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My Beauty Cocktail: Aayushi Pathania

Fashion designer Aayushi Pathania has always loved fashion. “My partner spotted this ability (designing) in me after seeing me creating many of my wedding outfits. And he encouraged me to start my own label.” Here, she shares her favourite sunscreen, one book everyone must read, and the best thing to do after a bad day…

Creative expression can take many forms. What made you decide to start your fashion brand?

Right from high school, I was often appreciated for my styling and clothing choices. My friends looked up to me to give them style advice. I was happily a personal shopper for many. So it’s an inbuilt skill polished finely over the years. My partner spotted this ability in me after seeing me designing many of my wedding outfits. And he encouraged me to start my own label. Then the encouragement was also followed by my old friends who have known me for years. I worked with Burberry in London, which made me realize I have an eye for detailing. I learnt a great deal about fashion, clothing, and non-apparel from there.

As a designer, can you create anything you can imagine?

That’s the beauty of it. With the right set of people, yes, you can create anything you can imagine. We help our clients put life to the designs in their imagination; although it’s a long process but totally worth it.

Your designs have a strong sense of femininity, from the designs to the fabrics, that feels empowering and strong. Can you talk about what goes into creating your garments?

The process is hard, time-consuming and takes lots of effort, but the outcome is super satisfying, knowing that this garment has contributed to many households and livelihoods.

The process includes designing, sampling, creating, recreating right from imagining, picking inspiration and fabric, and choosing the right material for handwork. We have many skilful artisans involved in making one garment. Our fabrics and materials are sourced; a minimum of 2-3 artisans do hand embroidery on it, the master who cuts the garment and a karigar who will then stitch the same. After, a lady usually checks for the quality and puts other small detailing like fringes and tassels if the garment requires that. The garment is then packed and shipped.

From where do you find the inspiration for the prints?

Inspiration for prints comes from my surroundings, From nature, modern art, sunsets, and travel. I am a big sucker for nature and travel. I travel a lot, giving me a bigger platform to observe, learn and recreate.

What story are you telling about the women who wear your designs?

The women who wear our designs are happy, confident and content as they stand out in the garments, which are handmade, beautiful, unique and timeless. They are modern independent women whose personality is reflected through the attire they have adorned. They are filled with the sense of happiness that they have given something back to society, knowing that their purchase encourages handmade and hand embroidered, helping keep this beautiful art of hand embroidery alive.

Could you select one or two looks that have special meaning for you?

A look for a new bride wearing a hand embroidered full flare perfect red anarkali suit feeling beautiful, happy and festive. She is loved and complimented all the time. This look has a special meaning for me as it makes anyone who wears it happy and confident and gives us immense happiness to be a part of their big moment. The bridal pieces are timeless and gorgeous.

What is the biggest lesson that you have learned since you started your label?

The biggest lesson that I have learnt is that it’s important to be passionate about what you do. Because then it never feels like work, and you always enjoy it.

How would you define slow fashion?

Timeless designs that are made to be worn for many years. Sometimes pieces are passed on to the next generation. Throughout creating the garment, we respect the artisans’ environment and animals. For my label, we use high-quality fabrics and materials so that the garment has more life and is easily repairable. Sustainable processes and fabrics emphasize the art of garment making and celebrate the skills of craftspeople and artisans. Made-to-order to reduce excessive production, we create classic, timeless pieces.

What’s inspiring you in life right now?

It’s a funny confession, but Instagram is inspiring me right now! I see so many girls/ women doing wonders with their lives, and in any field you see, you will. Find someone or the other building a good life following their passions and dreams—more power to everyone out there.

How do you define beauty?

Beauty is when there is humbleness and kindness in one. When you are truly confident in yourself, that is beauty. Because if someone is pleasing-looking to the eye but rude to others, that is not beautiful to me.

Best beauty/style advice you’ve received?

Less is more. Be comfortable in your own skin.

How would you define your style in three words?

Chic, sophisticated and classic.

How do you relax after a long day stressful day?

Comfort food and a happy/light conversation or some Netflix. I like to stay at home.

Your go-to for having a good laugh?

My elder sister. She cracks me up big time, any day—my personal entertainer since day 1.

How do you practise self-care?

Eat healthy, be grateful, drink water, sleep, exercise, stay close to nature, and keep your loved ones closer and tell them what they mean to you.

What’s your wake-up ritual?

I like to start my day with warm water, honey, and lemon.

What’s your go-to bed ritual?

I spend some time in front of my mirror brushing my teeth, washing my face, and applying my vit c and night cream. All while listening to some soft music. I usually add a little prayer before I sleep.

Walk us through your daily skincare ritual.

I cleanse my face. Then, I use the Cellular Refining Lotion by La Prairie as a toner. I follow it up with a Minimalist Vitamin C serum for glowing-looking skin. For moisturizing, I use the Ceramide & Hyaluronic Acid Moisturiser from Re’equil. And I swear by sunscreen. It’s the most important one for your skin. I love eye masks which I occasionally use during late evenings.

A book that everyone should read?

There are many, but everyone should read The Secret by Rhonda Byrne because it helps you answer your ifs and whys. It helps you think positively and shows you the power of manifestation.

Vintage or new?

Classic with a pinch of modern in it.

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I have many, to name a few – my first one ever was Blaire Waldorf from Gossip Girls. I also have always admired Audrey Hepburn and Bella Hadid.

Favourite piece of clothing you own?

It’s very difficult to choose one! I love them all, especially the ones that I made.

Must-have clothing item everyone should have?

A comfortable piece of denim

Drugstore makeup or designer?

Designer!! The quality is great for your skin and eyes. Own less but own quality when it comes to makeup.

Lipstick or lip gloss?

A matte lipstick.

Favourite perfume?

Dior – hypnotic poison.

Your daily affirmation?

I have a healthy body, a tranquil mind and a peaceful soul. I am happy, and I am grateful. I attract positive things, and I am God’s child.

Thank you so much, Aayushi! ( Psst- Keep an eye out on Aayushi’s cool fashion and travel content here. )

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June 27, 2023
How to Cope with Blah Days

Have you had those days when you’re not depressed but not excited?

All the days feel the same. It’s been over a week, and I can’t seem to shake this feeling away. Something’s a bit off, but I don’t know why or what it is. I am not depressed, exactly, but not excited about life. I am distracted and not very motivated, even though I have a million things on my list that need to be done.

Experience has taught me that if I don’t take steps to address this mysterious unknown feeling blah feeling, then it snowballs into a massive depressive state which seems impossible to come out from. The key is to put yourself in a better headspace so you can more easily cope with this strange feeling.

Here are a few things that I have been doing to cope with this kind of day or even turn it around.

1. Recognize that it’s a feeling and our moods, like waves go up and down. Shrug your shoulders, chin up, wear your favourite lipstick, and choose to make it through the day. Nothing’s wrong, and there is nothing wrong with you. It’s just the way you’re feeling-and; our feelings usually change.

2. Don’t be hard on yourself. Don’t beat yourself up for feeling blah, and miserable. Be patient, gentle, kind, and understanding with yourself. You’re no worse than others, as we ALL have blah days.

3. Do something rather than nothing. Do a few mindless tasks so you don’t just waste the day, and you’re likely to feel better and slightly productive once you’ve got those out the way, as they’re usually the things you never want to do!

4. Only do as much as you have to. Somedays, it takes all your strength just to make it through the day. Preserve your energy. Read that book, watch that show, take a cozy nap and allow some things to slide. You can always get to them another day.

5. Be extra nice to yourself. One of the best ways to fight a dull cloudy day is to be extra loving to yourself and do the things that lift your mood and brighten your day. For example, go for a dessert, treat yourself to something relaxing, watch a show or a movie, have a long bubble bath, turn up your favourite music, eat your favourite meal, or call a loved one. Do all the kinds of things that you know will boost your mood.

6. Get outside. Take a half-hour walk out in nature to lift your energy and take your mind off everything.

7. Cultivate inner love. Practise solitude. Have a sufficient amount of alone time. Sign up for yoga. Write in your journal, and meditate for at least 20 minutes. Bringing this calm stillness will do wonders for your soul.

8. Watch a comedy show. Laughter is the best medicine. Watch your favourite stand-up, go through your favourite meme account, listen to a comedy podcast, or watch funny videos to get that dose of belly laughter.

xo

Yachna

What do you do to get over your blah days? Let us know in the comments < 3 If you’re going through one right now, sending you warm hugs :*

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June 23, 2023
5 Things She Wants From You

We’re excited to kick off the first installment of our new pleasure column. In the blog posts that follow every Monday, we’ll provide a cliff note version of everything you need to know to make the woman (or women) in your life extremely happy and satisfied. Think of these mini-posts as your Lover-in-a-Box Kit on a count of five.

Starting off with the question that have plagued the greatest philosophers to have ever lived. “Why don’t men know what women want? Is it really that hard to figure it out?” Well no. If you ask women what they want…especially in bed, we’ll tell you exactly what we need. Here goes five things every woman wants from you-

1) Attuned Giving

Let your focus and direction be leavened by awareness and attunement. Initiate and direct not by dominating and going where you want, but by paying attention to her signals and taking her where she wants to go. Give her exactly what she wants when she wants it by using your attention and presence in service to her pleasure. (Ultimately, her complete surrender to opening is exactly where you want to go, too!)

2) Your presence

If you don’t show up, who’s that guy having sex with her? Your presence in the moment with her will bring more magic to your time together.

3) Clean, clear intentions and integrity

Don’t degrade yourself or her by manipulating or lying to her. Know what you want and speak your truth to her. If all you want is hot sex with no commitment, that’s okay- tell her. That might be what she wants, too!!

4) Reliability and direction

Women are just like the moon. Similar to lunar energy, women are shifting and have several phases. They need a “solar” partner with reliable, powerful masculine energy that doesn’t blow away with the wind. Instead, she wants someone that can be counted on to provide clear focus and attention. You’re her solid centre; she dances around it. Bring it on!

5) Your fiery hot studly masculine energy

Be that demon lover, guys, but only when she’s really ready and basically begging for it. You’ll know when it happens 😉

Do you have any words of advice you’d like to add? Or questions you’d like us to answer in future columns? Please let us know in the comments. xo

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June 19, 2023
15 of the Best Red Lipsticks of All Time

Eyeshadow is cool, as is mascara, but no makeup product holds my heart like lipstick. On those weird days when my face looks tired or just off somehow, lipstick is my saving grace. When I have five minutes to get ready in the morning, a bright red lip is the first thing I grab. It’s my version of having a basic white tee with blue jeans. When I’m in a bad mood, a vibrant, bold red turns that right around. I always carry red lipstick in my bag to make myself more beautiful.

So here is a list of some amazing red lipsticks and formulas you will want to consider on your next hunt for the best red lippy!

MAC Ruby Woo

Starting off with the classic MAC Ruby Woo, such a classic, especially for a newbie to red lips. Being my personal first try at red lipstick, you cannot go wrong with this one. Considering it is a matte formula, it will last you all day!

Lancôme L’absolu Rouge Cream Lipstick

With a red for every desired look, this has to be one of the most luxurious reds I’ve tried, and with the packaging that comes with it. The sheen and pigment this lipstick gives off are incredible! You feel expensive with this lipstick on you; a must-try for sure!

Maybelline New York Color Sensational Lipstick

Don’t underestimate a drugstore red lipstick, though; Maybelline New York Color Sensational Lipstick in “Red For Me” is made to suit every skin tone. With the colour tested on 50 different skin tones, it is tailored for everyone; again, for a beginner, you will love this!

Revlon Super Lustrous Lipstick

Sticking to budget-friendly, Revlon Super Lustrous Lipstick has an array of red shades in the line, and you will surely find something you will love. This formula packs a punch on pigmentation. However, it can be applied sheer for the first layer and for those looking for a more sheer red. With the lipstick infused with Vitamin E and Avocado oil, your lips will not be mad at you!

YSL Rouge Pur Couture

Okay, back to a bit more boujee, the YSL Rouge Pur Couture line is… glamorous AF. You will not be disappointed by these reds; these will have heads turning and people asking, “What lipstick are you wearing?” If it’s anything, Yves Saint Laurent, you will get noticed with those lipsticks, and I love that for you!

Fenty Stunna Lip Paint

Onto a liquid red! Fenty Stunna Lip Paint in Uncensored. Wow, who remembers when she came out with this red? This was flying off the shelves, and of course, like all her products, she really did that. As it suggests, this is the perfect universal red with a weightless soft-matte finish, and did I mention long-lasting? This is yummy to have on your lips and rarely requires re-application.

Dior Rouge Forever Liquid Transfer-Proof Lipstick

Need I say more? Luxury at its finest, as the name tells you already… it doesn’t budge, feather, or settle into fine lines. You’re getting that smooth, comfortable and intense colour that’s gonna last 12 hours. With that pointy doe foot applicator, you can use it with or without a lip liner… this liquid lipstick will have you saying, “J’adore Dior!”

The Atomic Shake Long Lasting Liquid Lipsticks

Onto Haus Labs by Lady Gaga! I see a trend here with the liquid lips, but I’m not complaining! She has three reds to choose from in this line. However, my fave is the Cherry Shine, a true red. Now, with this liquid lip, you have to allow it time to set is the main thing when using this line; after allowing it to set onto your lips, it will not move all day! Need I say more?

MAC’s Chilli

A bit of a different tone of red… MAC’s Chilli, a brownish orange-red. One of my all-time favourites from MAC. Honestly, this is the shade for fall time, and paired with a beautiful eyeshadow look or even just a bare eye, you get noticed with this lip. It is a mature look; I feel like a *señorita* in this lip. If you haven’t tried this unique red yet, please do!

Glossier Ultralip High Shine Lipstick

For my shy girlies, who want to dabble with a red lip but don’t want so much pigment, I got you! Glossier Ultralip High Shine Lipstick in Watermelon Red would be a good way to have a sheen to the lips but not so bold, with pigment giving you more of a lip tint finish, with several great ingredients in there, like hyaluronic acid, jojoba seed oil, etc. You will get all the moisture of a balm and a beautiful colour to go with it!

Make Up For Ever Rouge Artist

Make Up For Ever Constantly On Fire is a lovely classic red. The major seller for this liquid lip is the staying power and the amazing smooth feeling on the lip, but the applicator! Those round edges and flat surfaces quickly fill in all the edges and lines of the lip, making it so effortless and seamless for application and with just one swipe, you get all the pigment you need. 10/10!

GXVE By Gwen Stefani

Of course, for someone who is always rocking a red lip, it only makes sense she made one of her own! The colour Original Recipe is her true red, a clean and cruelty-free lipstick. A lot of people love this one! With a velvety-matte finish and high colour payoff, you cannot go wrong with this red and not to mention the packaging from her line is amazing!

Nars Powermatte Long-Lasting Lipstick

My pick from this fantastic line is Dragon Girl. One swipe coverage and gives all-day comfort, this formula feels next to nothing to wear, so comfortable and breathable. Again I want to mention the packaging on this lipstick because it is so sleek, and you just feel like a boss b****. You have to try it out for yourself.

The Rouge Lacquer Long-Lasting Lipstick.

From Sephora Collection!! There are so many colours to pick from. However, the colour 35 in I want it all being a deep red is suitable for anyone, but deeper skin tones will love it! With these only being $19, you cannot go wrong, and you will love the shine in these!

Fenty’s Gloss Bomb in Hot Cherry

Finishing off with Miss Riri. I wanted to give you a gloss! Fenty’s Gloss Bomb in Hot Cherry gives you a beautiful reddish tint to the lip. Nothing too overbearing, just a little *flush* if you will… I love this gloss type on days you want to give a little something but also have it be very natural. With this going viral on TikTok, as most Fenty products do, you must try this one out!

Well, beauty lover, that’s all for now. On your next shopping day, try something new and bold, and maybe even pick up one of these beautiful red lipsticks for your next red lip day! You can never go wrong with a classic red lip, be fearless, be bold!

Until next time.

xo

Chantel

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June 15, 2023
21 Cult-Favourite Beauty Products That Are Worth the Hype

Hello beauty lover, why don’t we take a trip down memory lane?

With some beauty faves, of course, it can be challenging to know what to buy with all the options out there. All the new products are coming out while the older faves are on the shelves.

So here’s a list of the favourites that have been consistently in the makeup kits over the years. From cult favourite skincare to holy grail makeup products, you’ll use it until the last drop.

1) Clinique Take The Day Off Cleansing Balm

To start, a makeup remover is essential. Clinique Take The Day Off Cleansing Balm is a well-known makeup remover and seriously a favourite for efficiently removing makeup. Often sold out, so no complaints here. This balm preps the skin nicely for a good clean afterwards!

2) CeraVe Foaming Facial Cleanser

Finding a cleanser that works for you and your skin concerns can be difficult with all the skincare. CeraVe’s cleanser options have something for everyone, and I am still waiting to hear anyone that has used this and had any issues with it. It’s gentle enough for everyday use and cleans the face like a dream. Definitely a must-try!

3) Tatcha’s Dewy Skin Cream

Of course, everyone loves a good moisturizer, so a couple of favourites…Now, most people have seen or heard of the Tatcha creams, and again, there is something for everyone’s skin type. My favourite is the dewy skin cream… heavenly! I swear your skin will thank you every time you use this.

4) SK-II’s Facial Treatment Essence

The fountain of youth in a mask. From a luxurious award-winning skincare line, this essence softens texture, evens skin tone, enhances radiance and reduces the appearance of dark spots & fine lines, leaving you with angelic dewy skin. Worth every penny!!!

5) Sol De Janeiro Brazilian Bum Bum Cream

Moisturized for the face but how about the body? The Sol De Janeiro Brazilian Bum Bum Cream is wildly viral. For a reason, this cream smells amazing! Those who don’t like a fragrance in a body cream should skip this one. However, for the summer especially, this cream is a dream! It does its job, keeping the skin nice and hydrated while smelling amazing. Love love this cream!

6) L’Oréal Paris Colour Riche Original Satin Lipstick

One word: WOW! Very comparable to high-end lipsticks; the pigment in these lipsticks is lovely and packed with full coverage on the first swipe. The colour options are also beautiful; you will surely find the perfect everyday lipstick in this line!

7) Stila Stay All Day Waterproof Eye Liner

Everyone loves a good liquid eyeliner for that perfect staple wing liner, right? The Stila Stay All Day Eye Liner is a must! The pigment is fantastic and lives up to its name. It truly does not budge once applied. This is quite the popular one as well.

8) Beauty Blender

Onto a cult favourite for makeup, the Beautyblender! I’m sure everyone and their mom has heard about this sponge. It’s a must for blending. As we have seen, many brands imitate this sponge; however, the original has always retained its popularity. Blending out creams to liquids effortlessly, this sponge has to be a part of your kit!

9) Laura Mercier Loose Setting Powder

Haven’t tried a setting powder yet? Don’t just settle for any setting powder. Cult favourite and winner of major awards, Laura Mercier’s light and beautiful Translucent Loose Setting Powder, is a game-changer. I love this powder for sitting under the eyes and oily spots on the face; this one lasts all day. Have been using this powder for years and wouldn’t consider using anything else!!

10) Ruby Woo

What are you doing if you don’t have Mac Cosmetics Ruby Woo?! A classic retro matte red lip with a fade-proof formula and blue undertones. The red lipstick of your dreams makes you feel confident and effortlessly bold with that old Hollywood charm. A classic cult favourite for a reason.

11) Nars Orgasm Blush

Iconic Nars Orgasm Blush has been a huge cult favourite for a million years. A sparkly pink with buildable coverage gives a flattering 3lovely glow to your cheekbones and stays all day. Superfine and silky powder. Simply irresistible!!

12) Velvet Teddy

More for an everyday lip, we have a popular and well-known lipstick Velvet Teddy. A matte and deeper tone beige that is primarily a warmer tone but can change depending on skin tone and lip liner paired with it. Such a lovely nude, and you must try this colour for your next everyday nude!

13) Shiseido Power Infusing Serum

An absolute must-have for all skin types!! The serum is infused with eight botanical ingredients that help to activate your skin’s inner defences and stimulate circulation. Some ingredients, such as reishi mushrooms, iris extract, lotus and ginko, collectively boost hydration and lift and firm up my skin to leave it looking radiant.

14) Soft Pinch Liquid Blush

Another pick for liquid and the extremely viral Soft Pinch Liquid Blushes from Rare Beauty is another classic for blushes; as a little goes a long way, these last for a long time!

15) Urban Decay Naked Palette

With the endless eyeshadow palettes on the market, it takes time to pick out the best of the best. However, there are treasures to remember when picking out what’s best! Urban Decay Naked palettes… were huge when they first came on the market! They have every shade you need for a perfect everyday nude look, or take it to a night look with a perfect smokey eye! My fave is the Naked Heat Palette, with warmer tones. However, there is something for everyone with each palette.

16) YSL Black Opium

This bold and sensual perfume is the one I gravitate to the most. It’s such an amazing scent; I could talk about it all day… but I’ll keep it short; if you haven’t tried it yet, go smell it, and you’re guaranteed to fall in love!

17) Giorgio Armani Luminous Silk Foundation

Now for the foundation, it takes a lot of work to pick out the best, considering there is much on the market. However, the Giorgio Armani Luminous Silk Foundation is a classic for many splurging on a good foundation. If you love a lightweight foundation, you will love this one. It’s sensitive skin-friendly, does NOT enhance pores or wrinkles, blends flawlessly, and lasts all day, giving your skin a natural glowy finish. So beautiful; you need this ASAP!!!

18) Laneige Lip Sleeping Mask

A community cult favourite!!! This moisturizing mask lasts a long time for deep hydration without icky stickiness. This mask lasts a long time. You can use it day or night and with the formulation of vitamin C. A huge best seller with reason.

19) Fresh Sugar Lip Polish Exfoliator

A must-try for dry, flaky, and cracked lips. The Fresh Sugar Lip Polish is a great Lip Scrub and a go-to for many who want fresh, hydrated lips. You’ll love this lip mask, formulated with real brown sugar to remove flakes and many other natural, hydrating ingredients!

20) Augustinus Bader The Face Oil

A magnificent oil that has a deep golden colour. The oil is not thick and doesn’t leave your face greasy or overly shiny. It has a richness that’s deeply moisturizing and calming to the skin. A wonderful compliment to the entire skincare routine I purchased. A beautiful start to your new skincare journey!

21) Ariana Grande Cloud Perfume

Another celebrity fragrance is the Ariana Grande Cloud perfume. Every time I wear this, I get compliments and questions about what I am wearing. It’s so clean, unique, and undeniably pleasing. Try it for yourself!!

Well, beauty lover, that’s all on the list. Did you see any of your favourites? Or a new potential fave? Hopefully, you got some new suggestions, or even one of your current beauty must-haves made the list! Be sure to tune in to the next beauty blog as there is much more to fill you in on, but for now, stay beautiful as you always are, and we will chat again next time!

xo,

Chantel

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June 3, 2023
16 Things That Turn Women On

1. He puts his arms around your waist and kisses your neck when he comes up behind you. This is never not hot.

2. We love it when he can have an intellectually stimulating conversation about his favourite book. It’s nice to know that he has a brain that isn’t flooded with random facts about sports and TV shows.

3. When he goes down on you without expecting any other sexual activity afterward.

4. When he plays with your hair. It‘s one of my biggest turn-ons, and I know I’m not the only girl like that!

5. When he opens doors for us and pulls out, our chairs are swoon-worthy. It’s not something we see daily, even though we should. So if you treat a woman with respect and do a few little things for her, she’ll think you the sweetest thing she’s ever seen. 🙂

6. He surprises us with our favourite flowers and chocolates or does something we never would have predicted.

7. When he’s a total gentleman and makes you feel safe, protected, and comfortable in his presence. There’s nothing more manly and sexier than this!!!

8. We women can’t get enough of funny men. Of course, making us laugh is one of many important things you need to do. It’s hot when you can take a joke and are ready to laugh at yourself without yelling or getting angry.

9. When he’s proud of you and brags about you to your friends/family.

10. When he knows to be a man and when to be a child. You can’t have too much of one; a balance should exist. When I say man, I mean a mature, romantic, serious guy who works hard and has a direction in life. By a child, I mean a man who’s silly, funny, and can enjoy nostalgic things like cartoons and comic books.

11. When he won’t complain if we want to wait to get physical. We want a man who won’t groan if we take too long applying makeup in the bathroom. The more patience you have, the happier we are with you.

12. When he gives you a foot relief massage and sensual leg caressing after a long day. Yum!!!

13. When he has excellent hygiene and is well-dressed. We obviously can’t resist a suit and a tie. However, you don’t always need to wear a suit and tie but look clean and presentable. Rawr!!

14. We love it when he’s confident in himself, comfortable in his skin and owns any room he’s in. Periodtttt!!!

15. It’s a huge turn-on when he’s willing to give her her space yet still be there.

16. We love it when you seduce us with food by cooking a delicious meal or taking us to a yummy food spot. The point is to feed our souls with our favourite food.

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May 22, 2023
7 Products To Build A Solid Makeup Kit For Beginners

Hello beautiful, I missed you!

Thought of some more makeup tips for you, not that you need it *wink wink*, but since you are new to makeup, how about we build a kit with everything you need?

1. Moisturizer

Firstly, you’re gonna wanna start with a moisturizer! Yes, hydration matters more than a primer. If you are new to makeup and need more time to prime, skip it and do your skincare instead!

My fave drugstore moisturizers are the CeraVe Moisturizing Cream and the La Roche-Posay line in general, *Muah, chefs kiss*

2. Concealer

Next is concealer to cover up those bags under your eyes… Chanel bags, of course, but we wanna cover them up nonetheless.

As a beginner, I started with the Maybelline Fit Me Concealer, which is easy to blend and provides excellent coverage! If you are a beginner to makeup, I suggest skipping foundation; you will get there, but for now, let’s keep it as natural as possible, and the fewer steps, the better!

3. Eyeshadow

Next for the eyes, eyeshadow! If you want to add a little something something to your eyelids, you want to add a little colour. You must try the Rimmel Wonder Cloud Whipped Cream Eyeshadow with Built-in Primer. All the pigment you’re looking for while having that primer in there to make it last all day!

4. Blush/Bronzer

If we want to do blush and bronzer to sculpt out the cheeks, I recommend the e.l.f. Contouring Blush & Bronzing Powder Palette. It’s a total dupe for the Nars Bronzer Duo, but way more affordable and still gives enough pigment to the skin!

5. Mascara

Onto lashes, baby, we could go on for days with recommendations of drugstore mascaras. But I’ll cut it down to 3 suggestions for now…

1-Maybelline Lash Sensational Sky High Mascara. Yes, please!

2-L’Oréal Lash Paradise Mascara, you already know!

3-Essence I Love Extreme Volume Mascara, and we do too!

6. Lippies

Next to the lippies, if you are a fan of just a *touch* or a *sprinkle* of colour with the added hydration benefit, you will love the Baby Lips Moisturizing Balm by Maybelline; these bring back memories! The smell and feel of these are lovely, though; they also have a natural look.

If you’re like me and love lipstick, you will fall in love with L’Oréal Colour Riche Original Satin Lipsticks. Unique nude shades in this line are very compatible with high-end shades.

7. Setting Spray/Finishing Powder

Now, let’s lock in all that hard work you did as an intro to makeup! Bravo!

For that, I’d suggest the Rimmel London Stay Matte Pressed Powder. Again, what I used as a beginner to makeup. It’s inexpensive but did the job of setting all the cream products in place. A must-try!

For setting spray, the NYX line of setting sprays is excellent, be sure to pick the one right for your skin concerns. Another great one is the L’Oréal Infallible Pro-Spray & Set.

And you’re ready to go!

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What a great time to start building your makeup kit; with these basics, you’ll be able to discover your talents with makeup. Keep an open mind with makeup, and don’t be afraid to play! After all, it comes off, and you might discover your new go-to makeup look.

Hope you get to try some of these products out the next time you’re on the hunt for some new ones, girly!

xo

Chantel

P.S.

11 summer makeup essentials that won’t melt in the heat

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May 16, 2023
30 Life Lessons From 30 Years

This week I turned 30.

My heart is filled with gratitude and joy for experiencing another year across the sun. I still have so much growing up and learning to do. Even though everyone around me makes turning 30 scary and that life as I know it is over, I am thrilled to be starting this new chapter of my life.

In honour of the occasion, here are 30 things I’ve collected over the years — observations, lessons, and reminders-

1. The magic of gratitude.

If there’s one thing that can stop negative thoughts and emotions in their tracks, it’s gratitude. Feel joy in every season of your life. It doesn’t matter whether it is stormy, rainy, or sunshine. A grateful heart is a magnet for miracles.

2. Be your own hero.

No one is coming to save you. Depend on yourself. You get to choose your next chapter. Be the writer and the hero of your story.

3. Let the world surprise you.

Keep your eyes and heart open. Withhold judgement. Think of all the people, experiences, shows, and stories you’d miss out on if you didn’t give them a chance. Allow the world to surprise you.

4. Give in to the sweetness of doing nothing.

Waste time. Go for long walks in nature. Lie down in the flowers. Fall asleep under a tree. Try out a new recipe. Read that book. Write a love letter to yourself. Paint. Knit something. Have a rest day or a year. In a world obsessed with productivity and keeping busy, reclaim the playful and creative energy within you because these “unproductive” hours are the soul-shaping hours of our lives.

5. You are enough.

Care for yourself the way you’ve always longed to be cared for. You deserve all the love, softness and kindness you always give others. You don’t need to exhaust yourself, proving it to others.

6. Create your own definitions.

People are full of suggestions on what your life should look like at any given age. But some words such as “happiness,” “success,” and “respect” you get to define for yourself.

7. Create what you wish existed.

Start your blog. Finish your book. Create your dream skincare line or a hair product that actually works for curly hair. Bring your craziest idea to life. Just do it.

8. Comparison is the thief of joy.

You can’t compare the sun, the moon, and the stars. They all shine in their own time. No same flowers blossom at the same time. Stop comparing yourself to others. Compare yourself to the person from yesterday.

9. Enjoy the journey.

You are exactly where you need to be today. Life is not a race. Take your time to the destination. Slow down and savour this moment…just like your favourite dessert.

10. The first step is always the hardest.

Just start. It takes a lot of courage and boldness to that take that first step. Do it alone. Do it, scared. Do it broke. Just take that first step and learn as you go. You don’t need to have it all figured out…just yet.

11. Some goodbyes are inevitable.

Sometimes our loved ones have to say goodbye to us. But you’ll still love them when they’re gone and keep them safe in your heart forever.

12. Moms are always right.

She’s your best friend. Listen to her. It turns out my mom has always been right. I just didn’t like her tone.

13. No looking back.

You can’t go back to the person you were yesterday. That person no longer exists. I love where you’re going.

14. Everything takes longer than you think it will.

Building friendships, relationships, starting your dream project. Everything good takes longer than we think, and life rarely goes as planned.

15. Nobody can be uncheered with a balloon.

Long walks in nature. Morning cuddles. Watching a beautiful sunset. A long candlelit bath. Jamming your playlist. Tender kisses on the forehead. Video chatting with someone you love. All these little things take up the most room in your heart. Cherish them.

16. It’s time for a glow-up.

There are no limitations on starting over. Drop the idea that you must always be who you have always been. Be a phoenix. Burn to ashes and reinvent yourself into who you’ve always wanted to be.

17. Transform yourself in solitude.

It’s okay and necessary to need quiet time to replenish your spirit. Find a healthy balance between connection and solitude.

18. It’s okay to need help.

It’s okay to need help sometimes. We were never supposed to do this alone.

19. Speak up for yourself.

You heal every time you muster the courage to speak up for yourself. Reclaim your power by making your own decisions.

20. Burn brightly.

Even if it provokes others, who are still afraid of their own light.

21. Rejection is redirection.

Whenever I thought I was being rejected by something good, I was redirected toward something even better. Believe it or not…many of my life’s greatest blessings have come in the form of rejection.

22. Worship your body.

Listen to it. Worship it. Honour it by treating it with kindness and tenderness.

23. Daily Meditation.

Create space in your daily day for quiet stillness, even for 10 minutes. It does wonders for your soul.

24. Know when to walk away.

Respect yourself enough to walk from people and places that don’t see the beauty in you.

25. Keep it weird.

The things that make you ‘weird’ are some of your best qualities.

26. Perfectionism is a myth.

Liberate yourself from the shackles of perfectionism by letting yourself be seen just the way you are.

27. It’s okay to not be okay.

Crying isn’t cringe. It’s a natural and healthy response to pain and sorrow in life. It provides a hard reset for your heart. Let it flow.

28. Boundaries are hot.

Create and stick to the boundaries that protect your softness.

29. You are not vanilla ice cream.

You can’t make everyone happy, and that’s okay. Stop worrying about what other people think. Be your own unique flavour, even if it’s not for everyone.

30. Your intuition is your superpower…so listen to it.

Thank you, as always, for reading.

xo

Yachna

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May 12, 2023
11 Sweat-Proof Makeup Products That Won’t Melt in the Heat

That 30+ weather making sweat drip all over your face?

And not all your makeup is coming off with the sweat, too; yikes!!!

Tell me about it…

With summer here, you’ll need a list of all the sweat-proof, waterproof, bulletproof, and mistake-proof makeup for all your needs. Sheesh, good luck taking it off at the end of the day.

1. Face Sunscreen

Let’s start with a good SPF because looking like a burnt zucchini is a no-no. We’re not doing that this summer; were you lacking last summer?

Let’s make sure you stock up on an essential, like Sunscreen, this summer. One of my favourites has been the Laneige Hydro UV Defense Broad Spectrum Sunscreen with SPF 50. It leaves no white cast, gives a healthy glow to the skin and keeps your skin hydrated and nourished the entire day. I use this everyday rain or shine as a part of skin prep.

10/10 for Sunscreen in my books. You’re welcome!

2. Primer

If you’re wearing makeup, you want to make sure it’s not moving anywhere! I have two primers that get the job done.

First, the Milk Makeup Hydro Grip Primer. The tackiness of this primer helps my makeup last all day. You want to wait a minute for this to dry, then apply your products.

Second is the One Size Secure The Sweat Mattifying Primer, a great primer to lock in your makeup all day. In general, One Size Beauty has a great selection to lock in your makeup all day… literally locked in, not moving.

3. Concealer

I love minimal makeup, especially in hot ass humid weather. I skip foundation altogether.

I have been loving a drugstore product, the NYX Bare With Me Concealer Serum for concealer. This one is great for spot concealing, super lightweight and gives excellent coverage.

Another alternative is the Kosas Concealer; I love how creamy this one is, and it also gives great coverage, especially for under eyes.

4. Tint

If you’re looking for a product all over the face, I recommend using a bb cream or a skin tint.

One of my ABSOLUTE faves is the Fenty Eaze Drop Blurring Skin Tint. When I tell y’all, finding a shade that matches your colour in this is so easy. The coverage is buildable, so it’s nice for a natural everyday look. Highly recommend this skin tint, especially for summer use!!!

5. Foundation

Even though I skip out on foundation altogether during summer, to anyone who likes foundation in the summertime, especially for a night out, the Fenty Pro Filter Foundation is another excellent sweat-proof product, as it is mattifying.

6. Eyeshadow

*The eyes chico. They never lie*

So if you want to do eyeshadow, I’d keep it simple and do a stick or cream to sweep on the eyelids. I have been loving the Bobbi Brown Longwear Cream Shadow Stick. It stays put all day and is very easy to apply.

If you’re looking for a cheaper alternative, the NYX Jumbo Eye pencils are perfect for eyeshadow, and they are highly pigmented and last a long time.

7. Mascara

Drugstore

Next, mascara, of course! For Waterproof mascara, we’ll give you a high-end as well as a drugstore suggestion.

So let’s start with the drugstore. L’Oréal Lash Paradise Mascara is waterproof and smudge-proof mascara, giving your lashes breathtaking volume! When I tell you that mascara will not budge. A MUST-HAVE for a pool day.

High-End

Now for high-end, I love me a Lancôme Mascara, honestly any of them and with a waterproof formula. Amazing!

8. Bronzer

I almost forgot a bronzer and blush… how could I?

Alright, so I’ve loved the GloWish Soft Radiance bronzer from Huda Beauty. The swirl two-toned bronzer gives the perfect amount of sun-kissed to the skin, and with a vegan formula, your skin will love it! If you want to swap out for just a cream bronzer, the Match Stix from Fenty Beauty is a must-try!

9. Blush

On to blush, again for a powder (this one is a hidden gem), the Rimmel Maxi Blush. This needs to get more hype; so much pigment packed in these blushes, and for such a low price!!! Try them out if you haven’t yet!

So for cream blush… you already know it will have to be the Soft Pinch Liquid Blush by Rare Beauty, that pea-sized amount for all that pigment that’s a no-brainer.

10. Lippies

I don’t know about you, but I feel complete with SOME gloss or lip liner; it just ties a whole look together. The Refy Lip Sculpt Lip Liner is such a game-changer for lip liners.

I apply this once, and it stays in place all day. I’d keep the look simple with a gloss or lip balm; I love the NYX Butter Glosses. It’s like lipstick and gloss in one; you have to re-apply. However, the pigment on these is impressive, and the texture is very smooth and velvety. Love it!

11. Setting Spray

Of course, the hairspray for the face, Setting Spray! An essential for a locked-in look that lasts you all day. Two suggestions for this one as well

Drugstore

First, the One Size On ‘Til Dawn Setting Spray. This doesn’t even come off when you go in a pool; this is perfect for summer days.

High-End

Next has to be the Charlotte Tilbury Airbrush Setting Spray; if it’s anything you need from her line, it’s definitely this!!

I love this setting spray and use it whenever I have a full beat; it’s refreshing and keeps my makeup fresh all day. Must have, for sure!

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So you beautiful, sweaty and sometimes oily girly, ready to tackle this summer heat? You are more than ready!

Go for some food and drinks on the patio, go to that pool party, confident you don’t need any touch-ups with this list. And most importantly, protecting your skin with that Sunscreen!

You can thank me later with a sangria on the patio.

Xoxo

Chantel

May 4, 2023
Top Six Tips for Being Independent in a Romantic Relationship

Falling in love is intoxicating.

It’s tempting to circle your whole life around the new sparkly, shiny, lovely man you’ve just met, especially in a new relationship.

Trust me. I get it.

It’s been a long time since you really liked someone, and you’re excited. You both are into each other. And it feels good after months or years of boring, meaningless dates that never evolved into anything.

You’re finally in love; all you want to do is be in love.

Everything else sounds boring and lame compared to the happiness you’ve found in your lover’s arms.

This starry-eyed feeling you have right now is fleeting. And the more you try to hold onto it, the less happy you’ll be.

Yes, you’re the happiest when cuddling with your baby, all cozy watching Netflix. You think it makes you the happiest, but it shouldn’t be that way.

Yes, it’s a priority!!! But it can’t be the biggest one.

It’s not your fault.

We all grew up watching movies that showed us in a romantic relationship; two people spent all their waking moments doing everything together. Hello, Claustrophobia!!

The two of you might be ridiculously compatible and annoyingly cute, but alone time is still a realistic expectation.

Here are SIX tips for being independent in a romantic relationship-

1) Keep your individuality

It’s so easy to be wrapped up in him and “us” that you lose your uniqueness. The two of you do everything together. Slowly, you abandon old habits and hobbies. Your friends never see you anymore. If he’s interested in soccer, suddenly it’s your favourite pastime too. Seriously, why??? Cut that crap out! You are awesome, just the way you are.

2) Be fiercely independent

Express your opinions. Share your thoughts. Speak your mind. Set your boundaries. Be assertive. Understand and accept each other’s point of view without imposing. Give your partner the freedom to be who they are, and do not settle for anything less. All of these will help your partner to understand you better.

Remember: You don’t have to be on the same page on everything to make each other feel like one. On the contrary, freedom in a relationship helps love last.

3) Solo Dates

Just because you are in a relationship doesn’t mean you need to give up the things you once loved doing—even if you feel tempted, especially at the beginning when things are new and exciting. Take yourself on dates.

Sign up for that pottery class. Take up photography. Enroll in a cooking class. Take a solo trip to your dream place. Or, have a cozy night in watching Netflix.

The point is to keep investing in yourself and trying to know yourself. Keep some hobbies you do alone or with people other than your partner. Plan some time every week when you do things separately.

4) Keep following your dreams and desires

Please do this right now.

Make a list of your dreams and ambitions. Write down your goals and place them into categories such as Education, Health & Fitness, Creativity, Travel and Finance. Then, take action toward it and check those things off your bucket list.

The best kind of relationship is two people supporting each other while they do their own things. It’s about developing and learning alongside your partner and not making him the only priority in your life.

5) See your friends often

Don’t be that friend who disappears whenever she gets a new boyfriend. Your relationship is important, but don’t let weekly hangouts with your friends be annual. If you make your partner the sun, the moon, and the stars, that’s a lot of pressure on just one person. It’s great to feel wanted, not desperately clutched. That behaviour isn’t about love; it’s about insecurity.

6) Talk to each other

Finally, communication is key. Be open and brutally honest with your partner about how you feel and what you need to maintain your sense of self in the relationship. By following these tips, you’ll be able to you can stand by his side, tall and proud, instead of strangling him with expectations.

Do you do everything with your partner? Or do you, sometimes, need a bit of time to yourself? Would you add anything to this list? Comment below

May 1, 2023