13.  Wishing someone a birthday at midnight. 

     

    14. Remembering  the little details about someone

    Knowing that someone cares enough to pay close attention to the small things can really brighten your day. Maya Angelou said it best: “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

     

    15.  Always saying “good morning” and “goodbye” to people.

     

    16.  Asking if somebody wants anything when you go to the store.

     

    17. Expressing appreciation and gratitude towards others. 

    Do you ever want to tell someone how much they mean to you but don’t know how to say it? It’s actually pretty simple. Write down what this person does or brings that makes you think highly of them. A simple “thank you for being in my life” can go a long way in making someone’s day brighter.

    18. Making others feel included and important. 

     

    19. When your cart is full, you let someone with a few items go ahead of you in line at the grocery store.

     

    20. Checking on others who are clearly not doing okay.

     

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    Just so you know, I do not do all these things all the time. I don’t always greet people or smile at them, or follow up on someone’s recommendation. I am in no way perfect. So, this is just as much a reminder to myself as it is for you.

     

     

    xo

    Yachna

     

     

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  • The Person You End Up With Might Not Be Your Soulmate

    The Person You End Up With Might Not Be Your Soulmate

     

     Mia: It’s pretty strange that we keep running into each other.

    Sebastian: Maybe it means something.

    Mia: I doubt it.

    Sebastian: Yeah, I didn’t think so.

                                    –   La La Land

     

    So, the other night, I rewatched one of my all-time favourite movies, La La Land. Let me tell you, it was even better than I remembered! 

    Now, I know what you’re thinking, “But I’m not a fan of musicals.” Trust me, I get it. But this movie is different. The colours, the mood, the cinematography… it’s all just so visually stunning! 

    But let’s get to the real reason I’m here: the ending. Spoiler alert!

    As I’ve grown older and (hopefully) a bit wiser, I’ve come to appreciate the ending even more. It’s the perfect conclusion to an already perfect film.

    It’s so refreshing to see a film that doesn’t give in to the typical cliché of a “happily ever after” ending. This is real life, baby! Instead, it portrayed the reality of life, where things don’t always go as planned. 

    It got me thinking about soulmates and how movies and books have ingrained in us the belief that there is one perfect person out there who is meant to be our other half. We’ve been conditioned to expect a storybook romance where our prince charming comes riding in on a white horse, and we live happily ever after. But the truth is, that’s just not how life works.

    In the movie, they both share a common dream – to make it big in their respective careers. Seb is a struggling jazz pianist, while Mia is an aspiring actress looking for her big break. They both help each other realize their dreams, even if it means making sacrifices. 

    Seb knew Mia’s dreams would take her to Paris, and he didn’t want to hold her back. Similarly, if Seb had gone with Mia, he would have never been able to open his own jazz club. 

    It’s bittersweet, but they both fulfilled their dreams in the end.

    Sometimes, the person who helps you realize your dreams isn’t always the one you end up with, and that’s okay.

    In the end, Mia and Seb nod at each other and smile, knowing they will always have a special place in each other’s hearts. 

    The story of Mia and Seb teaches us that sometimes, love is not just about being together forever. Some people are not meant to be in our life forever.  

     We think our soulmate is the one who makes our heart skip a beat or sweeps us off our feet. 

    Instead, it could be the person who’s there for us who we feel the most calm with. It could be the person whose shoulder we are leaning on when we’re at our lowest. It could be the one wiping away our tears and holding us close until the sadness fades away.

    They push us to be the best version of ourselves. They may not be our forever, but they significantly impact our lives.

    When we think soulmate we automatically assume forever. But what if you don’t end up with someone you thought was your soulmate?

    Does that mean your love wasn’t true or strong enough? Absolutely not. 

    It just means that not everyone is going to be your forever person. Not everyone is going to stay…even if they really want to. Some people are going to have to leave. Even soulmates. 

    If you ever get the chance to find a soulmate somewhere, treasure it. Adore. Love them, and let them love you back. But,  if you don’t end up with your soulmate, don’t let yourself become bitter. Don’t let yourself give up on bigger or better loves.

    Instead, be grateful that you were fortunate enough to experience a love so beautiful, pure, meaningful, and genuine. 

    Real love is hard to find, and not everyone is lucky enough to experience it. 

    Embrace the love you had, and know that the universe has a different path in store for you.

    Look back on those golden memories and let them bring warmth on your coldest days. Look back at him with a smile on your face and know that you aren’t going to crumble without him by your side. 

    We all have lessons to learn in life, and maybe those big relationships are there to teach us how to love someone wholeheartedly. And when it’s time to move on, we must pick ourselves up and keep going.  

    Remember, the journey is just as important as the destination.

     

    xo,

    Yachna

     

  • 6 Things Guys Do When They Don’t Like You

    6 Things Guys Do When They Don’t Like You

     

    Attention ladies!

    If you’ve ever found yourself wondering whether the guy you’re talking to is really into you, then listen up.

    Trust me, you don’t want to miss this.

    I’ve been talking to some of my friends and noticed that many girls miss the critical signs that he’s just not that into you.

    So, if your bestie is a bit delulu when it comes to love, pass this on to her!

     

    1. Leaving you on delivered/seen

    Listen up: sending a text takes only three seconds. So if a guy claims he’s too busy to reply to you or can’t be bothered to make an effort, drop him like a hot potato. If he constantly leaves you hanging, it’s time to show him the door. Just drop him and move on, girl! You deserve someone who values your time and effort. 

     

    2. Cancelling plans last minute 

    Let me paint a picture for you: it’s date night, and you’re feeling absolutely fantastic. You’ve gone the extra mile, shaving even where you’re not supposed to shave, picked out the perfect outfit after trying on every piece of clothing in your closet, and did your makeup flawlessly. 

    And just when you’re about to head out the door, your date hits you with the classic “Oh, I have a work thing…” excuse. Come on, let’s be honest here. Guys will do anything to spend time with the girl they like – I’m talking about moving mountains if they have to. 

     

    3. He’s breadcrumbing you

    His replies start getting super dry out of nowhere. I am talking about a short, boring, one-word response. Or worse, leaving you on read.  

     You might think, “Maybe he’s just busy,” but then he suddenly texts you again after a few days and disappears again after a couple of messages. Trust me, he’s just leading you on with breadcrumbs. Don’t fall for it!

    He’s not fully ghosting you yet. He’s keeping you around. 

    You might think, “Well, he’s liking my stories and posts, so he must be into me.” Yeah, that’s a breadcrumb too. 

    Ladies, take note: guys never change their energy with the girls they really like.

     

    4. He doesn’t initiate contact 

    You’re always initiating conversations or sending the first text, and it feels like the other person isn’t as interested as you are.

    “Look! he was so nice and flirty in response, and we actually had such a fun conversation.” you might tell your friend. 

    Yes, he may be lovely and flirty in his responses, but have you ever noticed that he rarely reaches out to you first? This is what gets a lot of women confused.

     I mean, you’re getting all these mixed signals from him, but is he really that interested if he’s not making an effort to talk to you? 

    Instead of getting caught up in his responses, ask yourself how often he’s starting the conversation. That’s what really matters.

     

    5. He’s playing hard to get

    Girlfriend! Let me tell you this: there’s no such thing as he’s playing hard to get. You’re playing too hard to get rid of. Ouch!!! I know it’s harsh, but there’s someone better for you. Let that man go!!!!

     

    6. You just know

    If a guy is into you, it’s pretty damn obvious. You don’t need to go all Nancy Drew trying to uncover hidden clues or secret codes. It’s as clear as day when a guy wants to be with you. 

    And if you’re questioning whether he’s into you, chances are he’s not. 

    Let’s be real – if you have to resort to tarot cards to figure out if he likes you, he’s probably not worth your time. 

    When a guy wants you, he won’t make it a mystery. He won’t try to play games or confuse you. Instead, he’ll make it crystal clear that he’s interested in you.

     

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    I am just telling you this…so you don’t waste your time on a man who’s probably texting another girl as you read this post.

    I know the feeling when you’re hopelessly waiting for someone who’s probably not even thinking about you. Yeah, it sucks. But you don’t have to put up with it!

    Ladies, you deserve nothing but the purest and most genuine love. You deserve to be adored and spoiled by all the love and attention. Don’t settle for less, especially when someone shows you they’re uninterested.

    Trust me, I know it’s easier said than done, but you should never have to beg for love and attention. You should be overflowing with it!

    And you should never feel like your standards are too high. You are amazing and deserve someone who makes you feel that way.

    So don’t waste your time on someone who’s not obsessed with you (in a healthy way, of course).

    Instead, hold out for someone who truly appreciates everything that makes you unique and special.

     

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    Is there anything you’d add to this list? I’d love to hear some of your experiences in the comments below. Stay safe and make smart decisions y’all <3  :*

     

    xo,

    Yachna

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

  • Honor Your Parents

    Honor Your Parents

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

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    P.S.

    A guide to honouring yourself <3

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

  • Let Go Of The People Who Aren’t Ready to Love You

    Let Go Of The People Who Aren’t Ready to Love You

     

    During a recent conversation with a friend, she opened up to me about a guy she’s dating.

    She expressed her frustration saying that she knows she should let go of this guy, as she is tired of all the excuses he gives her.

    Something she said really struck me. She said that a part of her is terrified to let go because she is afraid that if she does, it will be the end of everything, and she’ll never hear from him again.

    Despite his indifference towards her, she finds it hard to walk away, knowing that ending things will make it permanent, and she’s not ready for that kind of finality.

    Her words really resonated with me, and I could feel the weight of her emotions.

    If you, too, are going through this, I am really sorry. It’s a tough time, and you might feel lonely and isolated. Don’t let this get the best of you. It may be painful right now, but the winter never lasts forever- brighter days are ahead.

    It’ll be the most difficult and important thing you’ll do for yourself.

    The truth is, it’s never easy to let go of someone, even when we know it’s for the best. But sometimes, holding on can cause us more pain in the long run.

    If you find yourself being constantly left out, easily forgotten, and fading away from someone’s life, don’t fight to earn a spot in their life.

    It’s so tempting to try harder and impress them, thinking that flipping over backwards will make you special to them. It won’t.

    You are doing yourself a huge disservice by constantly pushing yourself into someone’s life.

    You are worth more than someone who is indifferent to your presence or absence. It’s the worst feeling to be treated like you don’t matter or are insignificant.

    Yeah, it might hurt, but the truth is, you don’t always get to know why things happen. Stop giving your love to those who aren’t ready to love you.

    Accept this loss with class and grace because the truth is, you’ll never be enough for someone who isn’t ready for what you have to offer.

    You can’t allow just anyone to enter your life. That’s not bad bitch behaviour. You must have strong boundaries and be willing to cut ties with anyone who doesn’t treat you with the respect and care you deserve.

    So, stop being sad.

    Pick yourself up, pour your energy into self-improvement, and watch how much progress you make.

    We can’t be everything to everyone, and that’s okay. We should focus on being everything to ourselves.

    When you truly understand your worth and prioritize high-value, meaningful connections, you’ll attract people who align with your frequency.

    And, when we are true to ourselves, we don’t have to force ourselves into someone else’s life.

    Yes, your heart is broken, and life is dark….wait in the darkness for a little bit.

    And then…

    You’ll meet so many wonderful people who’ll love and care for you just as much as you do for them.

    Stay positive and keep shining – you deserve the best, so make space for it!

     

    xo

    Yachna

     

    P.S.

    if you are sad and heartbroken, this is for you. 

  • How to Live A Magical Life

    How to Live A Magical Life

    Hello Readers!

    Have you ever wished your life was more… magical, dreamy, and euphoric? 

    Real life can be bland and boring. Nothing is exciting about following the same monotonous routine: waking up, eating breakfast, grind all day, commute home, watch Netflix and then doing it all over the next day.

    We never received a Hogwarts attendance letter on our 11th birthday. Hogwarts’ secret corridors, moving staircases, glamorous balls, robes and endless feasts. It certainly made our muggle schools seem incredibly dull and lacking in… well, magic. Neither did we ever meet talking rabbits or grinning Cheshire cats. But still, we want to believe in the possibility of magic, or at least, I do.

    So, in no particular order, here are some ways to sprinkle magic in your life. I hope these resonate with you and help you to add magic to your everyday life.

    1. Gratitude.

    I read somewhere, “When you are grateful, fear disappears, and abundance appears. Write three things you are thankful for. Somedays, it can be really difficult to come up with something. On days like that, look around and appreciate the little things, such as a healthy and happy family & friends, a cozy home, good food, and music. By appreciating the seemingly small things, you sprinkle magic into your daily life and make space for more magic. 

    2. Reconnect with your inner child and keep playing. 

    Grind all day. Commute home. Watch TV. Go with the flow. Follow the crowd. Do what’s expected. Or, take up a new hobby that makes your heart sing. Sign up for that pottery or makeup class, and have fun with it. You’re never too old to be who you wanna be or try something new for the first time. Always stay curious, even if you’re an adult. Play keeps your soul young.

     

    3. Be in nature. 

    Nature is one of the most magical places. Swim naked in the sea. Channel a mermaid. Plan a picnic in your local park. Take a trip to the mountains. Magic is constantly happening in nature. Watch the magnificent sunset melt into the sky and feel the morning sunlight greet your mind, body, and soul with warmth and positivity. 

     

    4. Find your soul tribe.

    Friends are an essential part of our lives. When you connect with like-minded souls, there is an energy and vibration that is magical and contagious. Having strong and meaningful friendships not only changes lives, but it has the power to change the world. Everyone deserves wonderful lifelong friendships and the unforgettable memories that comes with it!

    5. The magical touch of kindness.

    Life becomes easier and more beautiful when you are kind to yourself as well as the other people. We are all beautifully unique and miraculous. We need to recognize our self-worth and celebrate who we are. The day we treat ourselves with the kindness and love that we deserve is the day the world will become a much more loving, peaceful place. 

     

    6. Embrace Solitude. 

    Something strange and wondrous begins to happen when we embrace time in solitude, in the company of nature, far from the deafening judgment of the human world and its opinions. Use solitude as a tool for personal growth, a source of motivation and inspiration for career endeavours, or to enhance your relationship with the people around you.

    7. Infuse your life with love. 

    Love is a magical feeling. The more I live through life, the more I realize how important it is to see everything through the eyes of love. I have realized that when I infuse the energy of pure, unconditional love into everything that I am and do, the more magic I unlock in my life. Give love. Share love. Speak love. It’s the highest vibration you can feel, and from that place, amazing opportunities and high-value experiences emerge. Love is magic.

    8. Be present.

    The most magical time I have is doing an activity with my little nephew. It’s mesmerizing to watch the light shining from his soul as he’s immersed in his current activity. Kids have no sense of the past or future, so they bring their awareness into the present moment. If you find yourself constantly worried or stressed, take up meditation. This is the app that I use for my daily meditation. 

     

     Since we are all so different, please share how you sprinkle magic into your daily life. I’d love to know in the comments below <3

     

    Art Credits- Pinterest 

  • Why We Are Lonely

    Why We Are Lonely

    I once read that the worst pain isn’t the kind everyone can see clearly- wailing on street corners and tearing at clothes. No, the worst kind happens when your soul weeps; no matter what you do, there’s no way to comfort it. 

    To me, this is what loneliness feels like. 

    Moving to a new city, stuck in an unfulfilling job, depression, social anxiety, low self-esteem, and no friends.

     Sometimes it’s none of those things, and sometimes it’s all of those things. Sometimes, it’s brief. Sometimes, it’s more long-lasting. Sometimes, it makes sense, and sometimes, it doesn’t make any sense at all. 

    Loneliness is not an easy thing to describe. I can barely even explain it to myself. It’s unique to each person, which is why it is so complicated. 

    While researching this topic, I looked up the term loneliness; the first thing that popped up was “sadness because one has no friends or company.” 

    That’s not entirely true. It wasn’t in my case, at least for me.

    It was around the time when I was surrounded by people almost constantly. 

    For instance, after spending hours at a dinner party, I return home exhausted, overwhelmed and depressed, which is absolutely nobody’s fault. But then, after spending a day or two in silence, reading, writing, and going for long walks, I feel better again. 

    In recent years, I have been stuck in this paradox where, deep inside, I wanted to socialize and hang out with friends, but quickly, my social battery gets empty, and I feel alone.

     I take a few days for myself. And then, if I’m just a bit more alone than I need, I start feeling this deep loneliness that I feel is tearing me apart. It’s a strange feeling. 

     From my experience, constantly being lonely is not just what you feel; it’s what you become. You are trapped inside the bubble of your thoughts and feelings and accept that state of mind as your home. 

    A few years ago, while working nine-to-five, I was surrounded by people I couldn’t deeply connect with. I soon realized I wanted to work for myself rather than for someone else. But I still needed to figure out clearly what I wanted to do. 

     Naturally, I started feeling disconnected from the people, my surroundings and worse, from myself. It doesn’t mean anything was wrong with those people or with me. 

    It’s just that I wasn’t fully living a life aligned with what I truly wanted to do. I know that might sound cliché and cheesy, but sometimes, you realize those things after you’ve invested so much of yourself in them.

    Even though I desperately wanted to quit the job, another part of me felt I should be grateful. After all, I was doing exactly what I always envisioned myself to do. 

    These things happen. Sometimes, we spend years doing something only to realize that this is different from what we want to be doing. 

     Don’t beat yourself up for it. After all, we’re just human beings. 

    We grow, learn, change, and that’s just life. It’s never too late to be who you want to be and live the way you want to live. 

    Now that I am out of that dark phase, I can see things clearly. You know, like when you’re in an unhealthy relationship and can see only after you’re out. 

    Before I share my thoughts on what happened between then and now and what I learned, I want to clarify that I am no therapist. 

    I’m just someone sharing my experience in the hopes of someone finding something valuable, and even if you don’t, that’s fine.

    Anyway, here’s what I learned during my low phase: 

    I was around people out of convenience than people who truly aligned with me. I learnt that if you don’t spend time with yourself, introspecting, you go along with whatever life throws at you instead of being the leader of your life.

    I recently came across a quote, “All of humanity’s problems stem from man’s inability to sit quietly in a room alone.” 

     Before, I would go along with people or even choose to be with whatever people out of fear of loneliness. 

    When I took the time to become friends with my inner world, I found a lot of answers and understood why I am the way I am, what my core values and morals are, what brings me joy and what doesn’t. 

    So, understanding yourself makes understanding others easier. This welcomes the opportunity for a genuine human connection, one of life’s most meaningful and fulfilling relationships.

    Some people don’t care about getting to know themselves and will do fine; everyone is different. 

    We may not even realize it, but the script we follow is not our own. The degree we choose, getting married by a certain age, the partner we pick, or how we spend our money. We try to please others at the expense of our own pleasure. 

    Whether that expectation is from society or within your family, we are taught to follow the crowd rather than the music of our hearts. 

     It’s like people who throw big fat weddings with a bunch of people who they don’t even really care about and who don’t care about them. 

    They don’t even really enjoy themselves because they’re not doing what they want to be doing but rather doing it to prove something to themselves or others. 

     That’s not what I call fulfillment in reality.

    So, if you don’t explore more of your inner world, you’ll get dragged along in life. You will end up in places where you don’t want to be, with people whose company you don’t enjoy, which will lead you to feel like you don’t belong, which might end up making you feel lonely. 

    So, instead of letting life lead you, be the fierce leader of your life.  

    Lastly, please keep in mind that everyone’s experience is different. There’s no right or wrong way to feel lonely. If you feel lonely, you are lonely. And that’s okay. 

     

    I would love to read about your experience and share some tips I’m sure others would, so feel free to share your stories in the comments below. I am sending you a big hug if you are going through this right now.

     

    Thank you so much for being here and reading.

     

    xo,

    Yachna

     

    Pic Credits- Pintrest 

  • How to Cope with Blah Days

    How to Cope with Blah Days

    Have you had those days when you’re not depressed but not excited? 

    All the days feel the same. It’s been over a week, and I can’t seem to shake this feeling away. Something’s a bit off, but I don’t know why or what it is. I am not depressed, exactly, but not excited about life. I am distracted and not very motivated, even though I have a million things on my list that need to be done.

    Experience has taught me that if I don’t take steps to address this mysterious unknown feeling blah feeling, then it snowballs into a massive depressive state which seems impossible to come out from. The key is to put yourself in a better headspace so you can more easily cope with this strange feeling. 

    Here are a few things that I have been doing to cope with this kind of day or even turn it around.

    1. Recognize that it’s a feeling and our moods, like waves go up and down. Shrug your shoulders, chin up, wear your favourite lipstick, and choose to make it through the day. Nothing’s wrong, and there is nothing wrong with you. It’s just the way you’re feeling-and; our feelings usually change. 

    2. Don’t be hard on yourself. Don’t beat yourself up for feeling blah, and miserable. Be patient, gentle, kind, and understanding with yourself. You’re no worse than others, as we ALL have blah days. 

    3. Do something rather than nothing. Do a few mindless tasks so you don’t just waste the day, and you’re likely to feel better and slightly productive once you’ve got those out the way, as they’re usually the things you never want to do!

    4. Only do as much as you have to. Somedays, it takes all your strength just to make it through the day. Preserve your energy. Read that book, watch that show, take a cozy nap and allow some things to slide. You can always get to them another day. 

    5. Be extra nice to yourself. One of the best ways to fight a dull cloudy day is to be extra loving to yourself and do the things that lift your mood and brighten your day. For example, go for a dessert, treat yourself to something relaxing, watch a show or a movie, have a long bubble bath, turn up your favourite music, eat your favourite meal, or call a loved one. Do all the kinds of things that you know will boost your mood. 

    6. Get outside. Take a half-hour walk out in nature to lift your energy and take your mind off everything.

    7. Cultivate inner love. Practise solitude. Have a sufficient amount of alone time. Sign up for yoga. Write in your journal, and meditate for at least 20 minutes. Bringing this calm stillness will do wonders for your soul. 

    8. Watch a comedy show. Laughter is the best medicine. Watch your favourite stand-up, go through your favourite meme account, listen to a comedy podcast, or watch funny videos to get that dose of belly laughter. 

     

    xo

    Yachna

     

    What do you do to get over your blah days? Let us know in the comments < 3  If you’re going through one right now, sending you warm hugs :* 

     

    P.S.

    A love letter <3

     

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  • 30 Life Lessons From 30 Years

    30 Life Lessons From 30 Years

     

    This week I turned 30.

    My heart is filled with gratitude and joy for experiencing another year across the sun. I still have so much growing up and learning to do. Even though everyone around me makes turning 30 scary and that life as I know it is over, I am thrilled to be starting this new chapter of my life.

    In honour of the occasion, here are 30 things I’ve collected over the years — observations, lessons, and reminders-

    1. The magic of gratitude.

    If there’s one thing that can stop negative thoughts and emotions in their tracks, it’s gratitude. Feel joy in every season of your life. It doesn’t matter whether it is stormy, rainy, or sunshine. A grateful heart is a magnet for miracles.

    2. Be your own hero.

    No one is coming to save you. Depend on yourself. You get to choose your next chapter. Be the writer and the hero of your story.

    3. Let the world surprise you.

    Keep your eyes and heart open. Withhold judgement. Think of all the people, experiences, shows, and stories you’d miss out on if you didn’t give them a chance. Allow the world to surprise you.

    4. Give in to the sweetness of doing nothing.

    Waste time. Go for long walks in nature. Lie down in the flowers. Fall asleep under a tree. Try out a new recipe. Read that book. Write a love letter to yourself. Paint. Knit something. Have a rest day or a year. In a world obsessed with productivity and keeping busy, reclaim the playful and creative energy within you because these “unproductive” hours are the soul-shaping hours of our lives.

    5. You are enough.

    Care for yourself the way you’ve always longed to be cared for. You deserve all the love, softness and kindness you always give others. You don’t need to exhaust yourself, proving it to others.

    6. Create your own definitions.

    People are full of suggestions on what your life should look like at any given age. But some words such as “happiness,” “success,” and “respect” you get to define for yourself.

    7. Create what you wish existed.

    Start your blog. Finish your book. Create your dream skincare line or a hair product that actually works for curly hair. Bring your craziest idea to life. Just do it.

    8. Comparison is the thief of joy.

    You can’t compare the sun, the moon, and the stars. They all shine in their own time. No same flowers blossom at the same time. Stop comparing yourself to others. Compare yourself to the person from yesterday.

    9. Enjoy the journey.

    You are exactly where you need to be today. Life is not a race. Take your time to the destination. Slow down and savour this moment…just like your favourite dessert.

    10. The first step is always the hardest.

    Just start. It takes a lot of courage and boldness to that take that first step. Do it alone. Do it, scared. Do it broke. Just take that first step and learn as you go. You don’t need to have it all figured out…just yet.

    11. Some goodbyes are inevitable.

    Sometimes our loved ones have to say goodbye to us. But you’ll still love them when they’re gone and keep them safe in your heart forever.

    12. Moms are always right.

    She’s your best friend. Listen to her. It turns out my mom has always been right. I just didn’t like her tone.

    13. No looking back.

    You can’t go back to the person you were yesterday. That person no longer exists. I love where you’re going.

    14. Everything takes longer than you think it will.

    Building friendships, relationships, starting your dream project. Everything good takes longer than we think, and life rarely goes as planned.

    15. Nobody can be uncheered with a balloon.

    Long walks in nature. Morning cuddles. Watching a beautiful sunset. A long candlelit bath. Jamming your playlist. Tender kisses on the forehead. Video chatting with someone you love. All these little things take up the most room in your heart. Cherish them.

    16. It’s time for a glow-up.

    There are no limitations on starting over. Drop the idea that you must always be who you have always been. Be a phoenix. Burn to ashes and reinvent yourself into who you’ve always wanted to be.

    17. Transform yourself in solitude.

    It’s okay and necessary to need quiet time to replenish your spirit. Find a healthy balance between connection and solitude.

    18. It’s okay to need help.

    It’s okay to need help sometimes. We were never supposed to do this alone.

    19. Speak up for yourself.

    You heal every time you muster the courage to speak up for yourself. Reclaim your power by making your own decisions.

    20. Burn brightly.

    Even if it provokes others, who are still afraid of their own light.

    21. Rejection is redirection.

    Whenever I thought I was being rejected by something good, I was redirected toward something even better. Believe it or not…many of my life’s greatest blessings have come in the form of rejection.

    22. Worship your body.

    Listen to it. Worship it. Honour it by treating it with kindness and tenderness.

    23. Daily Meditation.

    Create space in your daily day for quiet stillness, even for 10 minutes. It does wonders for your soul.

    24. Know when to walk away.

    Respect yourself enough to walk from people and places that don’t see the beauty in you.

    25. Keep it weird.

    The things that make you ‘weird’ are some of your best qualities.

    26. Perfectionism is a myth.

    Liberate yourself from the shackles of perfectionism by letting yourself be seen just the way you are.

    27. It’s okay to not be okay.

    Crying isn’t cringe. It’s a natural and healthy response to pain and sorrow in life. It provides a hard reset for your heart. Let it flow.

    28. Boundaries are hot.

    Create and stick to the boundaries that protect your softness.

    29. You are not vanilla ice cream.

    You can’t make everyone happy, and that’s okay. Stop worrying about what other people think. Be your own unique flavour, even if it’s not for everyone.

    30. Your intuition is your superpower…so listen to it.

     

    Thank you, as always, for reading.

     

    xo

    Yachna

     

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  • Top Six Tips for Being Independent in a Romantic Relationship

    Top Six Tips for Being Independent in a Romantic Relationship

     

    Falling in love is intoxicating. 

    It’s tempting to circle your whole life around the new sparkly, shiny, lovely man you’ve just met, especially in a new relationship. 

    Trust me. I get it. 

    It’s been a long time since you really liked someone, and you’re excited. You both are into each other. And it feels good after months or years of boring, meaningless dates that never evolved into anything.

    You’re finally in love; all you want to do is be in love.

     Everything else sounds boring and lame compared to the happiness you’ve found in your lover’s arms.

    This starry-eyed feeling you have right now is fleeting. And the more you try to hold onto it, the less happy you’ll be. 

    Yes, you’re the happiest when cuddling with your baby, all cozy watching Netflix. You think it makes you the happiest, but it shouldn’t be that way. 

    Yes, it’s a priority!!! But it can’t be the biggest one. 

    It’s not your fault. 

    We all grew up watching movies that showed us in a romantic relationship; two people spent all their waking moments doing everything together. Hello, Claustrophobia!!

    The two of you might be ridiculously compatible and annoyingly cute, but alone time is still a realistic expectation.

    Here are SIX tips for being independent in a romantic relationship- 

    1) Keep your individuality 

    It’s so easy to be wrapped up in him and “us” that you lose your uniqueness. The two of you do everything together. Slowly, you abandon old habits and hobbies. Your friends never see you anymore. If he’s interested in soccer, suddenly it’s your favourite pastime too. Seriously, why??? Cut that crap out! You are awesome, just the way you are. 

    2) Be fiercely independent

    Express your opinions. Share your thoughts. Speak your mind. Set your boundaries. Be assertive. Understand and accept each other’s point of view without imposing. Give your partner the freedom to be who they are, and do not settle for anything less. All of these will help your partner to understand you better. 

    Remember: You don’t have to be on the same page on everything to make each other feel like one. On the contrary, freedom in a relationship helps love last.

    3) Solo Dates

    Just because you are in a relationship doesn’t mean you need to give up the things you once loved doing—even if you feel tempted, especially at the beginning when things are new and exciting. Take yourself on dates. 

    Sign up for that pottery class. Take up photography. Enroll in a cooking class. Take a solo trip to your dream place. Or, have a cozy night in watching Netflix. 

     The point is to keep investing in yourself and trying to know yourself. Keep some hobbies you do alone or with people other than your partner. Plan some time every week when you do things separately. 

    4) Keep following your dreams and desires

    Please do this right now. 

    Make a list of your dreams and ambitions. Write down your goals and place them into categories such as Education, Health & Fitness, Creativity, Travel and Finance. Then, take action toward it and check those things off your bucket list. 

     The best kind of relationship is two people supporting each other while they do their own things. It’s about developing and learning alongside your partner and not making him the only priority in your life.

    5) See your friends often

    Don’t be that friend who disappears whenever she gets a new boyfriend. Your relationship is important, but don’t let weekly hangouts with your friends be annual. If you make your partner the sun, the moon, and the stars, that’s a lot of pressure on just one person. It’s great to feel wanted, not desperately clutched. That behaviour isn’t about love; it’s about insecurity. 

    6) Talk to each other

    Finally, communication is key. Be open and brutally honest with your partner about how you feel and what you need to maintain your sense of self in the relationship. By following these tips, you’ll be able to you can stand by his side, tall and proud, instead of strangling him with expectations.

     

    Do you do everything with your partner? Or do you, sometimes, need a bit of time to yourself? Would you add anything to this list? Comment below