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  • 9 Hot Tips For The Best Period Sex.

    9 Hot Tips For The Best Period Sex.

     

    You should be able to have sex whenever you want to. Life is too short to NOT have sex for a week every month. Especially not when our bodies crave it the most!!!

    Of course, you may be strongly opposed to the idea, considering how disgusting we assume it to be (thanks, society) and think it’s the worst, and that’s fine, too. 

    Period sex can feel like stepping into an unknown territory which can cause fear. And, no, it will not be some insane bloody crime scene (although there will be blood). 

    With these hot tips, you’ll have a good idea of what to expect during period sex with a partner or sex with yourself.

    1) Goodbye cramps

    Orgasms are the best cure for your cramps! You may think popping your favourite pain killer will do the trick and can contribute to a degree. Period sex can be messy, but there’s nothing as powerful as orgasms during period sex that will take away all the period pain. It’s because, with every orgasm, serotonin and dopamine are released into the body, and it’s the best painkiller you can give all those cramps. Whether it’s sex with a partner or sex with yourself, that orgasm is going to deliver.

    2) There’s even more lubrication

     There’s nothing different about period sex, except that there’s even more lubrication. If your vagina is on the dry side or has difficulty producing enough lubrication naturally, then period sex will likely be a welcome break from needing lube. The blood acts as extra lubrication, which is incredible. The wetness feels unbelievable!!

    But before you start thinking the whole “ew, blood” thing again, think about this: Yes, you’re bleeding when you menstruate. But, most of what you’re seeing is the shedding of your uterine lining. Not all of what you see is blood, as there are other fluids in there as well.

    3) Heightened sex drive

    Do you also feel like your hormones are bat-shit crazy during that time of the month? Use that in your favor1 so you and your partner can both enjoy the intensity you have sexually. Since period sex is taboo, it feels a bit risqué, making it hotter. Plus, you are extra-horny during your period, so to have sex and not hold back just because you’re on your period is a liberating feeling.

    4) Use a condom

    Safety first, always!

     Using a condom (any form of barrier birth control, and for oral sex, a dental dam) during period sex is a must for STI prevention. It makes for easier cleanup, which is essential if your partner gets easily nauseated about blood and lessens your chance of contracting bacteria. If blood in the vagina or uterus gets exposed to bacteria during unprotected sex, there are more places for bacteria to grow. 

    5) Pick a comfortable sex position

    The position is everything. Missionary or any position that involves having you on your back—is your best bet when your blood flow is on the heavier side. It’s simple: if you’re on top, there’s likely to be more blood than on the bottom. If you want something gentler—or feel bloated and gross—give in to the endless joy of spooning. 

    6) Use a dark-coloured towel

    I know, this is super obvious but it needs to be said.

    You may worry about creating a mess, or your partner may be grossed out.

    It’s easier for all the bloody mess to distract you and your partner from enjoying the sex. Yes, I agree having sex on your period may seem a little messy in theory, it’s not the bloodbath you’re envisioning.  

    You can’t forget a (dark) towel to put on your bed because things WILL get messy. You can even invest in a “sex blanket” designed to absorb liquids if you’re feeling a little fancy. Doing this will keep you from thinking about the mess. Instead, you’ll be present in the act, not the sheets or the situation.

    7) It’s super intimate

    It feels even better than regular sex- as if being on your period makes everything more sensitive and receptive to touch. Exposure to bodily fluids like blood can create real intimacy; some even believe that period sex is soul-binding with the other person. Soul binding or not, it’s super intimate to be with your partner in such a vulnerable, un-perfect state.

    8) Yes, you can still get pregnant

    Many things come up when people talk about period sex, and something that doesn’t come up enough is that you CAN get pregnant when you’re bleeding. So many people with vaginas have irregular cycles, so if you don’t know exactly when you’re menstruating and ovulating, you CAN get pregnant. 

    9) The Aftercare

    You may need to clean up after sex, especially on heavier flow days. Hopping in the shower after will make you feel the cleanest. Another option, keep a packet of baby wipes on hand for cleanup. Baby wipes are the holy grail for sensitive skin. 

     

    Is there anything you would add to this list? I’d love to hear in the comments below. 

     

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    This post was written for The Pleasure Plus. I’d highly recommend you check out the courses and other services that are offered by Simone Farschi, the founder of the brand. 

     



  • 9 Powerful Foods to Boost Your Sexual Health

    9 Powerful Foods to Boost Your Sexual Health

    Sex coach Simone Farschi, founder of the pleasure plus community has recommended these nine deliciously healthy foods that are good for you and help boost your libido. 

    Here are the top nine powerful foods to feel sexy-

    1) SPINACH: Popeye was right about spinach! Besides building big muscles, eating spinach can help you in a sexy mood by increasing blood flow below the belt. Packed with magnesium, a mineral that increases blood flow leading to crazy good orgasms!

    2) VITAMIN D: D is for desire. An essential part of every sexually healthy person’s diet. You can get vitamin D from both foods, such as mushrooms, egg yolks, fatty fish, etc. 

    3) MACA: boost your libido with this powerful Peruvian plant. MACA has been shown to improve semen production, increase sexual desire, and regulate hormones.

    4) GINSENG: Have you ever tried Ginseng Tea? Red ginseng extracts might be used as alternative medicine in menopausal women to improve their sexual life.

    5) WATERMELON: aka the new Viagra. Watermelon contains a compound called citrulline, which the body converts to arginine. Arginine relaxes blood vessels in the body like Viagra does, ultimately increasing libido. 

    6) ASPARAGUS: rich in vitamin B6 and folate (helps make red blood cells), which can boost arousal and orgasm.

    7) APPLES: regular daily apple consumption can boost sexual pleasure. They can stimulate blood flow to the sex organs, helping with arousal.

    8) CUCUMBERS: these are loaded with vitamin C and manganese, supporting sexual health, elevating energy, and increasing your sex drive.

    9) VITAMIN E: aka the “sex vitamin.” It increases libido and heightens desire. Consume 2 to 3 hours before any sexual activity 😉

     IMPORTANT: Eat at least three of these foods daily: the more, the better. 

     

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  • Is Solo Sex Cheating?

    Is Solo Sex Cheating?

    Is Solo Sex Cheating?

    So, you’ve got a lover—and things are great. 

    But sometimes, you’ve just got to *ahem* take care of yourself. Is this normal? Or maybe you’ve walked in on your lover doing the same thing. That can feel awkward at best and like a betrayal at worst. 

    But is it cause for concern?

    That notion that you’re cheating on your lover by using your vibrator? A total myth. 

    We often interpret our lover’s solo self-pleasure routine to mean that we don’t satisfy them. And that means they must not be attracted to us anymore. Not true!!

    In fact, the opposite is true. 

    The more you reinforce the benefits of self-pleasure as a couple and as individuals while continuing to communicate about your sex life, the better sex you’ll have. Working together to achieve billions of orgasms for everyone is part of the fun of sex in general, right?

    If your or your partner feels insecure because of the other’s self-openly and honestly, this happens to the best of us; it’s best to talk it through. Reassure your lover that it has nothing to do with your feelings for your partner, or your sexual satisfaction. Remember, the journey to endless pleasure starts with open and honest communication.

    Your partner does not like you indulging in self-pleasure without you. Have a conversation about it. Listen to them. It’s the unravelling of all these complex layers where we find hidden gems of intimacy and pleasure. The more you encourage the talk about your individual self-love practices in an open and honest way without judgment or shame, the better it will be for your relationship.

    Self-pleasure isn’t cheating and being partnered up doesn’t constitute ownership anyhow. Whether you’re in a relationship or not, your body is your own. Why do you need someone’s permission to touch yourself? Claim your sexual agency. Take ownership of your body and its needs.

    It simply comes down to a person doing what they want, and it’s an amazing way to love yourself and get in touch with your own energy. Self-pleasure with intention, and really feel yourself. Like with any self-care practice, if you focus on your creativity and positivity, you can use the powerful energy to help you through the day.

    This post first appeared on The Pleasure Plus. Written by yours truly 🙂

    xx

    Yachna

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  • 6- Step Guide To Becoming The Ultimate Sex Goddess

    6- Step Guide To Becoming The Ultimate Sex Goddess

    It’s simple: we as humans were made to want, have, and enjoy sex. 

    Why is it then that most people feel uncomfortable talking about sex or being talked to about sex? Why? Because shame surrounds this taboo topic. We, as a society, are reluctant to accept female sexuality in all its richness and beautiful complexity. 

    Do most people act out their fantasies?

    YOU can be %100 turned on by fantasy and NOT enjoy it in practice: What!?! Many of us like to feel taken, submissive, powerful, dirty, and deceitful, in the bedroom and in our minds with the help of dirty talk, fantasies, and roleplaying– that does not mean we want that Outside the bedroom or even to perform the exact fantasy itself. This can be confusing and cause us not to share our fantasies because we think there is something dark or wrong with us for having these desires. 

    Remember– Whether you act on them or not, taking a closer look at your fantasies can be a healthy way to learn more about yourself, your sexuality, and your partner. Understanding the feeling you want to have in your fantasy- can help you achieve greater intimacy and sexual satisfaction with your partner. Don’t be afraid to explore what your mind is turned on by, and if you can create it in a safe space with a loving partner- GO For it. 

     

    Here are seven steps you can take to step into your authentic sexual power- 

    1) Accept your desires-

    Think:  Can you think of a time when you were shamed for exploring and being curious about your sexuality? Maybe your parents thought sex was immoral, so you had to repress or tone down your sexuality for social acceptance. 

    It took me years to accept that it’s natural and healthy to explore one’s body. For the longest time, I judged myself for having completely normal sexual desires and fantasies, only to later realize the shame and judgement that I internalized did not belong to me. It can be very powerful (and liberating) to learn that your desires aren’t the weird, strange, or unusual things you thought they were. 

     Allow: yourself to experience passionate and intense sexual desires without any judgements and act on that desire through safe and consensual sex. 

    2) Rewrite your sexual story-

    Rewriting your sexual story means looking at your sexual history and looking clearly at the experiences you’ve created and how and why you did that — the painful ones as well as the exciting ones. It’s time to look closely at the beliefs you carry around your sexuality. 

    Ask yourself: how do I define myself as a sexual being? How do I express my sexuality? How do I feel about my body?

     When you work on this step, you give yourself the gift of releasing the parts of it that no longer serve you and rewriting your authentic sexual story.

    3) Embrace and honour your body-

    Love and celebrate your body so you can enjoy it in a way that you forgot you could or didn’t even you could. In doing so, you take your pleasure and power into your hands and build powerful sexual confidence and self-esteem. 

    4) Develop your sexual love language- 

    As you unlearn all the shame and guilt surrounding your sexuality, you’ll notice a powerful shift in your emotional, physical and spiritual energy. Your mind, body, and soul will be in a beautiful alignment in its most authentic power bringing you closer to your sexual love language. 

    5) Create a sacred sexual practice-

     Give yourself the freedom and power to explore and enjoy your sexual needs, desires, and fantasies.  Step into your highest sexual and spiritual power by activating your daily attention to your sexuality and desires. Energy flows where attention goes!

    6) Indulge in self-pleasure

    Put yourself first. Even if you think you’re too busy, schedule solo-pleasure dates, even if it’s just 10 minutes. It’s where we are self-aware and, most of all, self-compassionate. Tidy up your space, and add some candles and flowers. Make a sensual playlist and do whatever is calling to you. 

    Do you suppress your sexual fantasies?

    Thank you, Simone. Pleasure Plus is now offering a FREE Erotic Mediation to get your mind going.

    xx

    Yachna

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  • 9 Powerful Foods For A Gigantic Orgasm

    9 Powerful Foods For A Gigantic Orgasm

    Eating clean and healthy allows the body to perform better on all levels, including sex. Eating food that nourishes our body on a consistent basis literally gives you energy, puts you in a vibrant mood, and boosts sexual performance and pleasure. I’ve always been keen on the idea of foods that boost your libido because you can eat them to elevate your sex life without having to worry about any weird side effects associated with sex-enhancement drugs. Plus, eating right and taking care of your body will just help you feel comfortable in your own skin which means more confidence and pleasure in the bedroom.

    Today, Simone Farschi, a sex and intimacy coach recommends incorporating these nine powerful foods into your diet for a mind-blowing climax. Here goes-

    1) Greens

    Leafy green veggies facilitate the production of the female hormone estrogen. They are also loaded with zinc, which is known for its libido and sperm production qualities in men.

    2) Seeds

    Seeds such as flaxseeds, pumpkin seeds, soybeans, chickpeas, and sunflower seeds etc. are again friends of sexual hormones. These seeds are rich in Omega 3 fatty acids, a drop in which affects hormone levels leading to a plummeting sex drive. Pumpkin seeds are also rich in zinc which is a mineral needed to produce testosterone.

    3) Seafood

    Be it fish or raw oysters, they contain the wonder sex drug in them! It’s also found to boost the hormone dopamine that lights up the brain’s pleasure system. ⠀⠀

    4) Nuts

    All kinds of nuts provide one with energy that’s directly proportional to your stamina while having sex.

    5) Fruits

    All fruits, especially those rich in vitamin C such as pineapples, papayas and strawberries can be vital in sexual gratifications. The body needs vitamin C to keep the sexual organs fine-tuned. Vitamin C increases the number and quality of sperm produced. Not to mention, it makes you taste better 😉

    Fruits such as Bananas are ideal to give you endurance in the bedroom as they are a rich source of vitamin B that converts carbohydrates into energy. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

    6) Spices

    The right kind of spices not only spice up your palette but also your bedroom. “Chilli pepper, red chillies and ginger perk up blood circulation. ⠀⠀⠀

    7) Dark Chocolate

    A natural libido booster! Chocolate contains a chemical called phenethylamine that triggers feelings of relaxation, intoxication, and pleasure. releases mood-boosting, stress-reducing serotonin and stimulates physical contact desires and lowers inhibitions.

    8) Olive Oil

    Orgasm worries in women find an answer in olive oil, which triggers the production of the testosterone hormone.

    9) Garlic

    A wonder sex booster, regular consumption of garlic in food can bring a marked difference in your sexual prowess.

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    This post was originally posted on Pleasure Plus, an online sex education community created by Simone.

    (Featured Photo by Alicia Pitaluga)

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  • The Art of Yoni Steaming.

    The Art of Yoni Steaming.

    The other day I did something incredible that I had never come across before. It’s called Yoni (Vaginal) Steaming. Maybe you have heard of it. Perhaps you haven’t. Yoni is the Sanskrit word for the vagina that translates to “a sacred space.” Beautiful. Isn’t it?

    During the two hours of doing my first Yoni Steaming together (virtually) with Simone, I learnt about the art of deeply caring for your body, your womb space, and that beautiful yoni of yours. It reminded me how essential it was to take the time to sit and cultivate a deeper connection to your feminine wisdom. It was an experience that I didn’t know was so desperately needed in my life.

    Between menstruation, sexual intercourse, and childbirth, the vagina withstands a lot. When you add changing hormones and pelvic floor issues to the mix, sometimes the vaginal area is anything but comfortable. That’s why the ancient practice of yoni steaming is coming back. 

    Below, learn all about this beautiful spiritual ritual to connect deeply with your yoni. Remember, yoni care is self-care. 

    What is Yoni Steaming?

    Yoni steams are a holistic health practice where a woman straddles (sits) over steaming water with a combination of herbs (basically, a warm cup of herbal tea).

    The warmth of the steam softens and opens the pores of the vaginal and vulvar skin. You sit and receive the warmth of the herbal healing steam. Then, the herbs absorb into the skin and uterus, leaving your yoni and you relaxed and rejuvenated from inside out. 

    Stay with me, as we’ll be going over all the juicy details to safely practise this ritual in the comfort of your house. 

    Remember: You never want to steam while you are bleeding. It’s to be done 3 days before your cycle or 3 days after your cycle ends. Or once every week. 

    Herb Blends:

    You can incorporate so many healing herbs in your Yoni Steaming practice, make it your own, and get witchy. The process of creating your own blend in itself is a very soothing ritual and can be a way to step into your sensuality. Incorporating herbs in my yoni steams is one of my favourite things about the ritual, and it really gets me deep into my body. ⠀⠀

    Simone recommended a few of the following healing herbs that I used for my Yoni Steaming-

    1) Lavender 

    You can use the tea bags too! It’s a disinfecting herb. In case you have dampness that causes UTI. It will help clear and dry out the dampness in the uterus. Plus, it’s aromatherapy, and part of the ritual is aromatherapy. 

    2)Rose Petals

    Rose petals are cleansing herb by the Chinese medicine standard. They are blood movers; they will create a movement of blood in the body. This is for somebody who cramps a lot. It’s not suitable for someone who spots/bleeds a lot. 

    3) Nettle

    Also known as birth and kidney tonic. It helps hydrate the body and brings a lot of moisture. It’s a high nutrient and rich in Vitamin B and Iron. As we steam with nettles, it replenishes our bodies with these properties. 

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    Directions For Yoni Steaming At Home

    Tried and tested by Simone at her sex workshops, here are the directions to safely practise yoni steaming at home:

    1) In a medium-sized pot, pour roughly about 8-10 cups of water. 

    2) Boil water in a steam pot soaking your herbs in it. Do not add or use any essential oils, as they are too strong and may burn sensitive genital tissue. 

    3) Bring the water to a boil for about 5 minutes. 

    4) Then, turn off the heat and let the herbs steep for another 5 minutes with the lid on. 

    5) Now, it’s essential to test the temperature of the steam before using it. If it’s too hot, let it sit for 15 seconds and re-test it. Only go ahead if you feel comfortable with the temperature of the steam. 

    6) Pour the water into a pot, and cover the pot with a towel. 

    7) Remove your underwear and straddle above the steaming pot. 

    8) Wrap a large blanket or a wrapping around your waist, making sure no steam escapes. 

    9) You should feel comforting warm heat for about 15 minutes before the steam dies down. 

    During The Steam- You sit and receive the moist warmth of the healing steam. It enters your body directly through your yoni and penetrates to your uterus, pelvis, and even up through a deep central channel connecting to your heart so you can feel better in your body and your life.⠀

    After the steam – “we gift the sacred waters back to a plant or tree to offer out prayers, release our stagnation and gift seeds for growth.”

    Please note: don’t steam for longer than 15 minutes if you have an IUD.

    What To Expect After The Steaming Ritual?

    After a V steam, some may notice more moisture immediately or shortly after steam. This is due to the radiant warmth of the far-infrared heat, which penetrates deeply into the muscles and tissues of the vagina, and increases oxygen flow and circulation to remove impurities and harmful toxins such as cholesterol and heavy metals-much like with a standard sauna treatment.

    The warmth of the steam softens and opens the pores of the vaginal and vulvar skin. You sit and receive the warmth of the herbal healing steam. Then, the herbs absorb into the skin and uterus, leaving your yoni and you relaxed and rejuvenated from inside out. 

    Benefits

    During my session with Simone, she took the time to walk me through a wide range of benefits that Yoni Steaming gives to your body. Here are a few of them:

    1) Helps heal bad cramps/PMS:

    The stream flows into the Vaginal Canal, helping soften and release any stagnation and regulating the uterine lining, therefore relieving camps. 

    2) Helps decrease chances of vaginal infections:

    Infections are a result of left residue from sex, menstrual cycles and stagnation. When the lining is not completely cleared in our cycles, it is like a leftover residue, worsening when we stress the body. 

    Steaming helps clean and clear the uterus of any bacteria or dormant dampness that creates a home for these bacteria. 

    3) Helps with remedying painful intercourse:

    Think of steaming like foreplay; women need 20-40 min to become completely aroused-meaning for our erectile tissue to engorge and thus produce the lubrication and padding around our vaginal canal for repetitive penetration.

    4) Connect to your wisdom and feminity:

    When we spend time intimately in our womb and genitals, we get to know our body, patterns, discomfort, and messages.

     These traditions have been lost to us in the western world. As you steam, you will gain more insight into your body and what you need. 

    5) Promotes restful sleep. 

    6) Assists in creating regular cycles. 

    7) Decreases chance of cysts, fibroids, and endometriosis. 

    Finally, sharing this beautiful message from Simone.

    ” Steaming is a tool that can help release heavy emotions out of the body. When we have a safe space in our own home on our own time to connect and release the damage, pain, memories stored in our body, we can heal. I know this from personally healing the effects of a toxic relationship. When we are with people that dim our light, that have intentions of hurting rather than loving us, and we let them, our energy changes, our self-worth changes. We are incapacitated on many major energetic levels. We frankly don’t want to be sexual or fall into patterns of wanting it from unhealthy partners. That is why Sex healing check-in and tune-ups are essential!⠀⠀⠀

    Thank you, Simone. You can follow her online community, Pleasure Plus for all the juicy and sensual tips.

    Take time this weekend to sit and connect with yourself. Remember, yoni care is self-care!

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    xx

    Yachna

    (Images: Pleasure Plus)