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  • 16 Things Every Person Should Do For Themselves Once a Year

    16 Things Every Person Should Do For Themselves Once a Year

     

    1. Take a solo trip 

    It doesn’t have to be extravagant or pricey – even a quick weekend getaway to a nearby city can be a great way to unwind and explore. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, it’s so important to carve out some time for yourself and have a change of scenery. Visit a new city or country, try a local restaurant, check out an art gallery and soak up the nightlife to break free from the daily monotony. 

    Plan a staycation in the mountains if you’re searching for peace and calm. This way, you can spend quality time in nature, meditate, and reflect on your inner self. The idea is to do what really makes your soul happy. 

     

    2. Declutter your space 

    Imagine waking up to a clean and organized space every morning, with only what you need and love. Sounds refreshing, right? It’s time to give yourself the gift of intentional living. 

    Let’s start with your space – say goodbye to anything you haven’t worn in the past year and donate it to an organization you care about. It’s a great way to give back and make room for new clothes that you’ll actually wear. While you are at it get rid of old bills, statements, toys, and anything else that’s just taking up space. 

    And when you’re done, rearrange your space to create a more functional and inviting atmosphere. You deserve to live in a healthy, decluttered, and organized space. 

     

    3. Get a complete body checkup

    Did you know that getting a complete physical checkup from your doctor at least once a year is a great way to take control of your health? It doesn’t matter how old you are; establishing fitness and health goals is always a good idea. Also, remember to visit your dentist and get checked by a gynecologist every year. 

     

    4. Review your year 

    Every year, around my birthday, I indulge in a beautiful ritual of self-reflection. I pull out my photos, videos, and journals and relive all the fantastic moments I’ve experienced. It’s a great way to celebrate your progress, evaluate your accomplishments, and set exciting new goals for the future. 

    I am always amazed at how far I’ve come, and it gives me an incredible sense of motivation to note the areas of my life that still need improvement. 

     

    5. Take yourself out on a date

    I wholeheartedly believe that taking yourself out on dates is an absolute must – no matter whether you’re single or in a relationship. Here are some amazing solo date ideas that will make you fall in love with yourself all over again.

    Put on your pretty dress, do your hair, bring out your red lipstick, and take yourself out to dinner at a restaurant you’ve always wanted to go to. Forget about the cultural notion that you can’t dine alone in a restaurant. On the contrary, it was one of my life’s most liberating, calming experiences. Try it for yourself, and you’ll see what I mean. 

     

    6. Call/meet a friend you haven’t spoken to in years

    Do you have a friend that you haven’t spoken to in years? Well, why not give them a call or arrange a meet-up? Spend hours reminiscing about all the good times you had together and laughing until your cheeks hurt. Trust me, it’s one of the best feelings in the world! 

     

    7. Go over your finances

    Believe it or not, organizing your finances is the first step towards a more fulfilling life. 

    Take a closer look at your monthly and annual income and expenditure. Discover what you’re spending the most money on and why.

    Are you addicted to shopping for clothes, even though you already have a closet full of them?

    You can say you want to stop spending money on clothing, but you’re not going to stop if the drive behind it is an insecurity about the way you look.

     It’s time to break the cycle and overcome any insecurities or impulsive behaviours driving your spending habits.  

    8. Surprise a loved one

    How about doing something extra special and unexpected for someone you care about? Surprise a friend with a beautiful bouquet of flowers, schedule a relaxing massage for someone who really needs it, or treat a loved one to a fancy dinner. 

     Just one act of kindness can brighten someone’s day and make them feel valued and loved. An unexpected kind gesture can make all the difference in someone’s life!

     

    9. Buy a meal for someone who can’t afford it 

    Small acts of kindness can go a long way in making the world a more compassionate place. Consider buying a meal for someone who can’t afford one. Try to do it as often as you can. Know that your kind gesture has a ripple effect, inspiring others to do the same and positively impacting the world.

     

    10. Dedicate a month to eating just healthy food

    Imagine dedicating an entire month to eating nothing but healthy, nutritious foods!

    Say NO to fried food, junk food, soda, white bread, ice cream, or sugary treats for at least one month. You’ll be amazed at your increased energy level, improved concentration, and overall physical health. I know from personal experience that doing this brings excellent results.

     

    11. Do a social media detox

    Say goodbye to the mindless scrolling, endless comparisons, and self-doubt that social media often brings. It’s time for a social media detox! Imagine a life where you unplug and connect with things that genuinely bring you joy and energy. 

    Disconnecting from social media for at least a month can be the perfect opportunity to focus on self-care, personal growth, and connecting with the people and things you love. You might be surprised at how amazing you feel! 

     

    12. Read a book 

    You know that amazing book that’s been sitting on your shelf for months, just waiting to be read? It’s time to finally dive into it and discover the incredible world waiting for you! And don’t stop there – look at the other books on your shelf that have been collecting dust. Make yourself a cozy spot, grab a cup of tea, and transport yourself to another world.  

    13. Reconnect with your inner child 

    How about trying out a new hobby you’ve always wanted but never had the time for? It could be anything from pottery, gardening, embroidery, painting, and cooking. Hobbies are a fantastic way to reconnect with your inner child and have some fun in the process.

     

    14. Plan a family picnic

    How about gathering your family and heading to a peaceful, isolated location for a delightful picnic? Bring mouth-watering food, drinks, and dessert and enjoy them on a cozy picnic mat. Lie down, look at the twinkling stars and just have heart-to-heart with your loved ones. It’s moments like these with your loved ones that make life worthwhile. 

     

    15. Treat yourself to new lingerie

    Buying a new pair of lingerie for yourself can be such a satisfying experience. I relish treating myself to new lingerie every six months, and it feels incredible!  It can be confusing to know when to replace your lingerie. I replace them when they no longer fit me or after a year.

    Now,  you don’t have to throw away anything in good condition. You can add new pieces to refresh your collection instead of waiting for all the old items to break, rip, or go bad.

    16. Last one. Golden Rule: Love yourself. 

    Do it at least once- no, do it as much as you can. Don’t let anyone make you feel like you’re not good enough. You are valuable, no matter where you are in life. This one thing is essential; if you can accomplish it, all the other things on this list will fall into place. So keep going and believe in yourself!

     

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     Is there anything you’d add to this list? What are some things you do for yourself every year? Share in the comments below :*

     

     

     

     

  • A Page Turning Book to Get Lost in

    A Page Turning Book to Get Lost in

     

     

    What books have you read lately? Anything good?

     

    Here’s a book that I devoured  in less than a week-



     

     

    Reading this book felt like stepping into someone’s extremely fascinating life. I was hooked from the first page and couldn’t put the book down. I devoured every word, staying up until 5 am for three nights in a row just to find out what happens next.

    It was not the writing as much as the story that captured my heart.

    Evelyn Hugo’s character was so brilliantly portrayed that I believed she was a real-life person. The book was so immersive that I felt I was with her, experiencing everything firsthand.

    When I finished the book, I was so invested in Evelyn’s story that I had to Google her to find out if she was a real person.

    What I really appreciated about it was how it shed light on what was happening behind the scenes in Old Hollywood. Instead of glorifying it all, the movie touched on some of the less glamorous aspects of the industry.

    For instance, it showed how actresses like Evelyn were forced to hide their true ethnicity and how many of them resorted to extreme measures like cabbage soup diets and smoking cigarettes to maintain their slim figures. It was eye-opening and made me appreciate the book even more.

    It taught me so much more about homosexuality during that particular period, the experience of being in an abusive relationship, and the different forms of love that one can have.

    After reading this book, I realized that love comes in many different forms, although to the outside world, it can seem very black and white. Every loving relationship is different and doesn’t need to fit into a certain category. Rather, it should be celebrated for its uniqueness. I thought it was such a friendly reminder that we should embrace and celebrate all forms of love and relationships.

    As much as I tried to slow down my reading to extend the experience, I couldn’t resist turning the pages. In fact, it was the only book I’ve ever read that made me forget I was even reading!

     

    What are you reading these days? Please share below…

     

    xo,

    Yachna

     

    P.S.

    What’s the most beautiful thing you’ve ever read?  & our first book club book <3

     

    Image Credit- Pinterest 

     

  • Dating Stuff I’ve Learned…

    Dating Stuff I’ve Learned…

    1. Don’t force it 

    You know what they say: You can’t force a spark with someone. But that doesn’t mean you should give up after just one try! Sometimes, it takes a little time and effort to get to know someone and develop a genuine connection.

    Those first few dates and conversations can be a great indicator of whether or not there’s something special there. Even after the first few dates, if the person is a maybe for you, then don’t settle for it and make it linger, even if the person seems like a perfect match on paper.

    Trust me, you deserve to be with someone who makes you feel excited and truly happy, and the same goes for them!

    2. Physical attraction is important 

    It’s perfectly natural not to be physically attracted to someone. It doesn’t make you shallow; it makes you human, and it just means that we all have our own preferences.

    Now, is it possible that you will grow to find someone physically attractive over time? Absolutely, yes, especially if there’s a strong intellectual bond.

    On the other hand, if you have to put in a lot of effort to find someone attractive initially, it might not be worth it. In my experience, attraction can work both ways, but it’s important to be true to yourself and follow your instincts.



    3. They should be interested in you

    So, here’s the thing, girl. If he’s taking hours or even days to reply to your texts, he’s not worth your time. Don’t make excuses for him, like his phone died or aliens abducted him or whatever.

    If he doesn’t make an effort to see you, spend time with you, or give you the attention you deserve, then know this: he’s just not that into you. Don’t waste your time on someone who doesn’t want to make an effort to keep you around. Just accept it and move on gracefully.

     

    4. Clear communication is essential 

    Maybe you’re looking for something casual and fun, a chance to let loose and enjoy life without any serious commitments. But what if your date is hoping for something more long-term, even marriage?

     Communicating your intentions early on is essential to avoid misunderstandings or heartbreak later. So get out there, have fun, and be honest about what you want in this connection!

     

    5. Attachment/ Infatuation is not love

    Let’s imagine you’re out with your girlfriends, and suddenly, bam! You meet this tall, handsome man with the most gorgeous eyes you’ve ever seen. You hit it off immediately and spend the night dancing and chatting. He says and does everything right, and you’re feeling over the moon because you’ve finally found the one. 

    But wait, sweetie – don’t let your excitement cloud your judgment. Keep your eyes open for anything he might not be saying. It’s totally cool to be excited. Make sure you’re taking things one step at a time.

     

    6. Actions speak louder

    Remember not to fall for his sweet talk that’ll give you diabetes.

    Instead, pay attention to his actions. Be a good observer and focus on what he does, not what he says. It’s good to be understanding and empathetic, but don’t make excuses for someone’s bad behaviour. Their past trauma or sad childhood is no excuse for treating you poorly.

    Those red flags you’re ignoring at the beginning could be the reason for your break up in the end. Keep your eyes open and stay true to yourself!

     

     7. There needs to be a friendship

    Imagine having a friend who is not just amazing but also someone you could fall in love with.

    Take a moment to reflect on their qualities and whether they align with what you look for in a friend. Can you see yourself hanging out with this person as a friend? Do they have qualities that you appreciate in a friend?

    I believe that a friends-to-lover relationship is one of the most fulfilling connections one can experience. Don’t you agree?

     



    8. Be honest with yourself

    Be honest with yourself about your wants and needs. Don’t let others—and by others, I mean society—decide what you should or shouldn’t like. 

    It’s okay to be an independent, self-reliant woman who loves it when a man pays on the first date. Yes, we know you can open your own door, but do you like/prefer it when a date does this for you?

    So, embrace your needs,  express them with confidence,  and don’t be afraid to be your authentic self.

     

    9. Don’t compare them to your past

    It’s not fair to bring your past emotional baggage into your present relationships. Don’t keep comparing your past relationship struggles to your current situation.

    We all have dating traumas, but punishing the new person for something they didn’t do is unfair. Go into a new situation with an open mind and a blank slate.

     

    10. It’s not going to last, and that’s okay

    You need to accept that most people’s time in your life will be temporary and still enjoy and appreciate the time you have together anyway.

    I stopped looking at failed relationships as a waste of time and switched my brain to be grateful for experiencing someone keeping space for me in their heart.

     

    11. Don’t fall for a person’s potential

    This one’s going to hurt to read, but I have to say it anyway: pay attention to who they are now, not what they were like when you first met or get hung up on hopes of the version you have of them in your head. Accept that who they are now is who they are now.

    Look at how they treat you and talk to you. If they did that on the first date, would you agree to a second date? If not, don’t agree to keep seeing them.

    Investing your time, effort, and energy into a relationship with someone who treats you like they don’t care about you will not eventually pay off.

     

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    What’s the most profound dating lesson you’ve learned from your experience? I’d love to know in the comments <3

     

    xo,

    Yachna

     

    Art Credit- Pinterest 

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

  • The Prettiest Nail Art to Wear This Spring

    The Prettiest Nail Art to Wear This Spring

     

    Spring is here!

    And I am super excited about it! Although, to be fair, I’ve been in the Philippines since January, where every season feels like spring.

    But the temperature is soaring high this month, making it feel like a hot summer rather than spring.

    But hey, I am not complaining at all!

    You know why?

    Because Spring/Summer is the perfect time to get your manicure done, and I am obsessed with floral nail art this season! (I know, I know, how groundbreaking, right?)

    But trust me, flowers are always in season for me and women around the world.

    I plan to experiment with many cute and artsy nail designs this spring, and I can’t wait to get started.

    So, if you’re looking for some nail art inspo this spring (or beyond), you’re in the right place!

    Below are the best flower nail art ideas that will leave you awestruck! So, bookmark this page for later and prepare to flaunt some fabulous floral nails this season!



     

    Romantic Milk Bath

     

     

    OMG, I am totally smitten with this nail art! It’s so elegant and chic, and even though it has flowers on it, it doesn’t look too over the top. You could totally rock these nails on your Euro trip or just because you wanna feel fancy.

     

    Tropical Vacay

     

     

    This spring-inspired nail art is all about fun. It radiates the sunny, vibrant energy of yellow, making it perfect for a beachy getaway or just to add a pop of colour to your everyday life. So why wait? Embrace the unexpected and let your nails do the talking this spring season!

     

    Hot Pink

     

     

    It’s seriously one of my favourites this season! Pink is just everything—it’s feminine, tender, and oh-so romantic. This particular design is so girly and fun—it’s like a total Barbie dream come true! I definitely think you should try it out for yourself, so why not add a little extra cuteness to your day?

     

    Pearly Pink

     

     

    I am totally crushing on pink this season. If you’re into keeping things classic and chic but still want to show off your elegant side, then you’re going to adore this manicure. It’s so simple yet so charming and feminine—it’s definitely one of my faves!

    The Multi Colour

     

     

    Do you ever find it tough to pick just one colour for your nails? Don’t worry, you’re not alone. Why not try something new and mix and match different colours for each nail? It’s a fun and creative way to express yourself and bring some life to your nails this spring. Let’s have some fun and get a little weird with our manicures! Trust me, you’ll love the end result.

     

    Bright & Smiley

     

     

    We tried our best to frown while looking at it, but it was impossible because it’s just too cheerful and delightful. So, why not add some happiness to your day with this fantastic nail art? So, go ahead and brighten up your day and spread some joy with this happy nail art!

     

    The Fine China

     

     

    Oh, I just adore how the white and blue colours blend so beautifully, creating a lovely, delicate, and feminine look that’s perfect for any special occasion! Whether it’s a wedding, a party, or just a little treat to yourself, it’s sure to make you feel special and beautiful!

    Lavender Haze

     

     

    A calming lavender shade is an absolute must-have in your nail polish collection this season. Trust me; it’s the perfect colour to bring a little peace and tranquillity to your day. So why not give this nail design a try? It’s super pretty, and just looking at it will make you feel calm and grounded.

     

    The Sunflowers 

     



     

    Check out these gorgeous sunflowers! The vibrant blue hues make for the perfect spring manicure.

     

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    What nails are you wearing this season? Do you have any recommendations you’d add to this list? I’d love to know in the comments below :*

     

    Nail Design Credit- Pinterest 

     

     

     

  • How to Not Commit Murder During PMS

    How to Not Commit Murder During PMS

     

    The other day was really tough for me. I was hit with some intense PMS and ended up breaking down in tears for  no reason, which was frustrating. On top of that, during this time, I feel so blah and less than confident about myself, and when I look in the mirror, I feel like I look like Shrek!

    Can you relate?

    And don’t even get me started on the intense anger and irritability that I felt. It was too much to handle. I was picking up fights with my boyfriend for things that happened six months I ago. It was intense, to say the least.

    However, I’ve learned that there are strategies we can use to help us feel our best during this time. It all starts with responding to ourselves with love and respect.

    Doing so allows us to embrace our femininity and feel confident in our skin. That’s why I want to share with you some functional strategies that have helped me feel empowered, confident, and beautiful during PMS .

    Let’s dive in!

     



    1. Get in a workout

    I hear you.

    During PMS, you feel completely drained and exhausted, and you don’t want to leave your cozy bed, let alone hit the gym.

    But trust me, you don’t need to lift weights like a pro athlete to reap the benefits of exercise.

    As someone who regularly jogs, I know that exercise can make a world of difference in easing PMS symptoms.

    There’s no need to push yourself too hard. Try some light stretching, yoga, or simply going for a stroll. The important thing is to get moving.

    Exercise releases happy hormones, and happy people don’t commit murder – it’s science! So, taking good care of yourself during this time is essential to help ease those monstrous PMS symptoms.

     

     

    2. Eat nutritious food

    Did you know that eating magnesium-rich foods can do wonders for your health? That’s right! Foods like avocados, nuts, and seeds are not only delicious but also great for your health. I have experienced it personally, and I can tell you that a magnesium deficiency can lead to migraines and worsen PMS symptoms, including bloating, dizziness, fluid retention, and sugar cravings. Trust me, I’ve experienced it firsthand. 

    Eating a balanced diet that includes tons of leafy greens, smoothies, oats, and fresh vegetable soup is essential to feel comfortable in your body. After all, you are what you eat! 

    I always try to avoid salty and processed foods. However, let’s be honest; unhealthy food cravings can be tough to resist. Listen to your body and indulge in those cravings, like spicy BBQ fries or chocolate, even if they’re unhealthy.

    While I try to avoid them for most of the month, a few days before my period, I let myself indulge in specific irresistible cravings. Ignoring them only makes them worse, leading to unhealthy binging. So, take care of yourself and enjoy the foods you love.

     

    3. Pamper yourself

    We all know that every woman is unique, and so are her PMS symptoms. But guess what—there’s something universal that can help us all feel better during that time of the month—and that’s pampering ourselves! 

    Treat yourself to a luxurious spa appointment, get a fabulous mani-pedi, indulge in a relaxing massage, take a long and soothing bath with Epsom salts and essential oils, and add a little softness to your life. How amazing does that sound?

    Remember, the key to surviving PMS is to be kind and respectful to yourself. So go ahead and pamper yourself, girl!

     



    4.  Sleep

    Have you ever felt the magic of a good night’s sleep or a cozy nap during the day? It’s truly a wonderful feeling! And let me tell you, nothing should ever come between you and your precious sleep. Especially when dealing with PMS, fatigue and exhaustion can be real struggles. But don’t worry. The best thing you can do is to take a nap and let your mind and body relax and recharge. Your well-being is worth it!

     

     

    5. Meditation

    Feeling moody and all over the place during PMS is the worst. I’ve found a little trick that helps me stay grounded and calm my mind. Want to hear it? Meditating takes 10 to 20 minutes out of my day, and it works wonders! I sit still, take deep breaths, and listen to some OM chanting or a guided meditation from the Waking Up app. It works like magic, I tell you! Just give yourself a break for a few minutes and see how it does wonders for your mental health.

     

     

    6. Track your period

    Are you struggling to keep track of your periods and their symptoms? Well, worry no more! Apps like Clue have been super effective in helping women manage their periods. I’ve been using Clue for years, and it’s been a real game-changer. It allows me to keep a digital diary of my PMS and period symptoms, which helps me predict and track my triggers, mood, productivity, and energy levels. And if that’s not enough, it even sends me reminders when I’m about to start my period!

     So, my dear friend, don’t wait any longer if you’re not already tracking your period. Download the Clue today and experience the benefits for yourself!

     

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    Would you add anything to this list? I’d love to know in the comments below. If you find this useful, consider sharing it with a friend to help spread the word. Sending hugs and kisses :*

     

    xo

    Yachna

     

    P.S.

    Juicy tips for hot period sex, & self-care rituals to nourish your sensuality <3

     

    Pic/ Art Credits- Pinterest 

     

     

     

     

  • Our Beachy Escape to El Nido

    Our Beachy Escape to El Nido

     

     

     

    Picture this: we arrived at Puerto Princessa in the early morning, just in time to catch the sunrise. We booked a van from the airport to El Nido, which meant a four-hour drive ahead of us. We were hyped up, but also felt like we could sleep for a week. I mean, who wouldn’t be excited about the adventure that was about to start? The drive was both exhilarating and exhausting, and the views were stunning. We were basically half asleep for most of the journey, but the excitement kept us going.

     

     

     

     

     

    On our long ride to El-Nido, we decided to stop and freshen up at a local restaurant. As soon as we got there, we were pleasantly surprised to find out that they had fresh buko juice! To top it off, we caught an amazing sunrise that left us in awe. It was a fantastic way to kick off our vacation!

     

     

     

     

    The hotel we had initially booked turned out to be a total nightmare. I mean, everything was just wrong, from the staff to the amenities. It was just a total disaster. But we didn’t let that get us down. We decided to explore the city and check out other hotels, and that’s when we stumbled upon the H Hotel.

    The H Hotel was the complete opposite of our previous hotel nightmare. It was so cool. The best part? It was just a short walk away from all the good stuff – restaurants, bars, the beach, and coffee shops. We knew instantly that this was the perfect spot for us!

    As we patiently waited for our turn at the reception, my cousin and I couldn’t help but notice the stunningly cozy and aesthetic waiting area. It was so inviting that we couldn’t resist taking a few pictures to capture the moment.

     

     

    Unfortunately, we didn’t get the booking we were hoping for. Instead, we scored an amazing apartment just a five-minute walk from there. It was the perfect alternative. The apartment had a cute little pool surrounded by plants. It was so cozy and secluded that it almost felt like we had the whole place to ourselves.

     

     

    …fueling our bike at the station before we heading out to explore the island.

     

    lunch views from Big Bad Thai

     

     

    …mirror selfies for the win >>>

     

     

    …exploring the local clothing and jewellery stores…

     

     

     

     

     

    …taking a quick break on the side of the road to sip on some deliciously refreshing buko (coconut) water, which was the perfect way to cool down from the scorching heat.

     

     

     

    One of the highlights of our trip was driving our scooters to Nacpan Beach!! The drive was really scenic, full of lush greenery on both sides of the road. It felt like we were driving through a jungle! It was definitely one of the coolest things we did on our trip.

     

     

     

     

    …at the Nacpan Beach!

     

     

     

    Watching the sun go down at the beach during the golden hour is one of my absolute favourite things in the world! It’s just so peaceful and beautiful <3

     

     

    Later that night, we found ourselves lost in the beauty of the beach. With our eyes fixed on the starry sky, we were spellbound by the beauty that surrounded us. It was like a scene straight out of a fairytale, and we couldn’t help but feel captivated by the magic of the moment.
    trust me it looks even better in person

     

     

     

    Pasta + Vino = ❤️‍🔥

     

    Oh my gosh, let me tell you about the best meal we had at Gorgonzola Pizza & Pasta! Their Pesto Rosso and Tropicana pizza are absolutely to die for! I couldn’t believe how delicious they were. If you’re looking for a chill spot to grab a tasty meal with your friends, this place is perfect. It’s located right in El Nido town, so you can’t miss it!

     

    We all SREAM for…

     

    Yum! For dessert, we indulged in some delicious ice cream. We couldn’t resist trying the manga, buko-pandan, and double Dutch flavours—they were amazing.  While we were walking around, we explored the cutest little town and savoured every bite of our sweet treat.

     

    Keep Life Simple.

     

    The next day, we were heading to the vanilla beach when…

     

     

     

    one of our bikes broke down… 🙁

     

     

     

     

     

     

    …but  we didn’t let that get to us! We just started joking around and chatting to pass the time. We took some pics to remember the moment because, you know, no vacay is ever perfect.

     

    Juicy Ripe Mango Shake 😀

     

     

    As usual on the phone *eye roll*

     

     

    Just OK Chicken & Waffles

     

    We were famished by the time we reached Vanilla Beach. We wandered through a charming strip of restaurants, bars, and gift shops, taking in the delightful ambiance.  After scouting around, we decided to dine at this amazing beachfront restaurant named Tanaw. The food looked so delicious that we gave in to the temptation of ordering a variety of dishes to try.

     

    After that, we hit the beach…

     

     

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    Smile! You’re on camera 😀

     

    Collecting Shells at the beach <33333333

     

    ….and it was EPIC!!  It was worth all the trouble we faced earlier!

     

    Golden Hour 😍

     

     

    As we were floating in the cool water, we watched the sun slowly melt into the sky. It was one of the best things we did on our trip. The sunset was just so freaking beautiful like always. I can still remember how amazing it all felt, and I know I’ll never forget that moment. It was one of those rare moments when everything felt perfect, and I couldn’t help but feel grateful for being alive.

     

     

    As the sun was setting, we had a special treat booked – a massage at the beach. The soft sound of waves and the vibrant colours of the sunset created an enchanting setting. And as we lay under the starry sky, feeling the tension melt away from our bodies, we knew we were having a once-in-a-lifetime experience that we’d never forget.

     

     

     

    Sheesha night at Pukka Bar.

     

    Sipping on a Gin & Tonic on a Hammock at the roof top bar…

     

    We finished off the night with some yummy pizza and then headed over to this super cool rooftop bar. Wanna know what made it even better? We got to relax on a hammock and enjoy the most amazing drinks ever. And guess what? We ended up sharing the hammock with a couple of tourists from London and had such a great time chatting with them. The bar had such a chill vibe.  It was simply awesome!

     

     

     

    The last day of our trip had arrived, and it felt like time had flown by. Just yesterday, we arrived, and now we were already packing up to leave. We had booked a van to take us back to Puerto Princessa, which was a four-hour drive from El Nido – our final destination. But before we head to the airport, we’re making one final stop at a local eatery to savour some delicious and refreshing coconut water.

    Our faces might look a bit down in this selfie, but it’s only because we didn’t want to say goodbye to paradise just yet. It was tough to leave such a beautiful place behind, but we’re grateful for the memories we made there.

     

    If you need some suggestions, we’ve got a list of all the cool places we think you’d absolutely dig-

    Where to stay: We had the most amazing stay at The Apartments. You’d also enjoy H Hotel, Frendz Hotel (for all you party animals), or this beautiful sea view villa at Nacpan Beach.

     

    Where to eat: we savoured every bite at  Big Bad Thai, Shawarma House (for post-midnight munchies), and Gorgonzola Pizza & Pasta. Since Definitely check out this list for the best food in El Nido, we enjoyed a late night massive falafel wrap that was bursting with flavor at Holly Smoke. 

     

    Where to get a delicious massage:  we treated ourselves to not just one, but two amazing massages at the Organic Spa. It was pure bliss! If you’re looking for a way to unwind and indulge, I highly recommend booking a massage at the Organic Spa.

     

    Where to club/partayyyyy:  Amigos, Frendz hotel

     

     

     

    Thank you for reading, and feel free to ask any questions! And thank you to El Nido for such a wonderful time. xoxoxoxo

     

     

     

     

  • How to Not Care What Other People Think of You

    How to Not Care What Other People Think of You

    Have you ever felt like you were walking on eggshells around someone? Like you just can’t seem to do anything right in their eyes no matter how hard you try?

    That’s exactly how I felt the other day when I went to visit my aunt.

    I couldn’t shake off the weird and uncomfortable vibes I got from her. As I walked out of her house, I felt terrible about myself because the silent treatment was so loud. I couldn’t figure out what I had done to offend her, so I discussed it with my cousin later. And what she told me blew my mind!

    My aunty thinks I’m a terrible influence on her daughters because I’m 30 and unmarried.

    Can you believe it?

    It’s unbelievable how people still try to burden us with their outdated expectations and beliefs.

    We’ve all heard the age-old advice that we should “just be ourselves” and “stop caring what others think about us.” However, let’s be real—it’s not that simple.

    Even though we know better, it’s difficult to ignore our desire to be seen, valued, and appreciated by those around us. It’s a natural human desire to be accepted and respected, and we all struggle with it at some point in our lives.

    I don’t feel like the most qualified person to talk about this, but I don’t know what it would take to be the most qualified. Self-esteem is a tricky thing, especially for us women. No matter what we do, we’re always told we need to be “more” of something. It can be exhausting trying to fit into society’s unrealistic standards and expectations of us.

     

    1. Self-awareness

    The truth is, the more insecure and uncomfortable we feel about ourselves, the more we tend to be influenced by others’ opinions. On the other hand, when we’re confident and self-aware, we’re less likely to let outside voices dictate our choices and actions. So, it’s essential to focus on building that inner strength and security and not get too caught up in seeking validation from others. 

     

    2.  Alone Time

    Do you ever feel like your voice gets lost in the noise of the world around you? It’s totally normal! But you know what’s not normal? Neglecting your alone time. 

    Take a deep breath and ask yourself: what are your values? What do you really want? What can’t you stand? 

    By writing down your thoughts and feelings, you develop a strong bond with yourself and become comfortable in your own skin. This way, you’ll stop caring about what people think of you and be more confident in your actions.

     

    3. Keep focusing on what you want 

    Are you truly living the life you want, or are you following someone else’s script for your life? Everyone has unique interests, passions, and hobbies that they love. But when we spend all our energy trying to meet others’ expectations, we neglect our own desires. So, pour your energy into doing the things that truly make you happy and fulfilled!

     

    4. Show gratitude

    There was this one time when I let other people’s expectations of me not being married by 30 get to me. I spoke to my best friend about it, hoping to find some solace. Boy, did he give me some perspective! 

    He reminded me of all the amazing adventures I’ve had, the things I’ve accomplished, and the personal challenges I’ve overcome. He said that if I had gotten married just for the sake of it, I would have missed out on so much. I would have been living a life that I didn’t necessarily want, just to please others. 

    After the conversation, I took a moment to reflect on all the beautiful experiences I’ve had and the personal challenges I’ve overcome to get to where I am today. I had forgotten to be grateful for all I had done. So, I decided to be my own cheerleader, look inward to find validation and take pride in who I am. 

     

    5. Don’t try to make everyone happy 

    No person in the history of humanity has been liked by everyone. And no matter what you do or say, it won’t make you an expectation either. So, don’t try to make everyone happy; you won’t. Fulfilling others’ expectations or opinions of you is not your responsibility. Besides: everyone else is too busy worrying about themselves. So, just like Billie Eilish says, “Your opinion of me is not my responsibility.”

     

    6. Keep death close 

    Our time on this earth is limited, and it’s up to us to make the most of it. Unfortunately, many of us get caught up in worrying about what others think of us, and we end up living a life that’s not truly our own. 

    But here’s the thing: if you knew that your time was running out, what would you do differently? Would you continue to worry about other people’s opinions, or would you finally start living the life you’ve always wanted?

    Remember, people will mourn for a day or two and then move on with their lives. So why not take a step towards the life YOU want to live? Life is too short to do anything else.

    It will always be harder to become someone who doesn’t care what people think, but that’s why you’re a fierce warrior for even trying. And isn’t that kind of exciting? Conquer the world!!

     

     

    xo,

    Yachna

     

     

  • 20 Easy Things That Make You A Cool Person

    20 Easy Things That Make You A Cool Person

     

    Have you ever had a moment when you were struggling with something, and nobody seemed to notice or care?

    I remember carrying my heavy luggage down a flight of stairs at a railway station in Paris, and despite being surrounded by a sea of people, I felt invisible and alone.

    That is until a kind stranger appeared and offered to help me carry my luggage down the stairs. It was such a nice thing to do – a stranger offering to help another stranger.

    It made my day.

    The incident got me thinking about all the other little things people do to make our lives better and brighter.

    So, if you’re in the mood for a dose of positivity and inspiration, you’re in for a treat!

     

    1. Being patient with someone

    I remember how my screenwriter professor always took the time to explain things to me, no matter how many times I asked. He never showed any frustration or irritation – instead, he would explain it all with the same enthusiasm he had the first time. Moments like these always stick with us and make us feel grateful. Of course, I am not blessed with much patience, so this is something I need to work on the most. 

     

    2. Asking others to join rather than offering them 

    Imagine this scenario – You receive an invitation from someone who says, “I am having a get-together tonight. You can join if you want.” Now, imagine receiving an invitation from someone who says, “I am having a get-together tonight, and I really want you to be there.” Can you feel the difference in how that makes you feel?

     

    3. Being a reflective listener 

    Do you ever find yourself conversing where the other person seems disinterested or distracted? It’s not a great feeling, right? Well, the good news is that you can be the exception! Just give them your full attention, and show you’re really interested in what they’re saying by asking open-ended questions. No more boring “hmm” or “ok” responses, ok? Trust me, it’s these small changes that can have a big impact. 

     

    4. Hyping up someone’s progress

    Do you have that one friend who’s been sweating it out at the gym every day or the friend who took the leap to quit their job and start a small business? 

     A simple but heartfelt compliment, like, “I can see all the progress you’re making, and it’s awe-inspiring. Keep it up. I’m rooting for you!” can make their day and motivate them even more.

     

    5. When someone is excited about something and shares it with you

    it doesn’t matter how mundane or common that thing is to you; share their excitement.

     

    6. Smiling at strangers

    This one time, I was at an NYC subway looking down at my phone, and when I looked up, a very cute guy looked at me and put on the brightest, most loving smile ever before I stepped on it. This rarely happens to me, so naturally, it felt nice. At that moment, I realized a smile can do wonders. A smile can someone’s entire day or even save their life. 

     

    7.  Say what you feel

     When someone asks you to text them when you get home safely, you forget to get back to them. Then they reach out and ask if you made it home okay. That little gesture makes you feel cared for and valued. It’s like a warm hug in text form.

     

    8. Getting back to others about stuff they recommended 

    Have you ever received a recommendation from a friend or family member about a book or movie they love?

    Imagine how thrilled they would be if you took their recommendation and actually read the book or watched the movie! And you might end up falling in love with it, too. It’s always great to share the joy of a wonderful recommendation with someone.

    9. Say what you feel

    Have you ever come across someone who speaks their mind without any sugar-coating or giving the silent treatment? I really admire such people because it saves everyone involved from the exhausting mind games and misunderstandings that often come with hiding our true feelings. 

     

    10.  Genuinely complimenting people

    One of the best ways to make someone feel appreciated is by complimenting them. We’re not just talking about the usual stuff about how they look, but something that really shows them that you appreciate their unique qualities.

    Like when you tell someone, “I always learn something new from you – that’s why I love talking to you,” you’re letting them know that you see the good in them and that you appreciate their unique qualities.

    So, go ahead and spread some positivity today by giving someone a sincere compliment!

     

    11.  Making someone feel comfortable in your presence. 

     

    12. When your cart is full, you let someone with a few items go ahead of you in line at the grocery store.

     

    13.  Wishing someone a birthday at midnight. 

     

    14. Remembering  the little details about someone

    Knowing that someone cares enough to pay close attention to the small things can really brighten your day. Maya Angelou said it best: “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

     

    15.  Always saying “good morning” and “goodbye” to people.

     

    16.  Asking if somebody wants anything when you go to the store.

     

    17. Expressing appreciation and gratitude towards others. 

    Do you ever want to tell someone how much they mean to you but don’t know how to say it? It’s actually pretty simple. Write down what this person does or brings that makes you think highly of them. A simple “thank you for being in my life” can go a long way in making someone’s day brighter.

    18. Making others feel included and important. 

     

    19. When your cart is full, you let someone with a few items go ahead of you in line at the grocery store.

     

    20. Checking on others who are clearly not doing okay.

     

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    Just so you know, I do not do all these things all the time. I don’t always greet people or smile at them, or follow up on someone’s recommendation. I am in no way perfect. So, this is just as much a reminder to myself as it is for you.

     

     

    xo

    Yachna

     

     

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  • Find Out What’s Really on Your Mind

    Find Out What’s Really on Your Mind

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

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  • The Person You End Up With Might Not Be Your Soulmate

    The Person You End Up With Might Not Be Your Soulmate

     

     Mia: It’s pretty strange that we keep running into each other.

    Sebastian: Maybe it means something.

    Mia: I doubt it.

    Sebastian: Yeah, I didn’t think so.

                                    –   La La Land

     

    So, the other night, I rewatched one of my all-time favourite movies, La La Land. Let me tell you, it was even better than I remembered! 

    Now, I know what you’re thinking, “But I’m not a fan of musicals.” Trust me, I get it. But this movie is different. The colours, the mood, the cinematography… it’s all just so visually stunning! 

    But let’s get to the real reason I’m here: the ending. Spoiler alert!

    As I’ve grown older and (hopefully) a bit wiser, I’ve come to appreciate the ending even more. It’s the perfect conclusion to an already perfect film.

    It’s so refreshing to see a film that doesn’t give in to the typical cliché of a “happily ever after” ending. This is real life, baby! Instead, it portrayed the reality of life, where things don’t always go as planned. 

    It got me thinking about soulmates and how movies and books have ingrained in us the belief that there is one perfect person out there who is meant to be our other half. We’ve been conditioned to expect a storybook romance where our prince charming comes riding in on a white horse, and we live happily ever after. But the truth is, that’s just not how life works.

    In the movie, they both share a common dream – to make it big in their respective careers. Seb is a struggling jazz pianist, while Mia is an aspiring actress looking for her big break. They both help each other realize their dreams, even if it means making sacrifices. 

    Seb knew Mia’s dreams would take her to Paris, and he didn’t want to hold her back. Similarly, if Seb had gone with Mia, he would have never been able to open his own jazz club. 

    It’s bittersweet, but they both fulfilled their dreams in the end.

    Sometimes, the person who helps you realize your dreams isn’t always the one you end up with, and that’s okay.

    In the end, Mia and Seb nod at each other and smile, knowing they will always have a special place in each other’s hearts. 

    The story of Mia and Seb teaches us that sometimes, love is not just about being together forever. Some people are not meant to be in our life forever.  

     We think our soulmate is the one who makes our heart skip a beat or sweeps us off our feet. 

    Instead, it could be the person who’s there for us who we feel the most calm with. It could be the person whose shoulder we are leaning on when we’re at our lowest. It could be the one wiping away our tears and holding us close until the sadness fades away.

    They push us to be the best version of ourselves. They may not be our forever, but they significantly impact our lives.

    When we think soulmate we automatically assume forever. But what if you don’t end up with someone you thought was your soulmate?

    Does that mean your love wasn’t true or strong enough? Absolutely not. 

    It just means that not everyone is going to be your forever person. Not everyone is going to stay…even if they really want to. Some people are going to have to leave. Even soulmates. 

    If you ever get the chance to find a soulmate somewhere, treasure it. Adore. Love them, and let them love you back. But,  if you don’t end up with your soulmate, don’t let yourself become bitter. Don’t let yourself give up on bigger or better loves.

    Instead, be grateful that you were fortunate enough to experience a love so beautiful, pure, meaningful, and genuine. 

    Real love is hard to find, and not everyone is lucky enough to experience it. 

    Embrace the love you had, and know that the universe has a different path in store for you.

    Look back on those golden memories and let them bring warmth on your coldest days. Look back at him with a smile on your face and know that you aren’t going to crumble without him by your side. 

    We all have lessons to learn in life, and maybe those big relationships are there to teach us how to love someone wholeheartedly. And when it’s time to move on, we must pick ourselves up and keep going.  

    Remember, the journey is just as important as the destination.

     

    xo,

    Yachna