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  • How to Not Care What Other People Think of You

    How to Not Care What Other People Think of You

    Have you ever felt like you were walking on eggshells around someone? Like you just can’t seem to do anything right in their eyes no matter how hard you try?

    That’s exactly how I felt the other day when I went to visit my aunt.

    I couldn’t shake off the weird and uncomfortable vibes I got from her. As I walked out of her house, I felt terrible about myself because the silent treatment was so loud. I couldn’t figure out what I had done to offend her, so I discussed it with my cousin later. And what she told me blew my mind!

    My aunty thinks I’m a terrible influence on her daughters because I’m 30 and unmarried.

    Can you believe it?

    It’s unbelievable how people still try to burden us with their outdated expectations and beliefs.

    We’ve all heard the age-old advice that we should “just be ourselves” and “stop caring what others think about us.” However, let’s be real—it’s not that simple.

    Even though we know better, it’s difficult to ignore our desire to be seen, valued, and appreciated by those around us. It’s a natural human desire to be accepted and respected, and we all struggle with it at some point in our lives.

    I don’t feel like the most qualified person to talk about this, but I don’t know what it would take to be the most qualified. Self-esteem is a tricky thing, especially for us women. No matter what we do, we’re always told we need to be “more” of something. It can be exhausting trying to fit into society’s unrealistic standards and expectations of us.

     

    1. Self-awareness

    The truth is, the more insecure and uncomfortable we feel about ourselves, the more we tend to be influenced by others’ opinions. On the other hand, when we’re confident and self-aware, we’re less likely to let outside voices dictate our choices and actions. So, it’s essential to focus on building that inner strength and security and not get too caught up in seeking validation from others. 

     

    2.  Alone Time

    Do you ever feel like your voice gets lost in the noise of the world around you? It’s totally normal! But you know what’s not normal? Neglecting your alone time. 

    Take a deep breath and ask yourself: what are your values? What do you really want? What can’t you stand? 

    By writing down your thoughts and feelings, you develop a strong bond with yourself and become comfortable in your own skin. This way, you’ll stop caring about what people think of you and be more confident in your actions.

     

    3. Keep focusing on what you want 

    Are you truly living the life you want, or are you following someone else’s script for your life? Everyone has unique interests, passions, and hobbies that they love. But when we spend all our energy trying to meet others’ expectations, we neglect our own desires. So, pour your energy into doing the things that truly make you happy and fulfilled!

     

    4. Show gratitude

    There was this one time when I let other people’s expectations of me not being married by 30 get to me. I spoke to my best friend about it, hoping to find some solace. Boy, did he give me some perspective! 

    He reminded me of all the amazing adventures I’ve had, the things I’ve accomplished, and the personal challenges I’ve overcome. He said that if I had gotten married just for the sake of it, I would have missed out on so much. I would have been living a life that I didn’t necessarily want, just to please others. 

    After the conversation, I took a moment to reflect on all the beautiful experiences I’ve had and the personal challenges I’ve overcome to get to where I am today. I had forgotten to be grateful for all I had done. So, I decided to be my own cheerleader, look inward to find validation and take pride in who I am. 

     

    5. Don’t try to make everyone happy 

    No person in the history of humanity has been liked by everyone. And no matter what you do or say, it won’t make you an expectation either. So, don’t try to make everyone happy; you won’t. Fulfilling others’ expectations or opinions of you is not your responsibility. Besides: everyone else is too busy worrying about themselves. So, just like Billie Eilish says, “Your opinion of me is not my responsibility.”

     

    6. Keep death close 

    Our time on this earth is limited, and it’s up to us to make the most of it. Unfortunately, many of us get caught up in worrying about what others think of us, and we end up living a life that’s not truly our own. 

    But here’s the thing: if you knew that your time was running out, what would you do differently? Would you continue to worry about other people’s opinions, or would you finally start living the life you’ve always wanted?

    Remember, people will mourn for a day or two and then move on with their lives. So why not take a step towards the life YOU want to live? Life is too short to do anything else.

    It will always be harder to become someone who doesn’t care what people think, but that’s why you’re a fierce warrior for even trying. And isn’t that kind of exciting? Conquer the world!!

     

     

    xo,

    Yachna

     

     

  • 20 Easy Things That Make You A Cool Person

    20 Easy Things That Make You A Cool Person

     

    Have you ever had a moment when you were struggling with something, and nobody seemed to notice or care?

    I remember carrying my heavy luggage down a flight of stairs at a railway station in Paris, and despite being surrounded by a sea of people, I felt invisible and alone.

    That is until a kind stranger appeared and offered to help me carry my luggage down the stairs. It was such a nice thing to do – a stranger offering to help another stranger.

    It made my day.

    The incident got me thinking about all the other little things people do to make our lives better and brighter.

    So, if you’re in the mood for a dose of positivity and inspiration, you’re in for a treat!

     

    1. Being patient with someone

    I remember how my screenwriter professor always took the time to explain things to me, no matter how many times I asked. He never showed any frustration or irritation – instead, he would explain it all with the same enthusiasm he had the first time. Moments like these always stick with us and make us feel grateful. Of course, I am not blessed with much patience, so this is something I need to work on the most. 

     

    2. Asking others to join rather than offering them 

    Imagine this scenario – You receive an invitation from someone who says, “I am having a get-together tonight. You can join if you want.” Now, imagine receiving an invitation from someone who says, “I am having a get-together tonight, and I really want you to be there.” Can you feel the difference in how that makes you feel?

     

    3. Being a reflective listener 

    Do you ever find yourself conversing where the other person seems disinterested or distracted? It’s not a great feeling, right? Well, the good news is that you can be the exception! Just give them your full attention, and show you’re really interested in what they’re saying by asking open-ended questions. No more boring “hmm” or “ok” responses, ok? Trust me, it’s these small changes that can have a big impact. 

     

    4. Hyping up someone’s progress

    Do you have that one friend who’s been sweating it out at the gym every day or the friend who took the leap to quit their job and start a small business? 

     A simple but heartfelt compliment, like, “I can see all the progress you’re making, and it’s awe-inspiring. Keep it up. I’m rooting for you!” can make their day and motivate them even more.

     

    5. When someone is excited about something and shares it with you

    it doesn’t matter how mundane or common that thing is to you; share their excitement.

     

    6. Smiling at strangers

    This one time, I was at an NYC subway looking down at my phone, and when I looked up, a very cute guy looked at me and put on the brightest, most loving smile ever before I stepped on it. This rarely happens to me, so naturally, it felt nice. At that moment, I realized a smile can do wonders. A smile can someone’s entire day or even save their life. 

     

    7.  Say what you feel

     When someone asks you to text them when you get home safely, you forget to get back to them. Then they reach out and ask if you made it home okay. That little gesture makes you feel cared for and valued. It’s like a warm hug in text form.

     

    8. Getting back to others about stuff they recommended 

    Have you ever received a recommendation from a friend or family member about a book or movie they love?

    Imagine how thrilled they would be if you took their recommendation and actually read the book or watched the movie! And you might end up falling in love with it, too. It’s always great to share the joy of a wonderful recommendation with someone.

    9. Say what you feel

    Have you ever come across someone who speaks their mind without any sugar-coating or giving the silent treatment? I really admire such people because it saves everyone involved from the exhausting mind games and misunderstandings that often come with hiding our true feelings. 

     

    10.  Genuinely complimenting people

    One of the best ways to make someone feel appreciated is by complimenting them. We’re not just talking about the usual stuff about how they look, but something that really shows them that you appreciate their unique qualities.

    Like when you tell someone, “I always learn something new from you – that’s why I love talking to you,” you’re letting them know that you see the good in them and that you appreciate their unique qualities.

    So, go ahead and spread some positivity today by giving someone a sincere compliment!

     

    11.  Making someone feel comfortable in your presence. 

     

    12. When your cart is full, you let someone with a few items go ahead of you in line at the grocery store.

     

    13.  Wishing someone a birthday at midnight. 

     

    14. Remembering  the little details about someone

    Knowing that someone cares enough to pay close attention to the small things can really brighten your day. Maya Angelou said it best: “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

     

    15.  Always saying “good morning” and “goodbye” to people.

     

    16.  Asking if somebody wants anything when you go to the store.

     

    17. Expressing appreciation and gratitude towards others. 

    Do you ever want to tell someone how much they mean to you but don’t know how to say it? It’s actually pretty simple. Write down what this person does or brings that makes you think highly of them. A simple “thank you for being in my life” can go a long way in making someone’s day brighter.

    18. Making others feel included and important. 

     

    19. When your cart is full, you let someone with a few items go ahead of you in line at the grocery store.

     

    20. Checking on others who are clearly not doing okay.

     

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    Just so you know, I do not do all these things all the time. I don’t always greet people or smile at them, or follow up on someone’s recommendation. I am in no way perfect. So, this is just as much a reminder to myself as it is for you.

     

     

    xo

    Yachna

     

     

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  • Find Out What’s Really on Your Mind

    Find Out What’s Really on Your Mind

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

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  • The Person You End Up With Might Not Be Your Soulmate

    The Person You End Up With Might Not Be Your Soulmate

     

     Mia: It’s pretty strange that we keep running into each other.

    Sebastian: Maybe it means something.

    Mia: I doubt it.

    Sebastian: Yeah, I didn’t think so.

                                    –   La La Land

     

    So, the other night, I rewatched one of my all-time favourite movies, La La Land. Let me tell you, it was even better than I remembered! 

    Now, I know what you’re thinking, “But I’m not a fan of musicals.” Trust me, I get it. But this movie is different. The colours, the mood, the cinematography… it’s all just so visually stunning! 

    But let’s get to the real reason I’m here: the ending. Spoiler alert!

    As I’ve grown older and (hopefully) a bit wiser, I’ve come to appreciate the ending even more. It’s the perfect conclusion to an already perfect film.

    It’s so refreshing to see a film that doesn’t give in to the typical cliché of a “happily ever after” ending. This is real life, baby! Instead, it portrayed the reality of life, where things don’t always go as planned. 

    It got me thinking about soulmates and how movies and books have ingrained in us the belief that there is one perfect person out there who is meant to be our other half. We’ve been conditioned to expect a storybook romance where our prince charming comes riding in on a white horse, and we live happily ever after. But the truth is, that’s just not how life works.

    In the movie, they both share a common dream – to make it big in their respective careers. Seb is a struggling jazz pianist, while Mia is an aspiring actress looking for her big break. They both help each other realize their dreams, even if it means making sacrifices. 

    Seb knew Mia’s dreams would take her to Paris, and he didn’t want to hold her back. Similarly, if Seb had gone with Mia, he would have never been able to open his own jazz club. 

    It’s bittersweet, but they both fulfilled their dreams in the end.

    Sometimes, the person who helps you realize your dreams isn’t always the one you end up with, and that’s okay.

    In the end, Mia and Seb nod at each other and smile, knowing they will always have a special place in each other’s hearts. 

    The story of Mia and Seb teaches us that sometimes, love is not just about being together forever. Some people are not meant to be in our life forever.  

     We think our soulmate is the one who makes our heart skip a beat or sweeps us off our feet. 

    Instead, it could be the person who’s there for us who we feel the most calm with. It could be the person whose shoulder we are leaning on when we’re at our lowest. It could be the one wiping away our tears and holding us close until the sadness fades away.

    They push us to be the best version of ourselves. They may not be our forever, but they significantly impact our lives.

    When we think soulmate we automatically assume forever. But what if you don’t end up with someone you thought was your soulmate?

    Does that mean your love wasn’t true or strong enough? Absolutely not. 

    It just means that not everyone is going to be your forever person. Not everyone is going to stay…even if they really want to. Some people are going to have to leave. Even soulmates. 

    If you ever get the chance to find a soulmate somewhere, treasure it. Adore. Love them, and let them love you back. But,  if you don’t end up with your soulmate, don’t let yourself become bitter. Don’t let yourself give up on bigger or better loves.

    Instead, be grateful that you were fortunate enough to experience a love so beautiful, pure, meaningful, and genuine. 

    Real love is hard to find, and not everyone is lucky enough to experience it. 

    Embrace the love you had, and know that the universe has a different path in store for you.

    Look back on those golden memories and let them bring warmth on your coldest days. Look back at him with a smile on your face and know that you aren’t going to crumble without him by your side. 

    We all have lessons to learn in life, and maybe those big relationships are there to teach us how to love someone wholeheartedly. And when it’s time to move on, we must pick ourselves up and keep going.  

    Remember, the journey is just as important as the destination.

     

    xo,

    Yachna

     

  • 6 Things Guys Do When They Don’t Like You

    6 Things Guys Do When They Don’t Like You

     

    Attention ladies!

    If you’ve ever found yourself wondering whether the guy you’re talking to is really into you, then listen up.

    Trust me, you don’t want to miss this.

    I’ve been talking to some of my friends and noticed that many girls miss the critical signs that he’s just not that into you.

    So, if your bestie is a bit delulu when it comes to love, pass this on to her!

     

    1. Leaving you on delivered/seen

    Listen up: sending a text takes only three seconds. So if a guy claims he’s too busy to reply to you or can’t be bothered to make an effort, drop him like a hot potato. If he constantly leaves you hanging, it’s time to show him the door. Just drop him and move on, girl! You deserve someone who values your time and effort. 

     

    2. Cancelling plans last minute 

    Let me paint a picture for you: it’s date night, and you’re feeling absolutely fantastic. You’ve gone the extra mile, shaving even where you’re not supposed to shave, picked out the perfect outfit after trying on every piece of clothing in your closet, and did your makeup flawlessly. 

    And just when you’re about to head out the door, your date hits you with the classic “Oh, I have a work thing…” excuse. Come on, let’s be honest here. Guys will do anything to spend time with the girl they like – I’m talking about moving mountains if they have to. 

     

    3. He’s breadcrumbing you

    His replies start getting super dry out of nowhere. I am talking about a short, boring, one-word response. Or worse, leaving you on read.  

     You might think, “Maybe he’s just busy,” but then he suddenly texts you again after a few days and disappears again after a couple of messages. Trust me, he’s just leading you on with breadcrumbs. Don’t fall for it!

    He’s not fully ghosting you yet. He’s keeping you around. 

    You might think, “Well, he’s liking my stories and posts, so he must be into me.” Yeah, that’s a breadcrumb too. 

    Ladies, take note: guys never change their energy with the girls they really like.

     

    4. He doesn’t initiate contact 

    You’re always initiating conversations or sending the first text, and it feels like the other person isn’t as interested as you are.

    “Look! he was so nice and flirty in response, and we actually had such a fun conversation.” you might tell your friend. 

    Yes, he may be lovely and flirty in his responses, but have you ever noticed that he rarely reaches out to you first? This is what gets a lot of women confused.

     I mean, you’re getting all these mixed signals from him, but is he really that interested if he’s not making an effort to talk to you? 

    Instead of getting caught up in his responses, ask yourself how often he’s starting the conversation. That’s what really matters.

     

    5. He’s playing hard to get

    Girlfriend! Let me tell you this: there’s no such thing as he’s playing hard to get. You’re playing too hard to get rid of. Ouch!!! I know it’s harsh, but there’s someone better for you. Let that man go!!!!

     

    6. You just know

    If a guy is into you, it’s pretty damn obvious. You don’t need to go all Nancy Drew trying to uncover hidden clues or secret codes. It’s as clear as day when a guy wants to be with you. 

    And if you’re questioning whether he’s into you, chances are he’s not. 

    Let’s be real – if you have to resort to tarot cards to figure out if he likes you, he’s probably not worth your time. 

    When a guy wants you, he won’t make it a mystery. He won’t try to play games or confuse you. Instead, he’ll make it crystal clear that he’s interested in you.

     

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    I am just telling you this…so you don’t waste your time on a man who’s probably texting another girl as you read this post.

    I know the feeling when you’re hopelessly waiting for someone who’s probably not even thinking about you. Yeah, it sucks. But you don’t have to put up with it!

    Ladies, you deserve nothing but the purest and most genuine love. You deserve to be adored and spoiled by all the love and attention. Don’t settle for less, especially when someone shows you they’re uninterested.

    Trust me, I know it’s easier said than done, but you should never have to beg for love and attention. You should be overflowing with it!

    And you should never feel like your standards are too high. You are amazing and deserve someone who makes you feel that way.

    So don’t waste your time on someone who’s not obsessed with you (in a healthy way, of course).

    Instead, hold out for someone who truly appreciates everything that makes you unique and special.

     

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    Is there anything you’d add to this list? I’d love to hear some of your experiences in the comments below. Stay safe and make smart decisions y’all <3  :*

     

    xo,

    Yachna

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

  • Honor Your Parents

    Honor Your Parents

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

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    P.S.

    A guide to honouring yourself <3

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

  • How to Be Alone

    How to Be Alone

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

  • Characters to Channel For Confidence

    Characters to Channel For Confidence

     

    Sometimes, I find myself in situations where I need a little confidence boost. You know what I mean? When that happens, I look up to these fictional badasses for inspiration. I love channelling their cool demeanour, sharp wit, and commanding presence. It might not always work, but it’s worth a shot, right?

     

    1. Ko Moon-Young from It’s Okay to Not Be Okay

     

    I mean, come on! It was love at first sight. Ko Moon-Young is a children’s book author with an antisocial personality disorder. She’s a total badass!!! She doesn’t care what people think or say about her. She’s a boss, confident, bold, and owns every room she walks in. Fiercely unapologetic, she prefers walking her own path, even if she’s alone. She’s sexy, sensitive, mature, and immature at the same time, and she’s both strong and soft. And let’s not even talk about her outfits; they’re to die for! 

     

    2. Miranda Priestly from The Devil Wears Prada

     

    Do I even need to explain? She’s literally everything I aspire to be! Sure, she might come off as cold and distant, but in reality, she’s just confident and in total control of herself.

    “Florals? For spring? Groundbreaking,” she says sarcastically to an editor in one of their meetings. How hilarious is that?! Cheers to brutal honesty! 

    She is ruthlessly competitive, dominating, direct, task-oriented, meticulous, demanding, and brilliantly clever. In my work, I channel Miranda because she knows what she wants and goes for it, period.

     

    3. Blair Waldorf from Gossip Girl

    Queen B is the moment. The definition of iconic. She rules the Upper East Side with an iron fist and my heart at the same time. I mean, she is THAT bitch!!! Her intelligence, wit, and eloquence are unmatched. 

    She’s the dictator of taste and always knows what’s in and what’s out. You know she actually suspended a girl from school just because she wore tights? Hilarious!! For Blair, “tights are not pants!” 

     Nobody, and I mean absolutely nobody, can mess with Blair. When she sets her mind on something, nothing, and I mean nothing, can get in her way. 

    She doesn’t believe in putting her fate in anyone else’s hands and has worked hard for her dreams. As Blair once said, “Destiny is for losers. It’s just a stupid excuse to wait for things to happen instead of making them happen.” She’s a force to be reckoned with, and I have no doubt her impact on the world will be felt for generations to come.

     

    4. Jo March from The Little Women

    Have you watched The Little Women? Saoirse Ronan’s portrayal of Jo March in Little Women has really stuck with me. I relate to Jo so much. We are both writers. Just like her, I often struggle with self-doubt about my work. Do you ever feel like that too? 

    But what I love about Jo is that she’s brave, independent, unapologetic and confident. She marches to the beat of her own drum. She’s determined to make her own way in the world and not follow in the footsteps of what people think a woman’s life should be. She strongly believes there’s A LOT more to a woman’s life than finding a man and marrying rich. 

    My heart shattered for her in that one scene where she said, “I cared more to be loved. I want to be loved.” It was such a powerful moment that reflected my inner world. 

    For the longest time, I thought being fiercely independent meant I didn’t need anyone else, especially a man. But as I started tackling everything on my own, I realized how empty and lonely it was to not be loved and have someone care for me. Thank you, Jo, for being you and shining so brightly. 

     

    5. Arya Stark from Game of Thrones

    Long live the greatest character of Game of Thrones– Arya Stark. She’s a tiny ball of fury who doesn’t want to follow the conventional rules of being a lady. That’s not her. Instead, we watch her take up lessons on sword fighting, crushing all the rules of patriarchy. Even as a child, she’s an inspiration. She knows what she wants and what she’s good at and is unapologetic about it. 

    I mean, she spent a VERY LONG TIME training to fight without her vision, which she knew would make her a better warrior. And in true Arya fashion, she ruthlessly slayed all her enemies and avenged the death of her family like a total badass!!! Could your fave even????? 

     

    7. Elle Woods from Legally Blonde 

    I love it when a woman can do impressive things in a movie without giving up her feminine traits. She can be unique and loves makeup, fashion and be incredibly smart at the same time. Elle Woods taught me that!!!

    I remember the first time I watched Legally Blonde as a teenager. I was completely mesmerized by Elle Woods. Her fashion, confidence, kindness, and boldness were so infectious that I couldn’t help but admire her. 

    What to do when your boyfriend dumps you????? Be your best self ever !!! After getting dumped, instead of being miserable, she made a goal to apply for Harvard Law School, and only Elle Woods can make getting through Harvard look like a piece of cake. 

    When she applied for Harvard, she created a controversial and iconic applicant video showcasing her unique personality. 

    Instead of trying to fit in or conform to what she thought the admissions team wanted to see, she embraced her individuality and let her true self shine through. 

    Thanks to Elle, I learned the invaluable lesson of having faith in people and, most importantly, having faith in myself. Her timeless wisdom will forever be a source of inspiration for me.

     

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    How about you? Who do you look up to for a confidence boost? Let me know in the comments below :*

     

     

  • 6 Things I’ve Stopped Doing For Peaceful Life

    6 Things I’ve Stopped Doing For Peaceful Life

    Have you ever felt like being happy is not enough?

    Well, I have.

    I’ve been thinking about what really matters in life.

    And you know what?

    Being happy all the time isn’t it.

    What’s more important is feeling at peace with your life and having no regrets or longing for something else.

    I’ve consciously poured my energy into positivity, productivity, consistency, and hard work.

    And the result?

    There is a lot more calmness, peace, and clarity in my life. It’s amazing what a little bit of focus and effort can do.

    My ultimate goal is to transform into a more positive, calm, and creative version of myself.

    And to achieve that, I had to make some changes.

    For starters, I stopped doing things these SIX things that were holding me back and keeping me from living a peaceful and fulfilled life

     

     

    1. Continuously live in my comfort zone 

     

    I remember being stuck in a 9 to 5 job; every day felt like the same old thing. 

    Wake up at 7 am, head to the office, take a lunch break at 12:15 pm, wrap up work at 5 pm, make dinner, and get ready to do it all over again. 

    Ugh, it was incredibly boring and unchallenging. 

    But here’s what I learned: your comfort zone may feel safe and cozy, but it’s dangerous. It stunts your personal growth and development and holds back progress. Sticking to familiarity means you’re not moving forward. 

    You must step into the unknown and take the road less travelled to evolve. It’s time to challenge yourself and break free from the monotony. 

    Embrace change, and you’ll find your days filled with growth, progress, and fulfillment.

     

    2. Compare where I am in life to where others are

     

    Instagram is to blame. Whenever I open it up, I see someone celebrating Christmas in London, going on a trip with their girl gang to Switzerland, or attending Lana Del Rey’s concert in Paris. 

    It makes me feel like they’re making money, travelling the world, and falling in love while I’m not doing anything worth mentioning. 

    And then, I start to expect the same things for myself based on what I see. 

    But here’s the thing, my friend – we have the power to change this.

     Instead of spending hours scrolling through our feeds, we can focus on what truly matters, whether it’s spending quality time with family and friends, growing our businesses, or simply enjoying the beauty of nature. 

    So, let’s put social media on the back burner and focus on what makes life genuinely peaceful. 

     

    3. Staying quiet when something/someone has bothered me 

     

    Have you ever felt like bottling up your emotions when deeply hurt? I know I have. 

    As an INFJ, I tend to give the silent treatment, become ice cold and slam the door shut, cutting off all contact and unfollowing people from social media. 

    It’s like they never existed in my life. 

    But the truth is, I don’t hate them. I feel nothing towards them. 

    I used to suppress my emotions and deal with them through writing. However, I’ve realized it’s not the healthiest way to cope. 

    Now, I’m learning to communicate openly and address my problems head-on instead of cutting people off without warning. 

    It’s a process, but I’m getting there.

     

    4. Overthinking about past & future events 

     

    It’s 3 am. You are wide awake and can’t seem to catch a break from your racing thoughts. You are beating yourself over what could’ve been, all the things you could have done. Or, you are paralyzed with stress and worries about tomorrow.

    Trust me, I know how tough it is to shake off that feeling.

     But guess what? 

    I’ve got a little secret that has helped me a lot.

     Instead of dwelling on things I cannot control, I pour my energy into creating things that bring me purpose and joy. 

    Starting this blog is one way I channel my energy into something meaningful. And you can do it too!

     

    5. Continuously give people chances over & over again

     

    Stop giving people third, fourth, and fifth chances ONLY for them to be creative with how they can disappoint you again. I am not a big believer in second chances. If the past has taught me anything, it’s this: people who genuinely care for you won’t put themselves in a position to disappoint you, hurt you, or worse, lose you forever. 

     

    6. Check my phone first thing in the morning

     

    Or, the last thing before I go to bed.

     I must admit that I don’t follow this all the time, but I’m working on it.

     Lately, I’ve been trying to get into the habit of journaling before going to bed. It’s a great way to unwind and reflect on my day. 

    To make things easier, I’ve been using some healing journaling prompts that help me stay focused and avoid getting sidetracked by random YouTube videos. 

    Of course, there are nights when I give in to temptation and end up watching Heart Evangelista’s vlogs or drooling over a cheesy garlic bread recipe. But hey, progress is progress, right?

     

    Is there anything you’d add to this list? What are your daily rituals that help you feel more at peace? I’d love to know xoxoxo

     

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  • 6 Ways to Transform Your Relationship With Money

    6 Ways to Transform Your Relationship With Money

     

    We attract what we think we deserve. We accept what we believe we are worthy of.  As Ashley Ford, the best-selling author of Somebody’s Daughter: A Memoir, said in her recent interview, “When you grow up in poverty, there’s nothing in your mind that says, Even though I can’t get these things, I’m still worthy of them. The protective approach you develop is to NOT want anything.” 

    Your thoughts, mindset, and attitude about money can significantly impact your financial situation. It all starts in your mind! 

    If you genuinely believe you deserve to live a wealthy and luxurious life, then your subconscious mind will work magic to help you manifest that reality. But the opposite is also true. 

    In this blog post, I will share six tips to help you build a better relationship with money. Let’s dive in!

     

    1. Identify your relationship with money  

     

    Before you start thinking about money, you need to know your relationship with it. And just like everything else in life, your childhood influences your relationship with money, too. 

    Now, I want you to take your journal out and write and answer these questions with brutal honesty. So, grab a cozy spot, get out your journal, and answer these questions honestly. No sugar-coating allowed!

     

    What are the first five words or phrases that come to mind when you think of money? 

    What’s your first memory of money? 

    What was your family’s financial situation when you were growing up? 

    What did your parents teach you about money?

    Did you ever feel a financial burden at home growing up?

    What’s your parents’ relationship with money? Did they agree or disagree over money issues?

    How do you currently feel about your financial situation? Are you satisfied with your current financial situation?

    Do you feel comfortable talking about money?

    What is your biggest financial fear?

     

    By answering these questions, you learn more about your thoughts and beliefs about money. Also, it helps to understand how your upbringing and the people around you in your childhood influenced how you handle your finances today.

     

    2. It’s not about what you make, it’s about what you keep

     

    Pay yourself first. 

    It simply means putting money into savings and investments before paying bills or spending on other things. By putting money aside every month into savings or investments, you create a safety net for yourself. When you know you’ve got a little cash to fall back on, you can feel more confident and relaxed. Who doesn’t want their peace of mind?

    Overtime, paying yourself first allows you to grow your wealth over time. By investing your savings, you can use compound interest, potentially earning more money in the long run.

     

    3) Create new and healthy spending habits

     

    I am no stranger to girl math. I am guilty of buying a new outfit for every special event, no matter how much stuff you have in your closet already. Or, buying eight pillows for your bed when you only sleep with two. That was the old me. New Me is thoughtful about her spending. I am no longer spending $30 to avoid $15 shipping. 

    Ladies! Better money habits can automate your savings. Save before you spend most of your paycheck.  

    Another new habit I have been enjoying is a money date. It means getting together with your friends or your partner and popping a bottle of wine while you talk money. You can put on music or light candles while reviewing your budget and discussing taxes.

     

    4) Look at money as a tool

     

    If our goal is more money, we will never have enough. There is always “more” money to spend on “more” material things. We’ll never truly be satisfied with such a mindset.

    What do you need to buy your dream home? Money. What do you need to quit your draining job and take a year off to travel the world? Money. What do you need to keep a roof over your head? Money. 

    All these things have one thing in common-money. When it comes down to it, money is a tool that can give you the life of your dreams. Don’t use it as the end goal but instead a tool to get your dream life. 

     

    5) Have a wealthy mindset

     

    I have this amazing mentor who I look up to as the most successful person I know. He once shared with me a truly inspiring story from his youth where he saved up for months to go to a fancy five-star hotel for a meal and just sat there, watching people and wondering how they could afford such a lavish lifestyle.

     And then he thought, if they can do it, so can I. He wasn’t born with a silver spoon in his mouth – his family had to share a room. But he had a go-getter mindset and knew he could achieve anything he desired. 

    From him, I learned that your attitude determines your success or failure. It’s as Henry Ford once said, “If you think you can, or you think you can’t, either way, you are right.”

     

    6) Change the way you word things 

     

    Harness the power of money affirmations to transform your inner dialogue about money and wealth. Speak your riches into existence. The way we word things matters!

     So, we must speak about our success, career, and money in a positive light. This means bringing awareness to how you word things. 

    Here are a few examples of how you can change your words-

    “I’ll never be able to afford that.” —> “I am working on a plan to make this mine.”

    “I never have enough money to buy what I want.” —–> “I have more than enough money to support my desired lifestyle.”

    “I am always stressed about money.” —–> “I am free from any finance or money-related worries.”

     

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    Is there anything we missed? How would you describe your relationship with money? I’d love to know in the comments 😀

     

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